i am married?

Question

i have a bad narriage,he sleeps with who ever.......should i?or should i do it to make a apoint or just for get it,and be married?what would u do?

we sleep in different beds & in different rooms also..we havent did any thing in also 7 years.

Answer 1

Leave. He will eventually get one or more of those terrible diseases, and then give them to you.

Answer 2

I Am Messing Around With A 54 Year Old Married Man
And I Am 20 Years Old. I Been Messing Around With Him
Since Last September 2005. He Has A Son Who Is 20 And
He Is My Friend And A Daughter Who Is 17 And His
Daughter Caught Us Having Sex Once Before But She
Did Not Say Nothing To Nobody Because She Has Autistic
And She Has A Mind Of A 6 Year Old. This Married Man
Wants To Leave His Wife And Marry Me... But I Do Not
Know If He Will Leave His Wife Of 21 Years! The Sex
Is Good And He Always Said I Love You To Me All The
Time And I Do Not Know What To Do. But I Love Him!
We Never Use Protection But He Pulls Out And
Ejaculate On My Stomach! We Have Had Sex In Werid
Places! Nobody Knows About This Relationship And He
Plans On Getting A Divorced From His Wife When His
Daughter Turns 18! He Already Asked His Wife For A
Divorce But She Say Things Will Work Out And He Thinks
Things Won't Work Out! This Relationship Between Me
And Him Started When I Went Over There And Fixed His
Computer And I Saw Porn On His Computer And Then I Ask
Him About It On-Line And He Said It Was His And We
Started Messing Around And Other Stuff!!! His Wife
Is Going To Court In September To Gain Full Rights
Over Their Daughter!!!!!

What Would You Do?

Answer 3

Sweetie, I think your marriage is basically over and you really should work towards getting a divorce. This isn't healthy for you at all, and you deserve much, much better. Divorce is hard, but staying in something that is basically loveless (and with a partner that doesn't respect you) is a waste of your life energy. Life is simply too short, really. So don't resort to game playing and take the high road by taking care of yourself and getting out.

I have been there and leaving was the best thing I ever did. That was 12 years ago and I am happily married for the first time to my second husband. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Answer 4

I can not tell you what to do . But, I can tell you what I would do. 1 when was the last time you had sex? Please don't say 7 years ago! When the first year came by and he didn't give me none. It was over then. You then put yourself in a situation and he feels that he don't have to have sex with you anymore. 2 do you work or have any money? It sounds as if you are depending on him for something. 3 are there any small children involved? If not evaluate yourself and find out why you went on with this all these years. Only you would know the answer to this. I hope you figure it out.

Answer 5

There is no way I would be with a man who was a cheater. Point blank! Somewhere down the line you allowed him to treat you like a doormat. If you really dont like it, then yes, bail out and get a divorce. You will need some serious counceling if you really want to change, otherwise it will be the same thing all over again with just a different man. Open your eyes from the beginning and state what you will and will not accept! Stick to it. YOU are the problem, not him.

Answer 6

Well it sounds like you do need to just forget it; where is your self esteem girl!? I would just leave him (before he gives you AIDS or some other STD)

I would not advise you to just stay, your marriage evidently doesn't mean much to your husband or he wouldn't treat you like this.

There is a man out in the world that would treat you with love and respect; you'll never find him if you're still in this disfunctional relationship.

You need to love yourself before someone else can love you. So take a little time and get to know yourself again then pamper yourself because you deserve that

Then start your life down a new and better road

Answer 7

How old are the both of you? Seems to me the vows were not taken seriously. Maybe a bit of counseling would help. Two wrongs do not make one right. Sleeping around to pay him back will not fix things and might even give you a disease. You might want to see if you can talk things through and worth this marriage if not, cheating is not the way to go.

Answer 8

Sounds like you two have some serious issues that need immediate attention. I've said it before, I'll say it again. I don't condone divorce. Get some professional counseling or a mediator. Use divorcce only as a last option. Hopefully you don't have any children involved in the situation.

Answer 9

i don't think you should but if you are experiencing a bad marriage contact a marriage counselor and arrange an appointment with them which you both have to attend and ensure he attends an appointment at std clinic if he does not agree with this it is obvious he does not love you and you should leave and find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. (but have some alone time first to figure out what you really want). If he agrees to visit the counsellor and std clinic he wants to try and make a go of things and you may sort things out but i warn you now it is easy to forgive but it is very difficult to forget

Answer 10

marriage is all about love... and if you love someone then you wouldn't hurt them... and thats exactly what he's doing. That seems more of a high school relationship. Anyone who is cheated on is so much better than the cheater. DIVORCE! It may be hard at first because yall have been there together but it'll get better and easier!

Answer 11

Forget the " making a point ". By so doing you would only lower yourself to his standards. You deserve better treatment. Have you had a conversation with him about his sleeping around? Tell the bum that you won't tolerate that sort of thing any longer, if he keeps doing the same thing, leave and don't look back.