a well-to-do close friend is going to invite me to her child's "coming of age" religious/ceremony n party. It's a big, v grand affair. I dislike such socials n always avoid going. The last time I managed to give some good "excuse" (she was v disappointed) but now can't find one. what shall I do ........ I don't want to offend her, she's a very close friend
2006-09-01 15:15:58 · 15 answers · asked by PikC 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Other - Entertainment
I always use the family member or friend to the airport excuse.
2006-09-01 15:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by Matt J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since she's such a good friend you should really go but just leave early. She won't be disappointed and you won't feel bad if you didn't go. You can probably think of a good excuse for leaving early...don't feel good, have a date, work the next day...early, etc..
2006-09-01 22:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Janet lw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do things that they don't necessarily enjoy doing for the sake of being a good friend. If you are really that terrified of getting dressed up and eating free food be honest with your friend. Would you want her to lie to you just to spare your feelings? Are you really that close if she doesn't already know how uncomfortable these things make you?
2006-09-01 22:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, tell her crowds give you the willies. If she's very close, she will understand if you decline graciously. If it's appropriate, send a gift and offer to take her and her daughter to a nice lunch. That way, she'll know that you want to celebrate the event and aren't just blowing the whole thing off.
2006-09-01 22:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by shycello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the straight up truth - that you are a social recluse and feel uncomfortable around people especially if you don't know them or they are doing something you don't understand. They should understand. Or maybe it's time to do those things and develop some skills that are necessary and help out a friend.
2006-09-01 22:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is a very close friend, then you should put your own feelings aside and go. Who knows? You could even end up enjoying yourself.
2006-09-01 22:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just actually go.
And apreciate your life and friends more and the fact ur being invited anywhere.
if you don't like the people pushing their religion
on you aspect. then get over that and join them.
(p.s. I'm Not Religious myself)
2006-09-01 22:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Spaghetti MY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a very close friend, then sometimes we have to grin and bear it.
Just go and stay for only a little while.
2006-09-01 22:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by LLK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her you have a doctor's appointment and you could come for a little while. So then you go for like 20 min and leave.
2006-09-01 22:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Max B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go and leave after ten minutes to show your face...or just buy a very nice gift that will take the place of you being there..good luck
2006-09-01 23:20:14 · answer #10 · answered by minnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋