For me, today something finally clicked. I'm no longer angry at my soon to be ex-husband. I have accepted that we live in completely different worlds that have completely seperate circumstances, codes of behavior and rules. It is completely irrelevant if I think his world is wrong or immoral. One day he MAY see things as I do, but more likely, he will find other people who share his world. Either way, in order for me to be happy, I cannot live in his world. Major A-ha! Moment. Anyone else want to share a positive (key word) relevation? What is your story?
2006-09-01 15:41:26 · 9 answers · asked by amyaliceco 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i had a hard time getting over my divorce,not the dude, just the word in itself... i thought marriage was to be forever and was soooooo worried about God's forgiveness.... i talked to the pastor's wife about it and she put me up on game---- it's just another sin and God forgives all but the unpardonable one; that revelation relieved ten pounds of stress- no lie!
2006-09-01 15:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After trying to keep my relationship together for 14+ years, it is finally time to move on. I will not go back this time and live in the fantasy world that he will change and I will change the way he wants me to be. I am who I am. Couples who loved each other can grow apart and change and if it is not positive it is best to move on as I am.
2006-09-01 17:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by jpet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 me it was shortly before my breakup with my ex husband of 11 years. I relized that I was an enabler. I allowed him 2 treat me the way he did, I allowed him 2 act the way he did, I created the hell that I was in by allowing it 2 happen.
once that clicked it was easy 4 me 2 learn 2 stop enabling u cannot allow urself 2 enable another 2 have control over ur life u must enable urself 2 control it urself.
2006-09-01 15:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to answer one way, but it's going to be different. I grew up with my dad watching cartoons with me on saturday morning. Watching the 3 stooges, 'the fat and the skinny' teams of comedians. Him talking to strangers... being himself. Well I'm that way too, but a woman version. I haven't gotten where you are yet, but I want to. My husband 'matured' into a conservative, selfish person, but I refuse to go there. I only want someone who wants ME.. not to end up trying to change me. It took me half my life to come to terms with my personality, and the next quarter trying to convince everyone that if they can be the way that THEY are, then I can be too and I LIKE IT! Now I've spent the last quarter suffering guilt of wanting to leave my husband and what I'd 'lose' something that I'm not aware of because of 'the unknown'. I'm just very scared. I feel like a failure in my marriage though I know it's not my fault.. I and that is the NEXT thing that I still have to reveal in myself.. to myself. More of my inner strength. Thanks for your ear.
2006-09-01 16:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had spend 15 years of my life with some one in the EAST COAST, and we separated because differences, at the time in maturity level, and the fact that we could not agree on how to SCREW A LITE BULB. so after five years apart, i call her, and we
spent hours on the phone.. and ever since that day, we kept in touch(mean while i move to the WEST COAST, met a beautiful young woman, we got married(never thought that an old man like me, some one who like to drink JAMAICAN RUM, would get married.) so this woman in the east coast, has become my best friend.. AFTER ALL I GIVE HER MY TWO DOGS WHEN I WAS TRAVELING ALTO..) she has invited me and my wife to come and visit, the DOGS.. I'M VERY AFRAID, NERVOUS, HAVING anxiety attacks.. about this..sorry for the overwhelming blabber.
2006-09-01 15:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by litehmusicdj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I finally learned that if God can forgive us, we should be able to forgive ourselves.
I did some things in my youth that were beyond my code of right & wrong. Years later, I kept beating myself up about it.... After some well-guided discussions over a period of time, I started to see that past really is past.
2006-09-01 15:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My revelation has yet to come. I am still very angry at my ex. At myself as well. I think maybe with time it will come.
2006-09-05 15:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to know that you have found some peace of mind in this matter.
2006-09-01 16:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That no matter how many people die in your family, life must go on...
2006-09-01 16:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋