i'm 16 years old and i'm about 6mo. pregnant. i'm starting to get really worried about whether having the baby was the best choice. i live with my boyfriend and his parents and they are totally supportive and as soon as we turn 18 we're going to get married, but what if we can't support the baby? His parents will help out a bit, my parents won't because they totally hate me. And also im worried, how bad will it hurt when i have it?
2006-09-01 13:44:25 · 18 answers · asked by Rainn 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
have you ever heard the expression, where theres a will theres a way? well that is the truth. if you want this baby with you heart and soul you will find a way to support it. dont rely totally on anyone else. you have to do everything in you power to give it a good home. if you have true love and support from other people-- take it-- but dont abuse it. stay in school if possible get your diploma, then go on to some form of college. it wont be easy but will be worth it in the long run. there is lots of public assistance out there too. if feel the same way about it, if you need it use it, but dont abuse it. make something great of yourself when you have help so that you can get off the help someday, and maybe help out someone else.
if on the other hand, you are not comitted to keeping the baby, its ok, dont beat yourself up. but still do everything you can to find this baby a good home. its better if you decide before the baby is here.
2006-09-01 13:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by underdog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is totally normal for you to worry about having the baby. You will worry after delivery too. My children are teenagers and I still wonder from time to time if I should have ever had them! My advice to you is to search YOUR heart- decide what YOU want to do. You are wise to be concerned about how you will support a baby. They are not cheap, but if you are serious about marrying your boyfriend and keeping your child, you need to know that financial help is available. I would suggest contacting your local Planned Parenthood, United Way or even a Catholic Family service for a listing of available local services. I hope this has help some. In parting, I would like to say never feel like you are a bad person just because you are pregnant at 16. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. It isn't the end of the world, for either you, the father or the baby. I am sure that your parents do not hate you, but are probably disappointed that what they have dreamed for your future, has taken a U-turn. They will come around...
2006-09-01 21:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by panhandlewoman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow....you should have thought of these questions BEFORE you got pregnant and AFTER you finished school and got an education huh? Well, if you are afraid of not being able to support the baby and give it a good life, find a set of parents that want babies but can't have them, and set up adoption. Don't think of it as giving your baby away, but as giving your baby a chance for a good life, one that you may not be able to give it, even if you try your hardest and have all the help in the world. You're still so young, but think about what you just said....you live with your boyfriend and HIS PARENTS...you still need parents, and yet you're going to be one. Think about how that will work? It's nice that they're supportive, but you're going to have to support the baby on your own...cuz it's YOUR baby. It's hard to finish school and go to college with a baby to take care of. You have the power to give this baby a good chance at a good life, please consider adoption. Being 16 and having a baby is NOT cool. Being 16 and being able to be 16, go to parties, movies, hang out late at night with friends(and not get up every 3 hours late at night to feed a baby) IS cool. You need to get your life straight before you bring another one into this world. ADOPTION---you can choose the parents.
2006-09-05 19:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by Shell_Lynn99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is understandable that you are scared. I do not think anyone feels they are completely ready for such a responsibility. Also, being pregnant, it is normal to have these mixed feelings. We all have them. Keeping the baby was the right choice and there is still the option of adoption if you still feel inadequate after giving birth. You are one of the fortunate teens to have the back up your bf's parents. Little alone, your bf. Think about it. You can do this.
Do not worry about the pain of labor. Instead, look past it and imagine holding a beautiful new creation. I am sure you will not even think about the pain after you have it. Women's bodies are made to give birth. Sometimes, it doesn't turn out as bad as the woman pictures. Just relax. You will do fine =).
Hang in there momma.
Epidurals are recommended to help mother tolerate labor better.
2006-09-01 21:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yes its going to be hard at first, but its all going to work out at the end. At least you have shelter with your boyfriend's parents, and it seems that his parents are not going to leave you stranded. And I about the hurting (I've never had a baby but my sister did) she said by the 9th month you are just so tired you just want the baby out, my sister got the pains really bad so she ask for a medicine that they inject in your back so you won't feel the pain. She said it worked perfectly because after that she didn't feel a thing of pain-you could ask the doctor about this medicine thing. My sis said that the doctor told her there be side effects like your back could hurt at times but she said she had no side effects. Oh well I hope its of some help. Good luck girl and Take Care
2006-09-01 20:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's scary. I was about a year and half older than you when my daughter was born. It's never easy bringing a baby into the world, but it sounds as if you have a good support system.
As far as the pain, I'm not going to tell you that it doesn't hurt. Just keep one thing in mind, the pain will go away and you will have a beautiful baby to show for it.
Take it one day at a time sweetie, you'll be fine.
2006-09-01 20:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by PariahMaterial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 is very, very young to be a parent. How do you know your boyfriend will still want to marry you after you birth the child?
What about school? Did you drop out? What about college? What about employment?
The rule should be, if you cannot support and take care of yourself, do not be making babies at all.
2006-09-04 00:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as we might hate to do it, there are people to turn to for help... like chruches and the government.
You will be able to find a way to support your baby if you keep a clear mind and stay strong.
It will hurt when you have a baby, but that doesn't stop most woman from having more children down the line.
The pain will be nothing compared to the joy of your child.
2006-09-01 20:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by Coffinkittie: Mum of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well congratulations first of all. Right now your having doubts and you will probably for a while but where theres a will theres a way and I know you will find a way to support your baby. Your parents will come around they always do. Keeping your baby was the right thing to do.
2006-09-01 21:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by bgkunz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parent's will come around...mine did...It doesn't hurt too bad, just get pain medicine...Your contractions will be the worst part...maybe your boyfriend should get a part-time job to help you out. If you think your gonna have problems supporting the baby, then maybe adoption is best..talk it over with your b/f and his parents...try to work things out with yours. Good Luck!! I was 15 when I had my first one, so i went thru what ur goin thru right now..
2006-09-01 21:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋