Why is it when you like someone, and you'd like to go with them, and they know this, but they really aren't ready to date (recent divorce) and they've told you this, that they still flirt with you? (say that really fast) *breath*
Don't they know that sends out mixed signals to the one that likes them? It's confusing to me, that's for sure. Any thoughts?
2006-09-01 13:01:35 · 9 answers · asked by Fuzzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Btw, I didn't mean: "go with them", I meant: "go out with them."
2006-09-01 13:09:12 · update #1
“I didn't mean: "go with them", I meant: "go out with them””
Are you sure about that???
I have just finished reading through your previous questions, and I suggest you are after a bit more than having him take you fishing or boating.
Back off… He knows you are interested in him, so lay off for a while or you will push him right away from you.
“I care enough about him to stay his friend and be there for him as such!”
Does sound familiar?
It should… They are the words you used in a question you asked two weeks ago.
It was the same question where you mentioned that you love him because he makes you want to be a better person.
Do yourself a favour…
Keep trying to better yourself, but start by being honest with yourself…
“I didn't mean: "go with them", I meant: "go out with them””
“He and I talked and he's not at all ready to date anyone, he just doesn't want that right now, which is cool. I have no problem with that!”
“He has lots of ladies who hit on him and want to date him. Some of them are his clients, and he won't go out with them.”
Does that perhaps suggest to you that he doesn’t want ladies hitting on him?…
And that if you keep trying to hit on him, he is not going to want you either?
You mentioned in an earlier question that he is a Sales Rep for the Company you work for, and that he is a friend of your boss.
I suggest you had best not make him feel uncomfortable at work, because if your boss ever found himself in the position of having to choose between his friend or you… you would probably find yourself looking for a new job.
Be honest about what you really want.
Ask yourself in what way he makes you want to better yourself?
Focus your attention on being his friend, because for now, that is what he needs. He is entitled to take as long as he needs to get over the strife of his previous marriage, and if you can’t give him the time that he needs, then perhaps you had better look elsewhere!!!
Be his friend… one day at a time… and allow the relationship to grow.
If you push… You will lose!!!
2006-09-01 13:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
They say that because one part of them wants to date, and the other part isn't ready or is scared. They keep flirting to let you know that they are interested in you and/or also so that they can brush up on their interaction with the opposite sex.
If it bothers you then why not just come out and tell the person that you'd like to go out and get to know them better - even if it's just purely platonic. If they say they aren't ready, then tell them to stop flirting and sending you mixed signals.
2006-09-01 20:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course they're afraid. They have just gone thru a divorce and is probably not ready to be in another relationship so soon and so just test the waters before jumping in. It does send mix signals because they themselves aren't sure if they want to pursue another relationship shortly after getting a divorce.
2006-09-01 20:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they are confused with their own emotions. They'd like to move on and they're interested in you but they are not ready to move on. However, it's always fun to flirt and they probably feel safe with you.
2006-09-01 20:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by puresatin03 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They just want to make it clear that they are not being serious. They only want sex or something and not ready for all the emotional baggage that comes with it.
2006-09-01 20:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are trying to feel beautiful and needed in their own way. Flirting is not for you or anyone else.....its for the one that needs the attention and love
2006-09-01 20:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i do the same thing, its not right, i think its because of bad rep for rebounds, the worst part is i think helps whats left of my ego, but i don't want to hurt someone that's nice to me most of us know how that feels.
2006-09-01 20:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by BRUCE H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give it time you should not expect them to jump right into a relationship after just getting outta one that may have had a messy ending.
2006-09-01 20:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by mandie_darkness 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
face it sweetie...."he's just not that into you" he's just after sex...just pure unconditional...no strings attach sex....don't waste your time for him..go out theres more out there whose willing to commit..
2006-09-01 21:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by james ian h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋