Part II: Interracial dating....Black women with *men?

Question

Ok, many of you had some value added responses to my previous question . But most didnt really answer it. I really didn't ask if I should consider an interracial relationship. Nor did I make any comments about the perceived inadequacy of black men. What I am looking to gain insight into is how to make the interracial thing happen with out being race conscious when I don't see any available non black men during my daily routine or even when I go out. I welcome your reponses to the posed question.

Answer 1

The basis for ANY lasting relationship is a similar world view. Pursue your interests, and you will come into contact with people who share them. How a person looks is what draws ones attention, but it is their thoughts and character that count in the long run. Only you can determine which men you are attracted to, and I wish you all the luck in the world in finding what you want.

Answer 2

Well, you seem to care more about your partner's race than he probably would. Think of the partners you've had. Were you aware of whether they were left-handed or right-handed? Did you know or care if some of them was an adopted child? Or atheist? Or what party did they vote in the last elections? Did you make a fuzz about what their favourite colour was? Did a relationship not work because you were taller than him? Or because you were thinner? Did you ever stop to wonder what day of the week they were born?

You see, you only pay attention to what you think is worth that attention. There are millions of ways to classify people, and only some of them are relevant. The other ones, you're blind to, because you don't mind them. A human being is a human being, no matter what. And it's not by their personal characteristics that you have to judge them. It's by what they do out of those personal characteristics.

So, how do you make ANY relationship happen? First, stop caring about the differences. I've seen a girl turn down a possible date, just because she didn't like his voice! Now, that's stupid, but it's the exact same mechanism as the one that's at stake when you are race conscious.

I know you cannot just pretend you don't care any more about it, because that would actually be only pretending. You've got to work it out. You'll stop thinking about it, only when you stop caring about it. And only then, you can really consider dating outside your race.

BTW, I was thinking that some people might call sex one of those things you care about because you're too conscious about it. And that bisexuality should be the most unprejudiced way to be. Well, I haven't gone so far. I don't mind homosexuality, but I'm rather biased in that MY partner has got to be a woman, lol.

Answer 3

i have a bone to pick with u. if you aren't considering an interracial relationship then, why are u even posing this question?

u must be racist to insist race is not a factor in your little comment to us i.e. from looking at the example when u wrote, "...without being race conscious..." to hell if u aint, sweetheart. why should it even matter how someone feels the way in which they do while interracial dating? what others think shouldn't even matter. who cares? society? please. if going to different parts of town or to places where non blacks venture out u should find yourself there if that's what u want to do. i bet u know where they all hang out. make a conscious note about being there where ever they are these non blacks u speak of and u may get lucky with so someone who is available.

Answer 4

what's it the Bible says ? ' yet I say unto you, that whosoever seems on a woman to lust after her has dedicated adultery along with her already in his heart ' ? Or, does not everybody have faith what this e book has to declare, anymore ? additionally, isn't finding the comparable element as lusting ? If not, then what the hell's the version ? Say what you like, yet once you're finding, you're finding for a reason, and that i think of all of us understand what that reason is. even with each and every thing, while you're in a dedicated relationship wherein your ' desires ' are being met, then you definitely shouldn't sense any might desire to look someplace else. it is one, if not the main considerable rationalization why there are such rather some have faith matters in marriages in the present day. ( in simple terms my opinion ).

Answer 5

I am currently dating a pueto rican man. I don't see race in him. I see a man how will do more for me than other men I have dated. We communicate well together and have many things we talk about. We don't care what other people think. Its want we think about each other and our feelings that matter.

Don't think about others and their narrow view on the world. If you find yourself having the same view. Remember this a man is a man despite is race. And if you feel him and he's feeling you go for it.

Answer 6

I don't really belive in interracial datin'. My mom (a white) is datin' a black and I can't really say anything to her cause shes my mom. It's like you don't see a blue jay bird interbreeding with a red cardnal. The blue jays stay wtih the blue jays and the red cardnals stay wtih the red cardnal. No I'm not racist. If god meant for there to be all one race then he would have just made one race.

Answer 7

I believe that you should explore your racial bias. I once messed up a good thing with a guy who looked an awful lot like a young Billy Dee Williams, had ambition and a nice family. I could not overcome my prejudice. He had a lot of beautiful women around him of all races, but when he would see me. the others would disappear. I should have taken the chance, but ugly prejudice got in the way.