help! i just found out that i'm pregnant and i don't know what to do. i'm only 16 and my parents will kill me. my best friend suggested i get an abortion and my parents won't find out, but i don't want to kill an innocent baby b/c of my mistake. what should i do?
2006-09-01 13:31:29 · 38 answers · asked by Rainn 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
call planned parenthood immediately. if you are only a few weeks pregnant, then you will not be aborting a baby, you will be aborting a tiny cluster of non-feeling, non-thinking cells that are not yet human. the longer you wait the more human it will become and then you will be killing a baby. hurry call asap. they will help you and you will be VERY glad that you did it.
I know a girl who started having babies at 16 and now she's in her mid 20's and doesn't want to take care of them, she pushes them off on their father to raise and that is very wrong. she just wants to party and chase men instead of tending to her responsibilities and I know a lot of girls like this. Don't have it if you are not ready to completely dedicate at least 19 years of your life to them.
you do have several choices, all that belong to you. you think long and hard and do what you think is best for you and possibly another human being.
and do not have any more sex until after you are married.
2006-09-01 13:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
First of all, you need to relax. Every baby is a blessing, planned or unplanned. If you do not feel right about an abortion, don't do it. Parents are strong people, if you sit down with them and have an adult conversation with them about what is going on in your life then it will be a lot easier for you and that little baby. It will be hard to bring the topic up, but just know that it is the right thing to do. You can also talk to your parents about adoption. Either they will feel it is best or they will say they will help you because they don't want to see their grandchild with another family. Your parents will probably be disappointed, but they won't kill you. You need to do what is right for that precious baby and talk to them so that you will not be so stressed. Best of luck and congratulations!
2006-09-01 13:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by Me!! 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, sit down and calm down. Did you tell the baby's dad first. That would be the first step. See how he feels.
Then you are going to have to go to your parents. Don't be scared. It's not going to be as bad as you think. They will be mad at first, but that will be for only a day or two.
If you do want to get an abortion, you are still going to have to tell your parents, since your under the age of 18. That's the law in every state. It doesn't matter what any one says, it's the law.
Don't let anyone make this decision for you. IT is YOUR decision... Good Luck...
2006-09-01 13:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by luv him 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all you and him both need to sit down together with each of your parents and tell them the news. It will look alot better on you. It will make you look more responsible because you are taking the stand for your actions together. Start by telling them you have been having unprotected sex , and tell them you strongly regret it. And tell hem because of this mistake you have made you are now pregnant.And tell them you don't ask for them to be happy, all you ask is for them to be there for you and to help you through this. Just be strong , it will be a big relief on you once its done. But to tell you the truth it might be easier to tell your mother's first , that way they can kinda keep "DAD" under control. That is depending on how your fathers react to big situations.But what ever you do , do not let anyone talk you into abortion . Your parents will be mad, but trust me they will be there for you, and after the baby is born, they will love it with all their hears.
2006-09-04 02:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl4us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun,i can only give you my opinion on this i cannot tell you what you should or have to do.I think that in any situation that abortion is unacceptable.I also think,you need to talk to your parent(s),guardian(s),and/or a trusted adult.Your parents may be upset at first,or more so disappointed but eventually they will understand that you need them more than ever so they will put their feelings aside because you are their child.They are not going to kill you,they may be upset but they wont kill you.Now,you can choose to have this baby.Of course,you understand that you cannot raise this baby alone as you are still in school im assuming and you are only a teen.Having said that,once you tell your parents you should talk to them about the decision that lay in front of you.They can help you make that decision but ultimately,you have to make it.If you dont think you can handle it,then i say adoption would be a good idea.There is something that is called an "Open Adoption".Now,that is where you are allowed communications with the child and allowed to be involved in the childs life throughout its life.They communicate by email,pictures,phone,weekly visits depending on the situation etc.That way you wont be a mystery to this child once its grown it will know who you are and that you did a good thing for this child.You are correct,it is your mistake,but remember that this child is NOT a mistake.You made a mistake but this child is a blessing as difficult as it may be for you to see that right now.With your parents involvment and help you can keep this child.Many young couragous(SP?) women do this everyday.You have 9 months to think about this,but keep those options open.Again,i am telling you my opinion.Ultimately you have to be the one to decide on what to do.First,tell your parents and get yourself to a gyno so that he/she can make sure your baby is healthy and your healthy.Good luck if you need to talk feel free to email me.
2006-09-01 14:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think the best thing to do is to tell your parents..they won't kill you.even if they will be very angry at first,they will understand and will support you.the abortion is not a solution...it;s a big mistake and you will feel guilty all your life..it's an innocent creature who doesn't deserve to die...I'm really glad you don't want to kill your baby.you can give him to adoption or you can keep it,with the help of your family..hope you will solve the problem in a right way
2006-09-02 05:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too had a baby at sixteen and i was also afraid to tell my parents. They did not kill me and I have a gorgeous daughter. You need to tell them so they can help you make the right decision.There are many support groups for teens like you probably in your high school ask your guidance counselor.I don't ever recommend having a child so young but you are already in those shoes.Good luck and I hope whatever you choose is best for you and your baby.
2006-09-01 13:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by tina l 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, this is a tough one to answer. I am a lot older than you with a 15 month old son, so my view is different than yours. But, I do know that you need to talk with your parents about this. I have found that anything you try to keep secret no matter how big or small, finds it 's way out eventually. Ultimately, your parents are there to help you. Talk with them about your options. If you are too scared to, there might be a support group offered where you are living, where you can talk with someone, and it's confidential. Maybe like Planned Parenthood? I know you are really scared right now, but you need a good support group to help you through whatever decision you make.
2006-09-01 13:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by Girly 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
u should totttttaly have the baby..
and if ur too scared to say it to them..maby say it in public..not like..to everyone..but..like..maby somewhere wheres thers peple around..so if they get mad..they wont like..kill u lol
and..there would be people around so they wouldnt..
oh and dont have an abortion becuase its not right..
and becuase after u have ur baby...in a few years ur gonna be happy that u had ur baby.
think what would happen if u did and if u didnt have the baby..
and..maby if u want u can right down all the good things if u have ur baby and all the bad things about having a baby..
but..in the end..ur always gonna want kids right?
2006-09-03 13:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, Ive been stuck here once too. Teens get pregnant all the time. Please do not have an abortion. Tell the guy who helped you get this way. Talk to him. Which I very hope is your boyfriend or a good friend. Because your going to need lots f love & support in your life right now. Your parents are going to notice that your going to the bathroom to pee a alot. And, if you have morning sickness...theyre going to know what is up. I wouldnt keep it from them though sweetie. Sit them both down at the same time and tell them both. Or if you & your mom are close....mention it to her. Maybe she can help you tell your dad. Maybe the otehr way around. I hope you have a very good pregnancy & my prayers go out to you <3
Congrats!
2006-09-01 13:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by Kimber 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋