My ex wife has scheduled my 4 year old daughter to attend preschool during my visitation with her. I only see her one day a week and now she is scheduled to attend school for 4 hours of that time. If I was to take her, I would have to drive her 45 minutes to the school from my home and then 45 minutes to bring her home again. She attends the school during the rest of the week. I don't believe she can legally schedule activities for my daughter and expect me to bring her to them during my time. Monday is my only day off from work, so switching days is not an option. Mom freaking out about this. Your suggests are appreciated.
2006-09-01 12:26:14 · 8 answers · asked by CHRISTIAN B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am very suprised to see so many people who believe preschool is more important that spending time with a parent. I have owned a childcare center for 14 years and I will tell you this ~ Missing one day of school a week to spend time with a parent is definately in the child's best interest. A 4 year old only needs 3 days a week of preschool. If this was Kindergarten it would be a different story and I would encourage dad to make different visitation arrangements next year to ensure the child can be in school and have ample time to spend with him. An early education is important ~ However there is nothing being taught in preschool that is more important that developing a close and loving relationship with a parent.
2006-09-01 13:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by seashell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the child of a divorce from when I was 3 the best thing you can do is talk to your ex sensibly, talk to the teachers and explain that she wont be there that day or else the only other option is to go back to court as yucky as that is. My mom always tried to get my sister and us not to see my sister and the only way my dad got his time sometimes was to have the judge force the issue. Always let your daughter know though that you enjoy every minute with her and you love her.
Ciao
2006-09-01 12:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by Richard and Kristi C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So are you saying that you would rather have her not attend school for only 4 hours to spend 8-12 with you?
Forget about you and your wife and think of her. She and her education are both more important than this.
2006-09-01 12:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by lalala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to work it out with her or take it to the next level and see your lawyer about it. If your daughter has pre-school it's not really something she should skip and odds are your x isn't doing it to make you mad. Your child needs to go to school and just because you have her doesn't mean that she should miss school.
2006-09-01 12:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the court and complain if you have court ordered visitation they will help you fix it.
She was wrong to do this. It will hurt the child the most if you have to fight for visitation over and over again so use the courts to fix it permanently.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-09-01 12:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work it out.
Your child going to school is not an 'activity'.
2006-09-01 12:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not gonna kill her to miss preschool on that day..its preschool and no she cant schedule the child things on ur visitation days its not allowed on the days u have her u are allowed to do what u please with her
2006-09-01 12:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely talk to your lawyer....if you guys have a set schedule for visitation, the she should stick to it.
2006-09-01 12:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋