He keeps coming on to me.?

Question

I already posted a question saying that i have some feelings for this guy at work.
and I try so hard to avoid him (almost running away) but he keeps coming on to me. It makes it harder to forget that massive ,crazy ,constent pumping sound of my heart everytime i see him. what should i do? I am married......

Answer 1

He knows and he probably likes you too or he maybe puzzled why are you running away and he tries harder to make friends. If he knows, you are probably boosting his ego and he doesn't wanna stop. I don't know how long you know him but I think it all depends on your marriage situation. You are probably going through some rough times with your husband or you guys just don't pay too much attention to one another.You may need to start being strong and bluntly just pose a question to the guy at work: "Are you hitting on me? You need to stop now if you are" That should be a turn off enough.At least I would think. Also act cold, try to think of him how immoral he is and that he may do that to someone else when you are with him.That should gross you out. Or think how would you feel if this was happening to your husband. Stop thinking just about your feelings. It may be good to fantasize but not if it interferes with your daily life.Its just a phase.You'll get over it.

Answer 2

The first thing you need to do is STOP running from him. He may think that your just playing hard to get when your not. You need to take the time to have a conversation with him, in a private place where no one will be embarrassed, and let hm know that your not interested and if you were earlier that your not now. Because if you don't take the time to talk to him then he's as confused as you are.

Answer 3

You obviously didn't care for the answers the first time you asked this but the advice remains the same even if he's making moves.
You just need to try even harder to avoid him.
I think your looking for some one to tell you this is okay but no matter how you put it, it just isn't!

Answer 4

Well, you must ask yourself, is losing your marriage worth it? If you cheat with this guy, people in the office are bound to find out and it will leak out some how. Your professional life and personal life can be destroyed. think about it. Also, I always say,"the best way to not cheat is to not put yourself in a position to NOT cheat." Let's face it, we are all human and temptations are out there. Just don't give yourself the chance to cheat. good luck there temptee

Answer 5

You have to put an end to it or there will be a heavy price to pay. Just say, "Look, you know I'm married and I take my marriage vows seriously. Leave me alone."

He sounds like a player. Don't ruin your marriage and your job because of him. If he won't stop, you may have to go to your supervisor or the HR director.

Answer 6

If you are married than you should not have a problem. If you cheat then you will cause them for yourself. See if you can change jobs or transfer. Tell the guy to buzz off and do not give him any hints you are into him even if you are.

Answer 7

Go for it! (Hey, all your friends are doing it.) Let out the inner beast and shag this guy's brains out! You only live once, but are married for a lifetime. Let fly what may, and don't forget to add the jungle noises!

Answer 8

You're not trying hard enough to avoid him. You know that.
If you really want to avoid him, you will.
Don't pretend that you have no control over your own life just because some guy is cute.
Have you ever heard of saying "No thanks. I'm married"

Answer 9

Not a good thing to do! He needs to find someone else. It is the fishbowl effect at work. Tell him to get a life!

Answer 10

The one way to really end the situation is for you to quit your job. It's drastic but your marriage should be more important.