Some of my friends have suggested I open my self up to dating non black men. I have always resisted because I don't encounter the type that I think would be into me. I am well educated, fit, financially healthy and employed. Non Black men (specifically those over 30): Would you consider seriously dating/marrying a Black woman? If so, what would you look for?
2006-09-01 15:11:13 · 19 answers · asked by Ruff_and_stuff 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Race should not be a consideration in your search for a soulmate. Don't limited your options and if it happens it happens. You'll know when it does.
2006-09-01 15:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by Nefarious Eyes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I worked with a black woman who was an RN and married to a white man. They dated in high school and this is in Louisiana. They had 4 children. Three looked white and one looked like her. She was a smart woman. They had a good marriage. If a guy is white and your equal why not look into dating that person. I do not think that color has much to do as to how you get along. Marriage is about helping each other out through life, and enjoying life together. I have seen other interracial marriages. Different parts of the country lean toward that. In Oregon I was beginning to think that black people did not go out or marry black people because all the couples I saw were black and white. Are you in an area where that does not happen as much. Now a days in different areas of the country people just do not think about it any more like they use to. So go for it. Just be sure you are going out with your equal financially and intellectually. I would do a credit check on any man I thought about marrying and also do a marital contract. Those have been done in my husbands family since the 1600's. You do not want any man to take you down financially if anything goes wrong. Especially if he has been married before. I would look for some one not married before and who is not responsible for a but load of children.
2006-09-01 22:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am the type of person to say what ever makes you happy you should go with. I didn't listen to my heart and ended up being miserable. At the time I thought I needed to have a relationship with my dad more than I needed a relationship with a man. I now look back and reflect on what could have been and i kick my butt everyday.
2006-09-01 22:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly the same things I am looking for in a white woman, i.e.: companionship, understanding, an interest in some of the same things I care for, similar values, and above all, a good person. Of course, a nice figure would add up...
BTW, by "companionship" and "understanding" I mean mutual, not just being accompanied and understood but providing the same thing to her...
2006-09-01 22:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had - many black women were attracted to me back in the day because of looks, intelligence, potential for success (and I was attracted to them for the exact same reasons). In my younger days, I was a little closed minded due to how I was raised - I remained Orthodox Christian but I was afraid to explore my sensual side.
Now I'm on probation. Dating black women would be my #2 regret after not treating my mental illness sooner. Sigh, Maybe I wasn't that hot after all....
2006-09-01 22:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If only dating black men hasn't worked out, try dating in "colour blind" fashion. Maori men are really hot! Asian men are really cool!
My own story is that I (American Indian, Spanish, Irish) always went for shorter, dark-haired, dark-eyed, Spanish, Italian, or Mexican men...........the love of my life is the man I took a chance on, taller, red-haired, Scottish/Swedish mix. We're getting married soon.
Take a chance, you may find the love of your life. My mum says people are like shoes -- everybody has a mate somewhere.
2006-09-01 22:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by Deb 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure, I'm a white man and I've dated black, Asian, and Latina women. Race doesn't matter to me unless the woman is hung up on it--then I just don't call her back.
2006-09-01 22:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love dating not only inside my race but outside my race as well. THe old cliche Variety is the spice of life rings very true to me. Don't let the color of skin stop you from loving someone
2006-09-01 22:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a few interracial relationships. If you don't feel comfortable then don't go into it. Date men that you want and who knowsa you may end up marrying one of them!
2006-09-01 22:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by winnie e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not, the color of a persons skin doesn't matter, it's what is on the inside that's important.I want a woman that's willing to be a friend, partner, lover. one that is happy and whitty and loves Jesus
2006-09-01 22:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by xjoizey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋