my husband searches chat rooms for women and he has a profile on adult finder web site should i make a big deal of that ... he says iit is never going to turn into anything
2006-09-01 16:30:15 · 19 answers · asked by boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont worry
2006-09-01 16:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Cool !!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
There is some reason he has the need to do this. From my point of view, if he is "searching chat rooms for women" he is looking, looking for something-----maybe he can't identify himself why he is actually doing it, but he is looking. If he were satisfied in his and yours relationship, he wouldn't be looking. No matter how inoccent he claims it is, he is looking for something more than he has with you----your challenge is to find that out in a way that does not put him on the defensive. Whether he realizes it or not, he is taking a first step away from you.
Good luck
2006-09-01 23:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Augie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to find another hobby online.
It could surely turn in to something.
It is very disrespectful of you and his relationship with you.
The sad part is that these women really arn't who they say they are.
He maybe needs to go back to junior high school.
If you give him the ok......and you start doing the same thing he does, then it is a mutual agreement thing. Odd.
But......come on he is an adult and exchanging pictures - Before you know it he will have a camera and start exposing himself to women. Then he will get trapped on dateline and he loses his whole life. Wow what a future
2006-09-02 00:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do the same as your husband but my husband knows sometimes he is in the office with him when I am. And I tell him what I am doing or he will read over my shoulders. We don't hide anything from each other I hope. I have told him that I hope to find us a threesome. So maybe your husband says nothing is going to happen but he wishes it would. But cheating I would say yes if he is not being honest with you. No if you know he is doing it and his intentions.
2006-09-01 23:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is a form of cheating and could lead to the real thing if it hasn't already , there is no reason in the world why he should be exchanging pictures with these people unless they are thinking about meeting , you have every right to make a big deal about it , how would he feel if you were doing it?
2006-09-01 23:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by willow6262 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i'm doing something my partner doesn't approve of, I stop. And if he's doing something I don't approve of, he doesn't do it again. This is the way it should be. It's called having respect and I'm sorry to say this, but your man just doesn't have any. there is something missing in your relationship and he's obviously searching for whatever it is through strangers online. This is not healthy or acceptable behavior and in my opinion, yes, it IS a form of cheating.
2006-09-01 23:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, something is wrong with reaching out to strangers and making new acquaintances without cluing u in . Watch him because this is just the beginning of something more sinister and leads to cheating. Talk to him, confront his a** and put him in check.
2006-09-01 23:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up an account for yourself and try to contact him as the third person. See if you can set up a secret rendezvous with him. If he shows up to meet you then you will suddenly be able to see exactly where this type of thing eventually leads.
2006-09-01 23:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jude Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is, by chatting and exchanging pictures your husband has given away his attention to someone else and not to you which is what he is suppose to be doing. if he is thinking it then he might as well be doing it. cheating is cheating there is no in between here.
2006-09-02 00:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by rick b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is my rule of thumb. Anything that I do that I wouldn't feel comfotable sharing with Marie is wrong... Was he upfront about this or did you find out by accident. It may not be anything... Why don't yall do it togther... He may like the idea... Have fun...
2006-09-01 23:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not cheating but it is still wrong.....he has u so he shouldnt be looking at other women on the computer when he already has one.....he may SAY it wont turn into anything but what if it alredy did and how does he know? he cannot predict the future......
2006-09-01 23:58:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋