Anybody here who after many years of breakup got back with your ex???

Question

Could you please tell me HOW IT WAS, WHY IT WAS BROKEN UP, and HOW IT IS NOW?

Answer 1

The answers to these questions are different for every one whose gone through this situation.

Answer 2

My h.s. sweetheart and I were on and off for 5 years. The last time we got back together I swore if it ended I wouldn't take that one "just checking in" phone call that always lead to getting back together or try to meet for lunch or something. So when it did (we were young and wanted different things and it just got very hard to manage all that) finally end, that was it. I did see him once again accidentally, and was really proud that we didn't fall back into our usual pattern.

There are times when I wonder about him and miss things about him (15 years later) but wouldn't reach out again for the world. He was not mean, it's just not one of those things that is not meant to be. Another break up would be painful, so I can't even go there. If you're thinking about it, don't. I don't think it matters if it's boyfriend or husband. When they become an ex, they should stay an ex.

Answer 3

Dated 3 years, broke up (cleanly) 2 years, got back together dated another 2 years, got engaged, got married a year later. I think it broke up because we started dating when I was 18 and he was 21 and we were both immature and wanted to sow some oats. Its great now, we realized that all we really wanted was to be together. Take it slowly though, look for old patterns before you jump right back in there.

Answer 4

Ex what??? Husband or boyfriend????

My first boyfriend broke up because I felt he was treating me like a piece of the furniture, we had been together for about three years...and another guy was treating me like a princess..

I married the guy who treated me like a princess and he soon showed his true colors. I believed in marriage so I tried like a trojan to make it work. Finally, I asked myself if I really wanted to spend the rest of my life like that and the answer was NO.I divorced him after 13 years of marriage.

I moved back to my hometown, moved in with my mom, and went back to college.

My stepfather gets me back in contact with my first boyfriend....who has had a different relationship for each year we had been apart. He had never married.

Almost married him, but discovered he was looking for perfection and never found it because nobody is perfect. I wasn't perfect because I was taking college algebra during the summer and was a mass of nerves. I also did not instantly jump to obey his every word. this was the only one of my relationships in which I was the dumped, and I say thank goodness for that.

He dumped me the same day my stepmother died..not good.

Anyways. Something caused you two to breakup in the first place. You have to get that cleaned up before you can have a future together, or the same stuff will come up, and history will repeat itself.

Then there is the revenge element. Often the dumped will get back together with his ex, only to dump the dumper in revenge.

This does not work because if a person nurses revenge in their hearts, they also nurse love. The opposite of hate is not love, it is indifference ,and indifference never goes out for revenge.

Most people who extract revenge are often extremely sorry after because they discover this fact too late.

Whatever you decide to do..he happy with your choice....and good luck.

Answer 5

i first started dated my husband when i was 14 years old we got married when i was 21 then a few years later things started to get rocky i think the problem being that he was my first and it was though i hadnt experienced life and the same for him so we decided to seperate and went our own way we got a divorce we went had relationships with other people then years down the track i then realised that i still had strong feelings for him and when i talked to him i told him how i felt and he also had the same feelings so we decided to try and get back together being apart at first then we moved back in with each other and things have been so much better with our relationship its as though we needed that time apart to realise how much we loved each other

Answer 6

We broke up, because he could be selfish and a bit dramatic. Years later (almost 7) we got back together and he hadn't changed; he'd mellowed a little, but he was still selfish and dramatic. It was such a downer.

At least I no longer have that "what if" question floating in my head.

Answer 7

Well I went out with him then broke up with then he asked me out again and I noticed I still loved him so I said yes then I broke up worst Idea in the world!!!!! Stay with your love because right now I LOOOOOVVVVVVVVVVEEEEEEEEEE, so i'll do my best to get him back, but this time I'm really gonna try hard and try to have a good realationship. He was a good boyfriend exsept he lied to me and I thta's y a broke up with him, and now we ignore each other but he's so hott i'll evenully get him! I hope!!!!!

Answer 8

i got dumped by my gf in '03 and we got back together . She cheated on me and she couldnt make up her miond if she wanted to be with me or the mexican she ****** two seperate times. Now there isnt a lot of trust between the both of us bcuz once a cheater always a cheater

Answer 9

Yes. My husband and I were off and on for years before we got married. He, I have to admit was always the one who came back to me. i was the one who always broke it of.

I am so glad that we are now married. I love him so much. I couldn't see my life without him.

Answer 10

yes, he was not on my level he had a lot to deal with and he needed to grow up and wake up... he needed to mature in his mind. it turn out find we are now married and im glad we departed so he could see what a good woman he had and lost. he got himeself 2gether for himself then when we met again he got himself 2gether a bit more for he missed the love i gave him unconditionaly