On the first date, I usually find out what the guy is all about.
1. Does he drink (excessively), do drugs, smoke?
2. Does he have a string of women, been Unfaithful?
3. Is he abusive, violent, controlling, or manipulative/mental?
4. Does he place family first and foremost?
5. What is his childhood background and family relationship like?
If he answers "yes" to any of the 3 above, I run as fast as I can.
If he isn't into those things, then Questions 4 and 5 come into play, and if he is kind hearted, simple, and good, which is a rare find these days, then yes there are more dates to come.
Girls, I hope this doesn't sound critical or demeaning but is this the way you make judgments on a man during the first date?
I do it in a polite jokingly way when I get to know him. It is not all in seriousness.
Example: I'll say I drink Vodka on the rocks, and he'll start ordering for me and him and then it turns into 4 drinks for him. That is my warning to leave pronto.
2006-09-01 12:27:55 · 5 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am a guy and believe it or not guys have a list aswell.
1. Is she after money/gold-digger. (watch to see how much she tries to make you spend and if she ask to much about your job). What kind of home you have.. etc...
2. Is she too religious (you may not be able to play golf anymore get a buz with your frinds)
3. Watch for the controller in her.
4. Is she too much about family (she might have a flock of kids needing a daddy because she ran off their real dad and he might kick your *** just for being with her).
6. Is she too noisy and ask too much about your past? Might be a problem. The past is none of her business and should be left in the past.
If the answer is true to any of the above she may not be worth the money you are spending on her and you should find out this info before the 50 dollar dinner is over so you can pay the bill and get out of it with the lowest cost unless you think you might be able to get her to have sex. If so spend $50 bucks more if you still don't think you can get sex take her home. It is not worth your time and forsure not worth blowing your whole weeks pay on.
2006-09-01 12:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do it differently. First of all I don't go out with a guy I don't know at all, so even before the first date he has to pass some tests. However, I'm not as strict as you, or maybe I am, but I just don't define it that way. For me, the most important thing (besides not being violent, stupid, uneducated, complete loser, or a jerk) is for a guy to know what he wants in his life, to have some sort of ambition. He also has to be kind. The numbers 4 and 5 are tests for longer relationships, and I 'impose' them after few months - of course, they are important.
2006-09-01 12:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by cityexplorer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite clever and a good way to find out if the guy you're dating is compatible with you. Remember, some women want the guy who will put back a few vodkas with her. ;)
2006-09-01 12:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by oldbutperhapsnotwise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you asking? couldve fooled me. go put this in your blog or something.
2006-09-01 12:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by sunkissedsnowflake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. thank you.. I will consider it..
2006-09-01 12:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋