i hated it, going there to see her. how do i act tomorrow? she's in a Half way house now. i know she's going to question why i didn't come see her, but i just couldn't see her that way. it was drug charges...i warned her over and over she was gonna get in trouble, and now, i don't know how to act....i'm nervous...what would you guys do? how would you act. she's 60 now.
2006-09-01 15:53:18 · 13 answers · asked by Michael 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Tell her that you couldn't stand seeing her in that way. Your not alone. People feel like that. Tell her you love her but just couldn't bring yourself to do it. Just talk about kids or how she feels,If she is happy. What is she going to do now. Small talk and take it from there. I'll be thinking about it and try not to stress it.
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2006-09-01 16:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your mom and you love her.
She loves you. Have lots of stuff
ready to tell her and ask her.
Nothing that pertains to your lack
of visits while she was in lock down.
She understands.
The truth always works in the long run.
Don't forget that as long as you live.
Your mom made the mistake, not you.
Hopefully she has learned from it.
She caused you to suffer too, from
her selfish drug habit. She feels guilty
if she hasn't burnt up her brain.
Let her talk and you listen, maybe
she will let you talk and she will listen.
Write out a list of stuff you want to
tell her about. Just take a piece of
paper and write key words or
sentences to remind you of all
the stuff you want to tell her and ask her.
Your School.
Your friends.
Relatives.
The town you live in.
Her (nice) friends.
Local news.
Your home.
Her time and how she spends it.
If she is studying anything.
If she has made any friends.
If she will be happy to get home.
What her plans are for after she comes home.
The job opportunity program if there is one.
What you can do to help her transition.
Just jot stuff down as you think of it.
Be sure to tell her that you love her and you look forward to her coming back home and you have missed her and had a real hard time with no mom.
2006-09-01 16:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by NANCY K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There needs to be someone there with you, on your behalf. I would go, be firm but loving and forgiving. You have a LOT to deal with. Be as open as possible, I doubt this has been fun for her. Let all your emotions out, I wouldnt hide anything I was feeling . There are years of emotions backed up inside of you, so it is very normal to be scared or not sure what to do. She is probably wandering the same thing you are right now. And if shes in a half way house, she may not be stable enough to comprehend everything you have to say. So be prepared to get a little frustrated.
2006-09-01 16:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by rock 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are the typical child of a drug addict, feeling guilty for something that isn't your fault. My mom is a recovering heroin addict, and my dad is a crackhead. I can get along with my mom now that I'm an adult, she was a terrible mother, but she is clean now, so I was able to forgive her. My dad is still a trash-can junkie, taking whatever substances he can find. He is 54 now, and nothing's changed. I have made the choice to cut him out of my life, a choice I made when he came to my house high with a beer in his hand, calling me names in front of my daughter. The question is not if your mom can forgive you, it's if you can forgive your mom. If she is really sober, and wants to change, forgive her and don't bring up the past. Relax. If she tries to make you feel guilty for not seeing her, tell her you couldn't stand seeing her that way, you missed her too much, you love her, and you're sorry,and that should be the end of it. If she continues to lay guilt trips on you, maybe she's still in that user mentality, and that wouldn't be healthy for you. I hope, for your sake, your mother has changed, but either way, this is an issue for your mother to apologize for, not you. Please remember that.
2006-09-01 16:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki Lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It had been a while since I saw my Dad. I had not had any communication with him for 3 years.When I saw him again he was just glad that I was OK.And I guess not to make me uncomfortable he never did ask me why I never called.Maybe your Mom will do the same.Anyway try not to judge her for what she did.She's done her time. Instead think about the future with her around.She's the only Mom you've got.Good Luck!
2006-09-01 16:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by mobilmen59 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it one step at a time, going to jail has given her a lot of time to think of the past, she has given her life a great deal of thought.
Perhaps the best thing to do is to listen to what she has to say and keep any negative thoughts out of the conversation. Time will tell if she has decided to stay clean and sober.
Best of luck.
2006-09-01 16:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by sideways 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain, that you couldn't handle seeing her in such a terrible state. Tell her how it hurt not having her around, but you couldn't have bad feelings for her. Seeing her like that was too hard to handle. You needed her, but not when she gave you bad influence.
2006-09-01 16:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's hard. If she asks just tell her the truth. If she's been in prison she has heard all kinds of stuff, so she should be able to take whatever you say.
2006-09-01 16:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by sue-sue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
act normal, say there is nothing to explain, and move on to the next level, be happy with her let her forget the past.
2006-09-01 16:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her you were sorry but that you couldnt afford to see her the way she was because you just love her too much. make sure to show her how much you lover her and if you dont love her then dont telll her anything yet.
2006-09-01 15:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by miamiluvr 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋