I'm going alone tonight and I'm a little hesitant. I'm bi, but not out to anyone and I've kept my flings a secret. I'm not sure what I would do if I was having a really good time talking to someone and a straight friend saw me at the club. I think I'd freak out and look really guilty of something. Or worse yet if a friend of my family recognized me there.
2006-09-01 11:53:33 · 19 answers · asked by redcarpetden 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well first of all what would your straight friend be doing at a gay bar, so you would have to wonder about them as well, besides if you do see someone there that you know then it is ok because you wouldn't have to stress about the situation, you could enjoy your night and relax knowing that you now have someone to talk to about being gay. My first time going to a lesbian bar was an experience, they were having a birthday party and they had strippers, whooo, the things theses strippers were doing to the women. Anyway, go, have fun, have no worries.
2006-09-01 15:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Truly_Complexed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was nervous the first time I went to a gay bar alone. Hell, I was nervous the first time I went with a friend. I thought that everyone would look at me and think that I must be gay too, and that kind of scared me a little (just to admit the truth I guess). But the fact is that most of the people there don't care what you are. That's the truth. Most don't care if you are gay, straight, or bi. Try to relax as much as possible. If you do see a straight friend there, and they ask why you are there, just tell them you like the place and are having a good time. No big deal.
2006-09-01 21:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. But you know what. Once I realized I'm grown, and do for myself. I relaxed, had a Mai Tai and was OK... If this is something you want to experience, I say go, and have fun. You have to let yourself relax in order to enjoy it. OMG! The first time I went, I was scared, shy, nervous, didn’t wanna dance. I just sat there.. Looking at everyone else enjoy the club. Man... A few weeks later, I was living it up. Looking at people sitting there, looking as if they didn’t wanna be there. sooooo. Don’t be a bump on the log, relax, relate, and release all night baby... let me know how it goes...
2006-09-01 19:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by lez_fem69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A straight friend at a club is usually supportive and discreet about people they see at the club or gay themselves. As for my first time I had no idea what to expect and made out just fine. Of course I waited until I came out to try going...
2006-09-01 19:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by laydlo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a blast the first time I ever went to a gay bar. It was so liberating. If someone sees you there you have two options either out yourself or if you're not ready to say you were there with a gay/lesbian friend. Another thing to think about is WHY are THEY there???
2006-09-02 02:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mama23Girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a straight woman and I have been to a gay club. I had the most fun and the drinks were the bomb. Enjoy yourself and don't worry about what others think. Drink a Corona for me.
2006-09-01 19:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix Rising 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will never forget the first time I went to a gay bar. I went with a friend who was very flamboyant, and I said to him what if someone I know see's me and he said "you are in a gay bar, what are they doing here?" good advice and everything was fine after that good luck
2006-09-01 19:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Finally home 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to be nervous about. And if you find a straight friend in there, heaven's forbid he/she might be trying to figure out if they are too gay, bi. Enjoy having fun, be natural and everything will turn out alright!
2006-09-01 18:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by angelikabertrand64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I was not nervous my first time at a gay bar or club.
2006-09-02 23:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Necole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the 1st time I went I was with my g/f, and a couple other friends. and we were meeting some more friends at the bar. the nervousness went away in like 60 seconds. and if you run into someone you know...well, they're probably there for the same reason you are!
2006-09-01 22:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋