My wife and I have been separated for over a year, but have been seeing each other during this time. Last Sunday we planned on meeting and sitting down to talk about where we are going with this, so I went over to her place around noon, and 5 minutes later she pulls up with some other dude still in nightclub clothes from the night before (obviously spent the night with him). Yet she calls me 2 days before that crying that she wants to get together. Now that I caught her, she has changed her cell number, and I feel like I want revenge. Am I wrong?
2006-09-01 11:08:53 · 40 answers · asked by johnlawdog232003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you are not wrong. Flaunt a beautiful young thing in front of her and maybe she will change her tune.
2006-09-01 11:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shes probably confused and you are seperated so she wasn't necessarily wrong in going out with another guy but she should have been up front about it with you especially if the two of you are still sleeping together you don't want to catch anything. As for wanting revenge you will probably just feel worse if you do that. Give it some time talk to her in person show up at her house and just say we need to talk, let her explain herself, listen cautiously, tell her how you feel when shes finished ,then take time and think about what you really want, remember why you got seperated in the first place and figure out if both of you have even attempted to get past those issues. I would recommend counseling if you decide to give it another shot. Good Luck.....
2006-09-01 11:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down and be glad you found out. Yes, I understand how you feel like getting revenge - but - you're better off knowing what happened than not knowing. Now...get your life together as a single, going thur a divorced young man and have fun! Don't do anything that will get you in trouble with the law. What good are you behind bars - but for Bubba??? Something to think about - right?
2006-09-01 11:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Topez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. She sounds like she wants to be able to play and have a good time with whomever, but also wants to know that you will be waiting for her in the end. You have every right to be upset. She is cheating on you. But, what would revenge buy you? A few minutes of vindication? I think it is time that you move on with you life and find someone that loves you enough to be faithful and not play headgames with you. I am sorry that this is happening to you. But, the best revenge that you can get is to cut her off. Don't answer her teary phone calls anymore. Let her deal with her emotions and with the consequences of what she has done.
2006-09-01 11:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by katethefabulous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having hurt feelings is ok..
Seems to me she knew the time and place you were to meet for your discussion... She made it pointedly clear there was no future for you by showing up with the other man..
As for revenge, there are better things to do with your time than trying to get revenge on someone..
You know now exactly what type of person you married and are now thankfully seperated from and hopefully divorcing.. Consider yourself lucky that you learn this about her now instead of wasting more time to trying to get back together with her...
Man you dodged a serious bullet... Time to leave that particular shooting range and move on to a range where childish people don't take potshots at you..
2006-09-01 11:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is act as though she has no effect on you whatsoever. Get over her and better yourself. Show her you do not need her. Move on with your life. Be happy. It will eat her up inside that you are doing so well in your life without her. She would probably find you more attractive and want you back. Don't do it though.
2006-09-01 11:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong with feeling upset but the best revenge is living well with a nice car, nice clothes, a trim/fit body and having a younger, more beautiful woman in your arms to flaunt in front of her. Hopefully she'll think of you then as "the good one that got away".
P.S. Don't forget to be happy in or out of her sight. Don't even show her that this affects you.
2006-09-01 11:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. It was a mistake to try and continue doing this with your "ex" so now that you've seen again that you two don't need to be with each other,you have the right to go to a night club and find someone. What she did was just an eye opener for you.
2006-09-01 11:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your happiness will be enough revenge. Move on and if and when she calls, tell her that you are busy. As soon as she sees you are happy and not interested, she will HATE it.
Don't try any other sort of revenge. You are better than that. Plus, I would hate to see her have the satisfaction of being able to tell people that you want her so badly you won't leave her alone.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-01 11:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be MAD to best revenge go get a girlfriend that LOOKS way better then her and make it known your over her you moved up in the world. GIRLS hate when their ex's get someone better then they were. IF SHE ever comes crying walk away you don't need the drama and tell her that.
2006-09-01 11:11:31 · answer #10 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it doesn't seem like she's serious about wanting to get back together. Imo just move on with your life . Get a fresh start .Most of the time starting over with a damaged relationship usually doesn't work.There's too much damage done to one another to make it work.
2006-09-01 13:31:29 · answer #11 · answered by pitbullmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋