We have been together for 2 years. i'm 24 and he's 27. in the start of our relationship everything was great. he would stay with me almost every night, want to go places and do fun things. I have told him that I wanted to be with him forever, he knows that I dont' want anyone eles. I can not imagin my life without him in it.. well 7 months ago he started to stay home a lot more, he goes online to play poker, when I ask him to come and spend time with me he always says he has a poker tourny going to start, He has a friend that is at his house all the time. (this is a male friend) I have told him that latley he's been putting his friend first and treating him more better then he has me and my bf got all mad about it.. I don't think he even loves me anymore.. I need some advice.. I want to make this work..
2006-09-01 12:26:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He may be taking advantage of you but I think you don't expect too much. You probably put up with a lot of crap because you're afraid to break free.
2006-09-01 12:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by f f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your b/f has grown tired of this relationship. hes tired of having to answer to someone for his actions, misses the ability to come and go as he pleases. Hes not man enough to tell you this to your face so he plays these little mind games in hopes that you will tire of them and just leave. That way too, he can tell everyone you left him. This happens alot nowadays. Hes made up his mind so everything you try and do is probably worthless. You need to start coming up with a plan B and act on it. You are better then this guy and dont need to put up with his crap anymore. Good luck
2006-09-01 12:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 2 years, things are bound to change. Sometimes the "spark" lessens and thats normal. But, if you feel as if things aren't working and he doesn't seem like he wants to spend time with you, you may want to reevaluate the entire relationship. Talk to him honestly and calmly when he isn't on the computer. If he doesn't listen or shrugs it off... you may want to think about the possibility that he may be pushing you away on purpose. Sometimes, when men want to break up and don't have the guts to do it themselves... they will push away their girl away or begin to ignore them. I'm not saying this is what is happening in your case, but its always possible. You can not change someone else's feeling... but maybe you can find out the truth now and spare yourself any more hurt.
Good Luck !!!
2006-09-01 12:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by Katie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he may be playing for the other team . and its not poker its pokehim . besides it also sounds like he has lost interest in you . your 24 and you have no idea how fast you can get over him . takes some time but believe me , time flies . you dont need anyone making you feel second best . people dont change , only the world around you does , so live in it and not for it .
2006-09-01 12:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is: are you sure you want to make it work? All it took was a little computer game and now he is pissed at you for mentioning this problem. The only way to make it work is to see if he will let you join in on this computer fun, this make take some compromise on your part if you aren't interested. Now, if he rejects your idea of playing with him. Leave him.
2006-09-01 12:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to make this work, both of you need to try, it seems he doesn't want to. He is putting everything else before you and your feelings. He is taking you for granted. You might think about leaving him to his games and his friends. Some day he just might grow up he sounds very immature.
2006-09-01 12:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 18:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see mu dear it's like when the kid gets a toy he plays over and over again later and then kid not even noticing that toy . sit down and find out what he will like you to do and then spark will ignite make some changes dress up in nice dress or mini skirt fix yourself with hair do i always wanted my ex wife to look sharp then i was following her and had fun learn to perform tantra yoga and that will make difference.sometimes say someone is interested in me that will bring his attention
2006-09-01 12:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be addicted to gambling and any dude who would blow you off for his friend and not you isn't worth it means he over you play hard to get or just dump him
if you want him more just talk to your friend pretend how fun your life is take a trip somewhere
2006-09-01 12:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the space to play his game. Tell him that you need him too.
2006-09-01 12:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋