I've never gone out to a bar/ club by myself, but I may tonight. I've also never gotten intimate with someone the same day I met them at a club. I'm worried about the safety issues. Was hoping to get a sense of what to expect if I go out later.
2006-09-01 11:07:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Play safe have fun but make sure you both are on the same level because there's nothing worse then having sex tonight and thinking the person will call tomorrow and it never happens or just the other way around LOL.
2006-09-01 11:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Super 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUH! Why would u wanna go out to a club and take someone *you JUST met at the club* home??? What would b the point? a movie? tea? cards? not to have sex. Sex with a stranger... smh... that’s sad, when u have to get some, by going to a club and meeting a stranger. Ok so, what if you do. Worst case scenario, he's Ted Bundy's distant cousin, he rapes you, with no protection, give you a disease you can not get rid of, beats, u, maybe even kill you. Best case scenario, u leave the club solo and will wake up the next day. To make a long story short, No you should never go home with anyone from the club, mall or anywhere if you don’t know them.
2006-09-01 18:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by lez_fem69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh~haocan u get such a bad idea! I know what u feel cuz when the first time I step into a gay bar I also feel exciting and want to know someone. But actually don't do with them is the best choice! If u r really an idiot them got a comdom.That is all the safety issues.
2006-09-01 22:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by Zac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough to argue with hormones, but as they used to say where I grew up, "Never bet what you can't afford to lose."
Let's face it, there are diseases out there that can't be cured. Nobody can make this decision but you -- but I do know some things to think about:
1) How well can you know someone you just met? If he/she says "hey, I'm healthy, no diseases," how can you know so soon if this person is lying, or just mistaken? What if he/she slept with someone a few days ago who was infected, and didn't know it?
2) Is what you stand to get out of it (sex) worth what you give for it (the risk).
3) Are you more likely to look back on the experience and say "hey, I'm so glad I did that," or "whew, I'm so glad I didn't do that"?
For me, the answer would be "no." If you just stick to practical issues, most of the awful-to-fatal diseases linked to casual sex (and sex with someone you just meant can't be anything else) take days or weeks to show up, and condoms don't provide complete protection (and other forms of sex, like oral sex, provide no protection at all).
Some of my friends are nurses, and see the aftermath of casual sex on a daily basis. They're floored that so many people still believe it can't happen the first time, or it can't happen to them. It can, it does.
Plus, having sex right away shortcircuits the process of getting to know someone. Once you've opened that door, you can't shut it again - what if this person turns out to be a jerk? Heck, I won't even let strangers borrow my hairbrush - you're talking about something much more intimate.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-01 18:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gooddogtoy,
I love this phrase: You have already made the choice, what you've got to do is understand it.
There's no harm in taking it slow. You've already chosen to do it that way. Too many people are out there wanting to bang on any given night, regardless of responsibility or self-control.
But you don't yet undertand why. Why do you choose to do it this way? I could guess.
Okay here it is:
You want more for yourself and you'd rather know that you are with an undiseased person who wants similar things to what you want. More commitment, more love.
That's just a guess, and I'll bet the answer is better coming out of you than me. I could be wrong about the whole thing, for all I know. It's you that has to understand why you made the choice of being how you are.
2006-09-01 18:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get a good sense of safety from the person you meet, and are really interested in the person, give it a try. If the person is shady and seems a little crazy, then it's not a good idea to go home with them
2006-09-01 18:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad Idea!
Goin home with some one you met at a club is as bad an idea as going home with some you met on the street. Are they a really nice and charming rapist or serial killer? Jeffrey Daumer was quite the charmer with young men! He killed quite thoroughly, too.
Only go home with people you've known for a long time (measured in months and years).
2006-09-01 18:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have too high expectations. Usually people who pick up in clubs are people who arent able to perform intense, amazing sex, especially if they have drank and danced all night.
Take protection with you, don't get too drunk and communicate with the person, especially if you are only looking for a one night stand. Enjoy!
2006-09-04 14:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Orditz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad idea.. because condoms don't always prevent all stds from happening.You don't know if they have herpes of the mouth or anything like that.Maybe get their number.. and if they get tested and can show you they're clean.. then sleep with them.but really be cautious about strangers..they also might turn out to be a psycho and kill you when you go home with them.
2006-09-01 18:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by no name 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always a bad idea if you want to eventually have a relationship. If you just want sex then I'm on the fence about that. Be careful!
2006-09-01 18:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by DontPanic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋