I am currently married but in the process of getting a divorce. We already have a 2 year old and my wife is pregnant. She is determined to put the baby up for adoption. I have made some mistakes in my life and in the past have used drugs. I have changed my life but she says she will use my past against me. I have a very supportive family financially and physically. I love my daughter and could not handle giving up our baby. What do I need to do to be sure that my daughter will not be given up for adoption? Although I would like to keep her and raise her myself, I also have other family members that are willing to adopt her if it comes to that.
2006-09-01 12:35:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She will be keeping our first baby, but I will have joint custody. When I say that Imy problems are in my past, they are. However, I was caught by my wife smoking weed in our house while babysitting our child. This was a few months ago and I have not done anything since then. I feel horrible about what I have done but is this enough to keep my baby from me?
2006-09-01 12:58:45 · update #1
We have since seperated and I have seen my little girl quite often, I usually babysit her on the weekends. I am a stable parent and have a really good job.
2006-09-01 13:01:12 · update #2
Man you don't let her give away your child !!!! She can not legally give the baby up for adoption without your consent. Go NOW and have them do a DNA test on you and the child so you can prove in court that the child is yours. Find a good board certified family lawyer and tell him everything. If you smoked the weed and she saw you then she would still have to prove it. Courts won't listen to just hearsay. Quit smoking and tell the courts you will take a drug test anytime, anyplace and anywhere. I am a single dad with full custody of my daughter and believe me it was not an easy fight. Every time we went to court she would tell a lie about me and I would have to prove that it was not true even tho I could prove everything I had on her including abuse and neglect to my child. If by chance you are in the state of Texas let me know cus my attorney is the best. Good Luck man and if you need to talk send me an e mail. It won't be easy but it will be well worth the fight ! I know I did the right thing every time I look at my daughter and realize what kind of life she would have had with my ex.
2006-09-01 17:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like she has much of a chance. Depending on how far in the past your "mistakes" were, you might have a few roadblocks, though. Are you getting custody of the 2 year old or is she keeping that child? Also, she cannot give the baby up for adoption without your consent, UNLESS she can PROVE that you would be unfit. If you can prove to the judge that you are not an unfit parent, and she does not want the child, she has no legal right to give it to anyone else. Your family being supportive is also a big benefit for you. Good luck.
2006-09-01 12:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she can do it without your permission,be for the court your past will be the past if it has been awhile since your mistakes,dept of child service will also check you out so be prepare for a visit from them at anytime after the court orders it .If you also have a good family that will help. Along with visitation rights with your first born if you have been to court for that yet and the judge grated visitation and overnight visits with you.Get a lawyer.Go here also and ask some lawyers answer your questions:http://www.lawyers.com/community/index.php
2006-09-01 12:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like some men, women feel they can do anything! How ever things have changed a LOT!
Get your self the best Lawyer that you can afford and talk to him about all of it, honesty is your best bet to win!
Don't let her blow hot smoke up your back side! Plus when a women puts a child up for adoptions, says she don't want it! They prefer to keep children with one of the parents! I would say you have a great chance of getting the child!
GOD BLESS!
2006-09-01 12:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a lawyer and start consulting right away to stop her in a process. Women can get weired like that. I think she is using it as an asset against you but its wrong on every level because she is playing with the kids life. You need to threaten her and get a lawyer now.
2006-09-01 12:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by Donna M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry it's to that point, but if you have a bad background it would be best that one of your family members take the child until you are secure. Your family has just as much rights as the parents. I have a cousin who's dad killed his mom, so we sent my cousin to live with familoy in another country, they couldnt handle the financial responsibily and were ready to give him up for adoption. So my family here in the states took him in and adopted him with no problem. Good luck and dont give up hope.
2006-09-01 12:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by RIA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a lawyer straight away
2006-09-01 12:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by felicitym2000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I got my daughter. It CAN be done.
2006-09-01 12:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take her to court,,i did this and my ex. didnt even show up,i got my boy then and still have him.
2006-09-01 12:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by steve 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer....It can be done.
2006-09-01 12:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋