What are the qualities you are looking for a guy for marriage?

Question

Married and/or devoiced ladies, if you can start all over again to look for a guy for marriage, what are the qualities you will be looking for this time around so you will be happier than now. Please share. Thanks.

Answer 1

I want a man who is loving,caring,compassionate, warm
sympathetic,passionate and protective.Most women want all the qualities and sensitivities a woman has but all wrapped up in a man.Someone to laugh and play with,one who understands if you cry over something silly or serious and be able to hold you thru it.We want men who make good fathers,and aren't ashamed to say they would rather be with his family than hang with the guys(altho sometimes that is healthy for both!)Someone you could trust with your life and could tell anything to and not be afraid of the response.In a nutshell:Your very best friend mixed with serious passion!

Answer 2

#1 would be trueness. Most men dont show there true self because there trying to be something there not so they can get the girl. Then once they have us it's a whole new man that most of dont like anymore.
#2 if your going to give me sex everynight when we met, then keep giving to me 5yrs later.
#3 if your going to help around the house in the beginning, then keep helping 5yrs later.
#4 APPRECIATION: for everything that I do!!!
#5 Compliments when I'm not so hot looking (after giving birth), when I've put on some pounds, or when I'm hotter than hot.
#6 Sincerity: dont buy me a happy birthday card for mothers day because you only seen the front
#7 Honesty: if you tell a little lie in the beginning then there will be bigger ones in the end. As little as yes I fed the cat today, even thought the cat is all over the trash. If you lie about little things then you will definitely lie about big things.
#8 Romance: drop a flower in my front seat for when I get up in the morning to go to work. Leave me a love letter in my purse. Send me a text that says I cant stop thinking about you.
#9 Keep a Job and work 40hrs plus overtime
#10 Great credit and can pay bills on time and not worry if there is money left over. No disconnections on your light bill, water, trash, gas, cable, phone, just pay the bill.

Answer 3

I'm in a 2ed marriage I learned from my 1st marriage what I did not want. This time i looked 4 a STABLE man with a nice income and JOB that he had worked 4 a while. He had to be self relent and independent intelligent and HAD no kids from past women. I found him he's all that and more he's 34 this this is his 1st marriage he's worked at a elementary school for 9 years. He owns his home a boat new cars. He is very stand up guy I'm always PROUD to say who my husband is. Also a non smoker or heavy drinker was a must I HATED HOW MUCH MY EX SMOKED.

Answer 4

Good question! I was divorced for 8 years after an awful marriage before I was ready to date again. I'm now 40 years old and hopefully wiser this time around. I think the things that are truly important are:

*a similar sense of humor
*the ability to laugh together, no matter what
*common ground for parenting, if you have/plan to have kids
*feeling okay just being yourself without fear of judgment
*really listening without trying to "fix it" all the time
*putting her needs first in bed sometimes
*being honest and open about what you want/need from the relationship
*not going outside my "station" (a 7 should be with a 7, a 4 with a 4, and so on) - it sounds silly, but I really think it's true. Men tend to try to "trade up" but eventually worry she'll leave them for someone else. Women tend to let the man in their life reflect what they think of themselves: for instance, an 8 who doesn't have very good self-esteem might marry a 3 because she thinks that's all she deserves. Being honest with yourself and the other person is the only way to avoid problems down the road.

Answer 5

I'm divorced. Next time I consider a guy for marriage, I'll want to know the answer to these questions:
1. How does he act when he doesn't get his way, or when things don't go his way?
2. Does he lie, or ask me to lie for him? Even "little white lies" that have the purpose of making HIM look good or protecting HIM? (Not "little white lies" that make somebody else feel better.)
3. Is he keeping his friends and hobbies during our courtship, and encouraging me to keep mine? Or are we getting all wrapped up in each other?

My first marriage was picture-perfect from the outside, but in reality my husband was very abusive. He had rages when he didn't get his way. He lied to make himself look perfect and expected me to do the same. And he expected my whole world to revolve around him. Not to mention the physical, sexual and emotional abuse.

All the symptoms were there before our marriage. I would have broken off the engagement, if only I knew then what I know now. Listen and learn, sister. And don't make excuses for bad behavior. Good luck.

Answer 6

Women want someone who cares!! Show us that you pay attention to the little things....like if we pass by the flower shop and I tell you that the lillies are so beautiful.... then go back later that day and have some sent to me at work or home. We also like men that are good with money, but aren't tight-a**es and will splurge on us every once in a while. Someone that will make us laugh and even just pretend to care that we had a bad day at the supermarket b/c the lines were too long and ice cream was melting. It might sound ridiculous to you, but we care about those things!!

Answer 7

Here is my list..not in anysort of order just off the top of my head.

(1) Must have job

(2) Must go to job

(3) Must be able to hold onto job

(4) Must not be a drunk, or a drug addict., or a smoker-my stepfather died from lung cancer.

(5) Must never lie about anything.

(6) Must not be a player with the ladies

(7) Must be able to laugh--laugh lines about the eyes are a big must.

(8) Must be able to put up with my singing at the top of my lungs, very much off-key, in the shower

(9) Must love his mother, cats, and meeee.

(10) Must enjoy Texas Aggie Football

(11) Must know how to do home repairs, car repairs, such guy things which I wish I knew how to do.

(12) Must be able to put up with lots of hugs, cuddles, warm physical closeness, and mushy words of love.

Answer 8

Best things about my hubby that made him stand head & shoulders above any other man I ever dated:
- Completely trustworthy
- Trusts me
- Doesn't conform to stupid gender stereotypes (thinks its cool that I do "guy" stuff, and he cooks WAY more than I do!)
- Supports me emotionally & spiritually
- Treats me as a full & equal partner
- Yet, still treats me like his princess
- Believes in "just because" gifts or notes
- Is a terrific father to our kids
- Loves animals
- Is willing to try something new because its something I'm interested in
- Is my best friend
- And, last but not least, great in the sack!

Answer 9

Great Question!
1. A partner (my ex handled the funds 100%, big mistake)
2. Someone I laugh with, play with, relax with
3. Someone who'll be on my side; who's supportive
4. Someone who likes to cuddle
5. A great kisser, lover, etc
6. Honesty
7. Someone who works out (you'd be surprised what problems this creates)
8. Someone who's outdoorsy and won't mind carrying my camera equipment
9. Someone who doesn't smoke, gamble, or drink (excessively)
10. Someone who loves my kitty
11. Someone who has a strong presence and sexy as hell
12. Someone who knows about cars, repairs, and is patient enough to teach

I actually found him.

Answer 10

Well im already married and i wouldnt trade my husband in for the world and he has most of these qualities.. but heck no one is perfect but he comes pretty darn close..

First and for most.. A nice sized.. ummmm well you know lol..and a high sex drive, Love, compassion, friendship,understanding, capable of compromise, sense of humor, intelligent, financial security, patience , respect, and a great father to our kids..