ive liked my best friend for almost 3 years. im afraid to tell him cause it could wreck our friendship. do i tell him, or let it rip me up inside for the rest of my dear lovin' life?!?!!
2006-09-01 15:36:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dont tell him you love him, but take the chance and ask him out. You never know what could happen, but nothing could go wrong, expecially since he is your best friend. If you guys go out, and it doesn't work out as well as you thought it would, dont fret, you guys will still be friends, because you know how it felt before you tried to have a relationship. If your relationship goes so far, where its time to tell him you love him, like when you know he most likely does to, then tell him. It's gotta be at the most perfect moment though. Like when you guys are in bed together laying next to each other gazing into each others eyes. YA! that would be the perfect moment. YEP YEP :)
2006-09-01 15:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by aim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should go for it, and tell him if he doesn't feel the same way you stillt ry being friends and forget about the awkwardness. I liked my best friend for a long time but I never told him because I didn't want to ruin our friendship. So whenever I felt like he was going to ask me out I would drag over our other friends and use them as a shield. Now he moved and all I can think about is that we can never have a chance together because I was afraid of telling him how I felt.
PLUS! Usually best friends end up being your perfect match.
2006-09-01 15:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that no matter what you do you are going to feel crappy. Go for it, tell him what is the worst that can happen right. If you have been friends for 3 years than you friendship could go through something like that is it doesn't work out. have fun!
2006-09-01 15:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard this scenario before and it kinda baffles me that he wouldn't atleast have some clue of your feelings already. I mean, doesn't it show??? And this is your best friend, right??
My guess is that you know the answer already.
I can see you like the drama that comes with this scenario. I don't think you really would hold it in much longer. My guess is that you were planning on doing something soon anyway.
I hope it works for you. Only you know the answer.
2006-09-01 15:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, here's what:
You've been close friends with this guy for years, right? So presumably you've seen him date or have some kind of romantic attachments to other people. So, in your experience, what kind of boyfriend does he look like? Has he usually started really sweet to girls and then kind of flaked out on 'em? Has he gotten way attached too fast, or held himself back and refused to get very attached?
Bottom line: If he's been a terrific friend, should you give that up for someone who might only be able to be a so-so boyfriend?
And please, PUH-LEEZE, don't pull that "Oh, but he'd be different with me," crap on yourself. No, he wouldn't. Would not. WOULD NOT!
2006-09-01 15:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by hquin_tset 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of the muse of all loving relationships is honesty. i think of you're very fortunate to have actually fallen in love with your "maximum suitable pal." i think of it is what maximum folk might desire. somebody you at the instant are not purely emotionally intimate with, and believe already...yet in addition now, you could develop that love and believe to a actual relationship. it is your maximum suitable pal so i think of you could tell him the way you sense immediately, and easily. If it appears that evidently various those "indications" are incorrect or misread via you, you will nonetheless have a maximum suitable pal. He has already advised you he's gay so it is not as though he is going to reject you for being gay. look this is tough for the terror of being rejected via somebody you're already in love with yet you be responsive to what's declared: not something ventured, not something gained. sturdy success!
2016-10-01 04:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on to your friendship. If he liked you as a girlfriend, he'd have already made the first move (guys tend to do that). Hang in there, flirt with him from time-to-time, and see what happens.
2006-09-01 15:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. Best friends make wonderful husbands. It is worth a shot. You don't want to spend the est of you life wondering what could have been. GO FOR IT!!!!
2006-09-01 15:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Prissy_kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know what to tell you. If I were you, I would be scared to ruin the friendship. I mean if he is really close to you friend wise, it might ruin it if he doesn't feel the same way.
2006-09-01 15:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by CrazyChica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to Prissy Kitty. Tomorrow she is going to sleep with her best friend's husband. I wouldn't take advice about friends from someone who treats her own friends like that.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=An060IFJKE0QwxreZGEPMIzsy6IX?qid=20060901193334AAOPt13
hmmmm I guess she decided it wasn't smart to admit that. It's deleted now
2006-09-01 15:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋