I need a quck fix for cheering me up! I am 61/2 months pregnant, just quit smoking 2 days ago (so hard! ) My man just left me and I have 3 kids I have to raise. He just dissapeared. What the heck can I do short of killing myself?
2006-09-01 14:16:44 · 12 answers · asked by day dreamin baby 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do not think about your man at this time, focus on the kids, he will come back if it is meant to be and if he deserves you and the little ones.
He might have his own problems to sort out, but if he did not come back, I don't think you lost much at all, because you and the kids would be much better of without a man like that.
You need to be strong, don't be like him, you are a Mother and the kids need you. All their hope is in you.
I had a much tougher life which I'm not going to tell you about, but believe me, life goes on and if you have any faith in God, you know that He will never allow more pain than we can handle.
In my life seemed to be no hope and no future, until I found out that God really exists and that he Loves me. Instead of asking him to fix my problems, I kept asking Him to give me the strength to continue. He did and I'm glad I did not give up on life, because as I came through, I became stronger and after the dark days in life, bright days are on the way.
You feel alone, but you are not, the kids Love you, God Loves you and I promise He will give you hope and strength if you just turn to Him.
Do not sit and think about sad things no matter how bad the situation is, sad thoughts lead to sad emotions, YOU CAN NOT CONTROLL EMOTIONS BUT YOU CAN CONTROLL THOUGHTS (I'm not yelling, I promise, I'm just getting your attention).
Your situation might seem or even be bad, but bright days lay just a head. Do not sacrifice tomorrow and the future because of your situation today.
2006-09-01 15:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by Cory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill out woman. start cleaning the house and think about your responsibilities that you have bringing your child to this ugly world try to make it better for him. Why are you depressed. ? I would be jumping up and down knowing that I am bringing a wonderful child to this world. Think about all the great stuff you guys will be doing soon together. Think about all the questions your baby will ask you. Do you wannna be remembered as a low selfesteem depressed mother? or someone who is cool and have a positive attitude towards life/ ? Children want to be proud of their parents as the other way around. Don't look back. just think about the present and the future. It's all infront of you. You can start the change. now. YOu can control your own feelings. Why not feel happy and stay positive? Do you want your baby to feel that you are depressed? No. start saying taht however you feel will affect the most important person in your life = your child. So grow up and SMILE>>> you have a whole new day infront of you........
2006-09-01 21:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I get down in the dumps I like to cruise out to the mall and check out all of the wierd people that come in there,all of the wierd and funny clothes and get ups they are wearing these days you will be surprised at how much laughing you will do seriously! Like the dudes that wear those pants where you can see the crack of thier butts ha ha, or the guy with the mohawk that looks like he is trying to lure a peacock in for a intimate moment,if Im in the dumps by the time I leave the mall I am laughing so hard that everyone thinks I am drunk! give it a try.
Dave
2006-09-01 21:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've allways noticed that pregnant women have an inner spirit and an outer glow about them that makes them beautiful. May be the extra harmones or
just the thought of a new life within that is growing. A real man would not leave you and miss these precious moments of sharing your pregnancy. May be tough for you to realize, but you are better off without the loser. Look forward to this new birth and enjoy the 3 you gave birth to. This guys not worth dieing for ......my cooking is
2006-09-01 21:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to contact your doctor about getting a therapist who will support you, talk with you, and hook you up with resources because you are not alone. Second of all, why did you quit smoking just now? Not that I would encourage you to smoke but that surely is not helping your frame of mind.
I would encourage you to limit the amount of smoking to the absolute minimum that you can tolerate without having suicidal thoughts or feeling completely stressed out right now. You do not need to be doing anything right now but thinking of your children that are with you and surviving for them. You need to call your doctor and tell him you need help. Do not let some man defeat your love for your children right now in your emotional and hormonal state. You can and will get help, pick up the phone and call the answering service!
2006-09-01 21:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by amy c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hear me out. I want you to do this right now!
Get off the sofa
Turn off the computer
Turn off the television
Grab your kids and walk out the door
Get outside and get some fresh air
Take your kids to the park and let them play while you sit on a bench and watch them...
Now, ask yourself these questions:
Is this how I want my children to grow up to be? Do I want them to remember their mother wallowing in depression? Do I want to provide a good role model for how to handle stressful situations?
Now, envision how you want to be. Visualize how you would ideally handle the situation you are in. Envision being the best mother you can be for your children. Envision being happy with your life, just the way it is, because it IS the way it is.
Now, go do it. Make it happen, because only you can!!!
2006-09-01 21:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
clean up the house and clear all his stuff into boxes. just think of what u want and dont just say him back dont let him come into ur thoughts i know it hurts alot my ex did this to me while i was in labour (some men no brains or hearts)
focus on the kids and ur self. have a little make over and just take the kids out for the day. u will need someone to lean on a shoulder to cry on and a person to talk or bit*h to. heres my email in case needed staffys_always@hotmail.com. DO NOT KILL YOURSELF THOSE KIDS NEED YOU. also dont throw out or rip up all pics of ur ex the kids might want to see them when there older.
2006-09-01 21:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by mrs nevz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into your childrens eyes and realize that they love and need you. This is going to be rough but life does go on. Try and take the kids to the park or just get out and occupy yourself. Think about this, what would your kids do without you? ask yourself that question. Cheer up!!!! Things will work themselves out, just have faith.
2006-09-01 21:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by trace 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont kill yourself you need to be there for your kids they need there mom if there is some one like a family member that can take the kids of your hands for a few hours or a day maybe you could go do something for yourself and go enjoy yourself have a friend go or something but you dont need him if he is going to be irresponsible you need to trust in God and pray that he will help you through all times and pray that he will come into your heart if he hasnrt all ready and just be one of the major loves of your life and so you are living for God as well as your kids so please just keep this in mind and i will be praying for you and i hope you just get blessed with the presnce of the Lord
2006-09-01 21:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah, mid life chrisis like situation, well, *** ur man, i was raised with 3 other brothers by my one mom, so short of killing urself, figure urself out, sit down, figure things out, plan out things b4 they crumble down in front of you, chill, listen to sum bob marley, and think things out, dont do anything you'll regret
2006-09-01 21:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by Beto G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋