do i tell him or have someone else?

Question

I have a major crush on this guy named Jake but thr thing is I want him to know and not know. He sits in front of me in math and there are two people and a walkway between us in science. He's on the football team and he's in choir. And I really don't think he likes me. Should i dropp hints and what kind or should i have someone tell him cause i could never tell him.

Answer 1

Start talking to him kind of privately.
Go up to him when no one else is around. Ask him to come over some night to hang out with you see what he says.

Answer 2

Start conversing with him even about nothing at all. Like you want to be-friend him. You don't want to seem cheap to him, do you? I don't like women dropping hints because they would seem cheap to me.

He sits in front of you in Math: if you have an assignment, ask him if he has done his and see if you could compare your answers with his... or something that's related to the subject. And since you're classmates again in Science, I think there's nothing wrong if you'd walk across to him and ask about something that's related to the subject. You know, that's when you begin conversing with him. Then later mention to him about watching him in the game and appreciate his efforts in the field; or perhaps congratulate him for his "good" voice in the choir.

Then later again, ask him questions about himself, like his birthday or how often does he browse the internet or does he even chat in chatrooms... then maybe you could ask for his email address. You can probably say through emails the things you can't say in person. But don't move too fast; rather, observe him closely for his responses. The next moves will be easy for you to determine then. Remember, getting close to him is your initial goal. You get him easily, you're dumped easily too.

Answer 3

OK, you are interested but could he be a good friend: If he's smart enough, tap him on the shoulder and nicely ask him how he solved a particular problem or did he have any trouble with it. Pay attention to how he responds. You have to break the ice somehow. If he doesn't show any interest in talking, then you'll know -- forget about him. If he's friendly and nice, then you might try talking about other stuff outside of class.

Answer 4

Why don;t you just try talking to him. About the homework, about things you would have in common and see where he goes from there. You may decide he's not so cool, find out he's got a serious girlfriend. Basically, any great relationship starts as a friendship, creates intimacy (and I'm not talking sex there - respect and trust) and then builds into more. If you don't have trust you have nothing.

Answer 5

ahhh tell him yourself. Hindsight is 20/20. You will look back and regret it if you don't. If he doesn't like you, TRUST me on this: In 5 years, it won't matter. I know it will seem like the end of the world, but if I could fast forward you to 5 years or so from now, you will see how highschool is really just a small paragraph in your book of your life. I know you are thinking " no, I'm different than you. Highschool might not have been important to you, but I'll just die if he rejects me." Trust me I had the same thoughts. But you will see. No matter what, enjoy it because it really will be one of the most fun times of you life!!!

Answer 6

"Gosh rebecca_colee, it's hard to give difinitive proofs about many "techniques" I still remember back to about your age.
One, I remember pretty well, is based upon "implied recognition."
It means you pick your time and position to stare at him just a little too long, then, look away. One time probably won't do it so try it a second time if he doesn't respond to the first try. If he doesn't get the hint of your affection by the second try, then he isn't a fast thinker because he doesn't get the hint. He would, probably, be inappropriate for you."

Answer 7

No, dont have someone else tell him. First you need to scope him out and find out his whole routine, where he walks to and from class and where his locker is and all that. Then you need to make yourself visible. Go to the football games, really check him out. Then be yourself and put on a great smile and try to get him to notice you. Then maybe after you watch one of his games, you can casually with a friend go up to him and comment on how good he was. Somthing like that might work.

Best of luck dear!

Annette

Answer 8

For years and years men have been asked to be more sensitive and girlishly sweet. This goes against the very grain of manhood, we men have to deal with the harsh and tough realities everyday, from fighting for our country, to sacrificing for our families.
Men have become boys, because girls say that is what they want, men have changed and as you grow older you will discover a real man is what you want.
So the answer is tell him. He is so busy being sensitive that it has become the responsibility of a woman to be the man.

Answer 9

Walk up to him and say these words, "Hey, want to hang out this weekend?" If he says, "Yes", you'll know you have a shot.

If he says ANYTHING else, you say something like, "Well, maybe some other time then," walk away, and don't look back. He's probably not interested, but, if he is, he'll take the next step.

Answer 10

Do not drop hints or get someone else to tell him, that's so pathetic. Be different, in a nice way, if he's interested you'll soon get to know, if he isn't don't embarrass yourself, guys hate girls like that and only use them for one thing !