Ok, I am a girl (well, young adult woman more like it) same difference, but anyway why why why do some girls be total biotches and treat guys so badly!? My guy friend has just started going through a divorce (her doings, not his) and she can't give him a reason! He's so nice! I don't understand why girls/women can't figure out that love is about mututal respect and trusting one another! Sorry, now I'm drunk-happy-rambling. What do the rest of you think? Am I wrong here? I know there are some slezy men out there, but there are some scandalous girls to go along with em. I would do anything in the whole world for my husband. So why do some girls just give up and don't even try?
2006-09-01 16:02:19 · 35 answers · asked by SadToday22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
for the same reason most men treat them like dirt....treat them like a queen, and you will be treated like a king...I promise....unless she is just a bit*ch....and there are some of those out there......
2006-09-01 16:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question of "Why do some girls just give up and not try", I'm going to tell you something very personal...
I was once one of "those" girls. I could never treat a boyfriend well. The nicer he was, the meaner I was. Then I met the man I was going to spend to the rest of my life with, I didn't know that at the time, but here I am.
He was always so good to me. His family was so good to me, and I was mean to them too,b.t.w. I did everything I possibly could to drive him away and the moment I reached success, I wanted him back. And being the good person he was, he took me back everytime and then the whole process would start over again.
You see, I came from a place where there was no such thing as "unconditional love". There was always a catch. And looking back on it now, I think I was trying to find that point in him where I could say , "Aha! I knew it! I knew you would eventually hurt me!" I was always living my life with the mentality of , "I'll get him before he can get me.", because I had no trust. The people I was suppossed to be able to trust always seemed to be the people that were hurting me, so that made relationships incredibly difficult for me.
Fortunatly for me, he knew my circumstances and I think on some level he understood what I was doing and that's why he was so patient and forgiving. I'm very happy to say that I have overcame this problem, but it took me/us years and I still have my moments of insecurity.
Now, I can't say that my situation would fit "everyone's" situation, but it's something to consider before you just write these women off as beetches.
I'm one of the lucky ones. I had people trying to save me ...from myself, and I'll be forever grateful that they didn't give up on me.
Sometimes we don't want to be rescued because it would be more painful to give up a found happiness than to just live with the pain we've always known. I hope your friend finds new happiness and is able to hold his ability to trust.
2006-09-01 16:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by gypsie_soul06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you! But usually I am wondering why there are some guys out there that do the same thing! I guess these people deserve EACHOTHER in the end, am I right? Tell your friend that I am sorry for what he is going through, but he can do much better! There are some of us out there that would treat a guy like a king!
2006-09-01 16:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by prairiefire_14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't we say we are some people stupid as it isn't all women or all men? I think that people need to take their time when picking out a life partner, it is not just love or lust. Sounds like you only know part of this story and that his wife it very immature. Sometimes we only know one side and jump to conclusions. I would tell your friend that he can suggest counseling or whatever he can do the work on things but if she wants to leave then he needs to take time and figure out what he wants before getting re involved and really get to know someone well,e.g. their morals, heart, religion, point of views on everything from having children to family and especially there quirks and finally not to try to change someone except them for who they are !
2006-09-01 16:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question. I would have to say that the majority of the female and male species just don't fit together and unfortunately only very few of us get luck and find our perfect match even if it is our third, fourth, or fifth marriage but that is just how it happens. Just be glad that your friend is a live and no longer with his wife soon to be ex wife and help him through this rough time because you know even though you talk bad about his ex he may be offended deep down in side. Oh, and don't play match maker let him have his time to recoup.
2006-09-01 16:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dissing on all of us became that women let your friend. their was probably a really good reason why she divorce him in first place. he may seem like this great guy in front of you. but at home he may be another person. he probably has a bad side you just do not know that. because do not live with him try living with him to find out why she divorced him then you will know. and what kind of person he really is to see for self if really is this great guy you say he is.
2006-09-01 16:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here we go again with the name calling. As though all us females did your friend wrong. I guess all blacks are stupid because some of them commit crimes, while there are just as many white people doing the same deeds.
Some people simply have no morals. That's just as bad as saying "all men are pigs" when I know they're not.
2006-09-01 16:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because girls (most of them) are self-obsessed attention whores. They need attention, and if they don't get it, then they become super woman's rights advocate girls and pound men into the ground until they just can't take it anymore. This gives them more attention, so they're happy. They repeat this to get even happier.
2006-09-01 16:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by Caribbean Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I think that a lot of men need to be a little bit more assertive. It seems like men are either aggressive or passive, but being assertive is really the best approach.
2006-09-01 16:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by Clean Independent Energy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right - kind of, but you were not involved in their marriage - I mean, it wasn't you he was married to - so you don't know everything. There is always two sides to a story. I know its your friend and its good that your supportive but I'm sure he's no angel either. People get taken advantage of. Men and women alike. Its a shame, but it happens!
2006-09-01 16:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause all women are Hookers... If they are not getting what they want, Money, Jewles, Cars and a Life they execpt for sex they leave and go on to the next poor sap. You do not hear to offen a women taking a man out to by him stuff. But they want equal rights!!! Yeah... Only when it benefits them.
2006-09-01 16:07:04 · answer #11 · answered by Lime 1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋