What advice would you like to give to young people basing on your experience?

Question

regarding things to be avoided in life to make life happy .

Answer 1

if you don't like to worry don't have kids for a long time. (one here)

Answer 2

Things to Avoid in Life

I am really having a hard time answering this question, it is easy to tell someone what to avoid, but I don't understand how you would ever learn anything without Life Experiences.

If I was to tell you what I have been involved with throughout my years, You would think that I am making it up.
Without these different situations that I have come across I wouldn't be the person that I am today.
You learn from your mistakes, and Trial and Error can be interesting and informative.

Of course you should try to avoid "Drugs", never pull a gun on someone unless you plan to use it. Smile instead of Frowning, it makes you feel better. Never harm an animal, unless you plan to eat it. Open your Heart to the Faith that you choose to believe.
Love yourself, Respect yourself, and others will reflect off this.

Those advises are generic enough, and I hope your experiences as you go through your Life, find you Healthy, Happy, and content by the end of your Journey.

Answer 3

Never have sex too young - before you are old enough to deal with the consequences eg pregnancy or HIV
Stand up for yourself when you know you are right.
Phone the police when your step dad just left in his car too drunk to put a sentence together or beating your mother.
Tell a responsible adult when you are being abused
Take what talents you have and use them
Study as hard as you can and make something of your life
Follow your passion and not somebody else's
Never give up on yourself
Learn how to love and respect yourself
Never judge other people... you never know what your future has in store
Keep an open mind
Understand something before you wag your jaw about it
If you can't help somebody - don't hurt them
Be with somebody that you WANT to be with - not somebody that you NEED
Spend as much time as you can with your children
LISTEN what other people has to say
Think before acting
Try to be the best person you can be, the world will be a better place for it.
Never talk about somebody behind their back
Learn something new every day
Try do do things that scare you
LIVE your LIFE
Watch your eating habits and your weight
Dont ever pick up a cigarette
Drink responsibly - DRUNK is not cool...

Answer 4

Try to achieve a balance between doing well in high school and college and having fun. People who go too far in one direction or the other either miss out on all fun or never amount to anything.

Have a plan of what you want to do in the future, even though that is hard to do when you're young. But the choices that you make near the end of high school and in college follow you for the rest of your life.

"Do what you love" is a great concept if there is something that you really love, but even better is "Do something you love or at least like that can make you a decent living". There is a real world out there that requires you to pay bills and doesn't care whether you like what you're doing or not. You will have to do really well to live up to the standard of living you enjoyed with your parents.

So take school very seriously because it determines your fate for the rest of your life. But don't forget the balance. You can and should have fun along the way.

It sounds like a cliche and you may not realize it until later, but there really are the best years of your life.

Answer 5

I am 44 years old, still young but fastly aging and hopefully getting wiser!
I do have some good advice for you. I don't know how old you exactly are, or what sex you are, but that shouldn't matter too much.
The number one thing is to stop worrying or over thinking what others think about you. Don't be too cold in a sociopathic way, but do not be too sensitive and realize you can't be everything to all people. If somebody doesn't like you or insults you, erase them from your life, and keep on smiling, literally.
if you are in a relationship (now or future) with somebody who drags you down, or demeans you in any way, get rid of them immediately.
Get a good job that pays well and don't be a slave to the job.
If you want privacy and there is a party you are supposed to go to, stay home, do what you want to do.
Not that I am saying be a self centered jerk, but do things that you want to do, and don't do things you don't want to do.
Be selective in relationships. Don't get tied down. But look for one that builds you up and makes you happy.
Don't waste too much money, a nice fat bank account will make your life a lot easier!

Answer 6

My advice would be to remember life is full of possibilities. I'd also say talk to people more. Talking to others and realizing we are all people and have the potential to do good, bad, stupid, wonderful things are there.

Also, work hard, met people out of your social/racial/religous group and volunteer. The one thing I wish I had done was volunteer as a young person.

Don't think what where you are right now is the where you'll be forever...things will change, you'll learn and grow.

Take time to listen to those around you but judge for yourself whether you like what they're saying...does if make sense to you. Question and reflect. Also, read, read,read... ; )

Answer 7

Have targets in life every moment of their existence, and : Be Good people to others.
Here is a poem from Rudyard Kipling summarizing the beauty in the human behavior:

IF.....
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IF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!'

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!

Answer 8

Listen to people who you respect for the soundness of their judgement. Old people have seen a lot of things in life and may have a perspective that allows them to be cautious and careful. Not everyone who is old is your enemy, and not everyone your own age is your friend! Be open to the possibility that you will make mistakes as you go through life, but if you learn from those mistakes, you will be better off in the future. Select friends who have your best interests at heart. Many people who say they are your friends are there for you when times are good, but will drop you like a hot potato when things go bad. Respect your parents because they went to the trouble to be your parents. A lot of hopes and dreams rest with you from them. They will leave this life before you, so be patient as far as you can with them.

Answer 9

Avoid thinking every disappointment is a crisis. If a girl or boy friend doesn't work out, don't waste tears and emotionally drain yourself. A few weeks down the road, you will wonder why you bothered. I heard once that the people who are worth crying over, are the people who wouldn't make you cry.

Answer 10

Avoid recreation drugs, drinking and smoking. I know you've probably heard this over and over, but that's a good start.

If you choose to have God in your heart, and you live by it, I think it helps alot - to have faith and strength in God. Believe in YOURSELF. Think about what your are doing before you do it, looking at all the pros and cons.

One last thing is to be VERY VERY careful WHO you trust. Sometimes the ones you trust the most can use that against you and take advantage of you. Don't ever trust someone TOO much. I don't mean for you to be paranoid, but just be careful who you hang with. Sometimes even that isn't enough though. If you are ever cornered or pressed for sex and you don't want to, DON'T - and don't be afraid to say NO!

Answer 11

After all I've been through, I found that by living for the Lord, there is an inner peace that will make you love your enemies. I can't explain it. It is trusting in Him and OBEYING his word. This may not be what you were looking for, but I'm telling you, after a lot of miserable years, I ran...but now I'm happy inside. You don't want to pretend faith or love, but let it live in you through the Lord. I've tried it all, drugs, drinking, chasing women. Now I have found the way.