Me and mark* were hanging out one day about two months agao and we were chillind drinking a littleand talking and he was telling me that he was ready to marry Lizzie* and how if he had to do it all over again he would choose me over her. Of course I knew it was the alchohol talking so i told him to stop. But he insisted that he was speaking straight from the heart. Then he kissed me. I know I should stopped him right there but I was feeling tipsy then one then led to another and we ended up sleeping together. We promised not to tell David*, my boyfriend, and Lizze. Well here we are two months later and I'm pregnant . I've thought about abortion but ruled it out because that's something I can't find myself doing. So what shour I do? I desperatly need advice.
2006-09-01 13:25:40 · 22 answers · asked by music_lover_4life2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
to clarify I have told mark that I was pregnant! He doesn't know what to do either!
2006-09-01 13:46:39 · update #1
what you and mark need to do is to discuss this with you're respective others and figure out what it is that you guys want to do. Once you have that figured out then you can begin to figure out you're own lives. There is no need to hurt the baby and have the child feel unloved becasue of y'alls mistake. You look at it on the bright side you are going to be a mother now and that's the most important thing. Sure a mother a a father pair is ideal but there are thousands of other women who are doing it by themselves. I'll pray for you, Mark and the baby.
2006-09-01 14:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by qunnashrail 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you really messed up. Not only did you ruin Lizzie's life, you also ruined David's. The good thing is that neither one of them deserve to be with someone as selfish as you or Mark so I think that you both need to tell your partners what is going on and then they can get rid of the both of you and you two can be together since that's obviously what your selfish minds had in mind in the first place.
I hope you don't intend to let David think it's his baby and how do you even know for sure it's not David's baby?
2006-09-01 13:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the Jerry Springer Show. No, seriously, you have to come out with the truth. Think about this. How in the hell are you going to keep this a secret for the next 40 or so years? (or however long you live). Since you seem to care enough about the baby not to abort it, think about having to live with the child and lie to him/her about "dad". A lie this big cannot be controlled. It will grow and your life will become more and more complicated as you try to deal with the worries and guilt. Sure, coming out with the truth will be hell, for now, but at least it hound you for the rest of your life. When your baby is born and you can look it straight in the eye and know that you have nothing to hide from him/her, it will make the pain of coming out with the truth worth it.
2006-09-01 13:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by Nathan K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Face the fact that this guy is going to be your baby's father for a long long time.
Think about the fact that it would be terribly wrong of you to not let your baby know it's father.
So, thinking that, you're going to have to tell this guy at some point, sooner or later.
I think you should do it BEFORE the wedding.
Lizzie needs to know too; it's only right that she know her soon-to-be husband is a cheater, and is going to have to pay child support for the first 18 years of their marriage.
She may decide she doesn't want any piece of that.
Just make damn sure you are pregnant by who you think you are before you do anything!
2006-09-01 13:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, hon' you need to tell the friend that you're pregnant with his child. It will be hard and you have to be prepared for any reaction from him. Nextly, you have to let him know that he has to tell his soon to be wife because honesty is what their relatioship will be based on primarily. Whatever you do, don't try and be upset at the other girl if she gets upset over this because in all truthfulness, she is the hurt person here and she must be allowed to make a choice as to what she should do with this guy.
2006-09-01 13:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's so tough...well, there is nothing left for you to do but tell him asap. You need to get the news out. Yeah, it will make you look really bad in everyone's sight, but never do something that you wouldn't let everyone see. What you guys did was horrible but you need to see the whole picture. Let him know and then demand that he tells his soon-to-be wife, she has a right to know the true "man" she is going to marry. If she has any self-respect she would dump him real quick. Also, i would encourage you to make sure that it's this guys baby but everyone needs to know. BUT on the other hand, thankyou for keeping the baby. It is not the baby's fault and no need to pass the consequences of you and your best friend's actions on to the child.
2006-09-01 13:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by i travel often 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically here are your choices......
Have an abortion and put off telling the truth so you don't destroy a marriage and your relationships with your boyfriend and friend
Keep the baby and tell the truth to your significant others, you will lose a friendship and a boyfriend, but then you two can be together
2006-09-01 13:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by scarletbegonias9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell Mark and to have Mark tell Lizze. It is the respectable thing to do. She needs to know the type of man she is marrying. Granted you both made a mistake, but you have to be responsible.
2006-09-01 13:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by Kinsey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if you are gonna keep it or give it up for adopition you need to let your guy know that there is a possibility that it may not be his, so he won't believe it is, and grow an attachment and things may be diffrent, think about his feelings too. Then you also need to let your friend know that htere is a chance it is his too and what he chooses to do with his girl is up to him, and if it is his then he already knew that it was a chance. Good luck if you need anything else email me
2006-09-01 13:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i was Lizze* I would wring you and Mark's* neck. You remind me of the women on the Maury Povich Show."It just happpened; It was the alcohol talking". Whatever! That's a Load and you know it! You were probably just jealous of what your friend had. And why in the world are you changing their names? You're probably the ones who know them. Learn to keep your freakin legs closed and it want happen!!
2006-09-01 13:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by ericaofgordon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋