There was alot of things about him and his life (baggage) that I didn't know and really had no way to find out.
I dated him for a year before we got married and the marriage lasted 2 years.
But I still feel like I never really got to know the "real" him...
2006-09-01 13:23:01 · 20 answers · asked by tammette39 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you meet someone in a bar, there's still no way of knowing everything about him, including baggage.
I met a guy at the gym who had TONS of baggage that I never knew about....
It really doesn't matter where you meet someone. People will always have the potential to lie. The issue isn't where you met him..I know 4 couples who met each other online and they are in very happy marriages. It's just a way to meet people who you normally wouldn't cross paths with. You've gotta be careful of EVERYONE though, no matter where you meet them! There are some shady characters out there.
2006-09-01 14:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a man I met online. We started talking online and realized that we lived two miles from one another. He went to high school with my older siblings and I went to school with his brother. We never knew about one another. I agree with the person that said it is no different than meeting someone in a bar or gym. Everyone has baggage. We have been married a year and I've never been happier. My question is why did you marry him if you didn't know the real him?
2006-09-02 03:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years, that's not a very short time; is it? Must have been something that you found out about him that was worth sticking around for at least that long. But, no, I'd likely not marry a woman I met on a dating site. I did meet one that I was falling in love with, though. It was a cyber-sex thing and she was a very sensitive, passionate person in her exchanges with me and with the additional things she emailed me. We, I think were nearing the point we could not put off meeting, but she suddenly disappeared--her email invalid. She'd told me she was changing and would contact me afterward. Either she could not or decided not to, but I was hurt like a lovestruck boy. I still miss her. Would I have married her? Really hard to say. If she were anything like I knew her online, I would have considered it. I've met one other woman I'd like to know better for she seems very nice.
2006-09-02 00:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Nightwriter21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. But I would definitely take the time to get to know him. I ended a 2 year relationship with a guy I met on Match because I never really met his friends, family, and slowly he starting changing from this positive, fun guy, to a depressed and negative jerk. I'm glad that I didn't jump into anything.
On line dating is a great option, but I think it provides a sense of intimacy and connection that is imaginary and only time and brutal honesty will let you know if it's for real.
Sorry to hear about your marriage.
2006-09-01 22:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation...I met my now husband in an aol chat room.We chatted online for a few months before meeting.Dated a few months before living together.Married about a year after moving in together.We have been married over 2 yrs and more and more he seems to act like a total different person than the guy I met.I found about parts of his past that were hidden before marriage.I feel like he is not the person that I thought he was.I recently consulted a divorce lawyer. It doesn't matter how you meet someone online or in person things can be hidden. Good luck!
“The key is to get to know people and trust them to be who they are. Instead, we trust people to be who we want them to be- and when they're not, we cry.~~~~~~~~~~~~
2006-09-01 20:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup know the best sometimes it will vary on situations when guy don't put god first and you included there is now respect not true love you guys get married thru the ego i must have someone because i'm lonely takes o lot of work on yourself you have to love yourself first and allow everything in life as is .every marriage is lesson in life so next time meet some one who is open minded sometimes we change partners like shoes but don't go to the core and find out what's going bless you with love
2006-09-01 20:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...you cant build a real relationship on having crap in common. Real love doesnt quit on people. Marraige is HARD and not for the faint of heart. I've been hapily married for 6 years. But oh my God! It like takes work!But its worth it. Pick the right guy.One from reality. They;re out there.
2006-09-01 20:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all of the psychos out there, I would never marry someone that I met off of the net. Its just too dangerous.
2006-09-02 01:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by Kikyo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would, and i did.. i met my now husband online.. we werent looking, but it just kinda happened.. started as friends, and it grew into more.. we chatted online for a year, then met in person, everything was great.. we dated for quite a while , then we moved in together, lived together for a year and a half, all was still great, so he we are 4 years later married and still very happy...
2006-09-01 21:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i met my man on the net and we been living together for 2 yrs,,,,and we are very happy,,i probably would marry him but we are both content the way we are. no need to be married. meeting people on the net CAN WORK. sorry for you though. good luck
2006-09-01 20:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋