I love my family no matter what. But i get jealous because my friends can do whatever, whenever. Then when i can get a sitter and can go out i just want to be at home!
2006-09-01 14:39:09 · 42 answers · asked by lovelibutterfli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is perfectly normal. You know you gave up quite a lot when you had kids. At times, it seems as if you stepped from freedom into prison. I can relate - I raised six of 'em. Wonderful kids - but to see what I was missing by not remaining single, or at least childless, was difficult at times. But I knew what I was getting into when the wife and I chose to have kids, and I dedicated myself to being as good a father as I knew how.
I did find outlets - but I had to adapt many of them to the fact that I was a parent. To be there when the wife needed help with the dishes, the laundry, the diapers - I changed WAY more than she did - I had to forgo many evenings out or haul the kids along. You and I know just what a romance-wrecker THAT is, don't we?
Talk to hubby - he oughta be right there with you when he's not at work, helping with ALL the demands of parenting and housekeeping. And he oughta arrange now and then for childcare and take you out dining and dancing or whatever turns you on. It's so much easier when the two of you share it all.
And don't worry - they DO grow up and move on - mine have, and I miss them horribly! I now have that vaunted freedom, and believe me, I take advantage of it as I can afford it. But there're times when I'd give it all up if I could have a weekend now and then back when the kids were young. Enjoy 'em while you can, and rejoice when they're gone. Life is short!
2006-09-01 14:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is funny because I am 40 and I was just discussing this same subject with my boyfriend of 6.5 years that I am jelous that WE DONT HAVE ANY KIDS. You are lucky ,I should have done it earlier it is too late for me, my boyfriend does NOT want any kids, so cherish every day, like all the others say we think the grass is greener on the other side. I would be willing to slow my life down a bit for a kid, we are very active, we both ride motorcycles and go alot of places, but in the end, unless you get a divorce you have a healthy family which I dont even have.
2006-09-01 14:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by foxyraley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to be jealous of. Sure your single friends may have great stories and a lot of "free" time BUT what they don't have is a loving husband and beautiful children to fill there days with priceless memories. Things you do matter..you actually make a real difference in someones life. "The grass isn't always greener." I'm a single woman with no children and I can't say I'm unhappy with my life but it all boils down to work and how much money I can make in a year. The single life gets more difficult as you age. ENJOY ALL THAT YOU HAVE!
2006-09-01 14:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as you. It's normal to feel that way,you see your friends going out and having fun the way we used to before our kids came along. Try and get out at least once a week for even a couple hours with a friend to feel like you're still alive. Other than that be happy with what you have in your life now and enjoy your family.
2006-09-01 14:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by cece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal. u see them care free and go wherever and whenever they want. You though have responsibilites with your family and children. It's a hassle sometimes to arrange for a baby sitter and as a mother you are naturally always thinking about ur kid(s) wondering how they are doing when u r out.
So yeah it's totally normal behavior
2006-09-01 14:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very normal to me, and I successfully raised 5 - all born by the time I was 24! The best is yet to come, when you are the one free to enjoy life and those single friends are either alone, or tied down as you are now. Thank heavens for the gift you have been given - children are much like a plant bulb, not really appreciated or understood until they bloom!
2006-09-01 14:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Carole V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be jeolous because they have freedom to do what they want.
I am married myself and I get a little jeolous too because I am stuck with kids and I do not have a loving husband. My life is a big business... Meaning I cook, clean, do laundry, take care of my children, and my husband when it comes to feeding him. No sex, at all, no going out etc..
So when I have a single friend bragging about how she did this and that with her boyfriend. I get jeolous.. But to tell you the truth if I was happily married I would not be jeolous at all.. Because I would be happy...
2006-09-01 14:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's tough! I understand about the finding the sitter then just wanting to hide at home. Sounds like you need a Vacation.
2006-09-01 14:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by adgmonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a really twisted, but I know how you feel. You feel jealous because you want to go out and have fun, but then you feel guilty because you love your family and want to be with them. Just go out and have a good time. Your family needs you sane, so be sure you feed the need to live a little.
2006-09-01 14:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea we hire a sitter to go food shopping! yea were party animals lol not! yea im way jeliouse of my single friends....but im past all that,the wild partys the clubs. being with my family poping in a dvd,makeing some pop corn and starting a fire on a cold night means the world to me. ive found love! my single friends always cry that they never will find it,so i think they are jeliouse of me!
2006-09-01 14:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by pro_choice_my_right 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋