Is it being prejudice if you're proud of who you are?

Question

I'm not racist. But it seems to me that when white people say they want their children to marry inside their own race they are considered racist but when black people do it, it's because they want to honor their own race by doing so. Do you think this is a double standard. Also. Ive heard of other races who proudly say their parents would kill them if they brought a white guy home and its laughed about like a joke. If I were to say that I would be considered a racist.

Answer 1

I agree with you that this is a double standard. Somehow, society has made it okay for African Americans to make fun of white people. The white people nervously laugh, even though they probably don't think it's very funny. I think it's become okay for them to do this because whites don't want to seem like they're oppressing the black any further (we did put them through hell) and maybe whites think that they deserve to be made fun of and laughed at by black people. However, if a white tells a joke about blacks, all they get is dirty looks and mutterings about what a racist he is. I don't think racism is fair no matter which way it is played. I know that African Americans have been through a lot but it shouldn't be an excuse for them to be openly racist against whites, just like whites shouldn't be racist against blacks. This is a touchy issue and you're going to get some hateful responses. I admire you for pointing out something most people try to pretend doesn't exist. Good for you.

Answer 2

You seem to be asking a couple different questions here. Being proud versus being racist.

1) Why should you be "proud" of something you didn't *accomplish*? You have a right to be proud of things you *did* but what colour you are is a product of luck and circumstance, as is for the most part (there are exceptions) , your socio-economic status. So being proud of being any race is kind of absurd. That's like being proud that the sky is blue. YOU had nothing to do with it.

2) When races other than white play "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner" or any other manifestation of what is usually labeled "reverse racism" (as if racism HAS a direction) it's not frowned upon *as much* by, say , popular opinion and the media in honesty because people of colour are generally not the ruling class. They are perceived as powerless and not a threat, so it's not an issue if they are angry. Also there's a level of acceptance as a form of apology.

As a general tip, you might want to refrain from the phrase "I'm not racist BUT..." because it always seems like a disingenuous. Given the nature of your question I'm figuring you for an American. Putting ANY thing BEFORE that, be it African-American or Latino-Amer or Chinese- or whatEVER you know what? If you were born here, you're an American, and we're all mutts.

Intelligent, free-thinking people of all colours base their partnering on character and interests, not skin shade.

Answer 3

No hun, you aren't racist. It is a huge double standard. White people aren't allowed to say those kinds of things, because if I said *omg I could never bring home a black guy*, then people automatically assume I'm racist, but like you said, if a black person was to say *I could never bring home a white girl* then its okay and people laugh. Its a great thing to be proud of your race, its part of who you are and how you are viewed by other and by society, but unfortunately society has made it some big huge bad thing.
You aren't wrong to be proud of who and what color you are, and that goes for all races...not just black and white!

Answer 4

I don't think it's racist to want to continue your race. It only gets racist when there is a double standard. If I want to have a child with a man of my own race, that's my choice...but if my child brought home someone of another race, I wouldn't give them a hard time as long as they really cared about each other. (actually I'm not the type to butt into my child's love life, period).

This political correctness does backfire though. People who want to show the world that they aren't racist will stand up for that belief for example, by ONLY dating people of another race. I think that's just as racist myself. It's discriminating against your own race to exclude them because of their race.

I for example, am attracted to guys with blue eyes and light colored hair. It's just my preference. I'm not going to find an African American man with those features. I have been called racist (and it really pi$$ed me off) because I told an African American man once, that I didn't want to go out with him because I wasn't interested (okay, A) even if he'd been white, he was NOT my type) and he called me racist. I couldn't tell him I thought he was an idiot and a jerk without being rude, so I explained to him what I'm attracted to, which was why I'd never dated a black man. I don't dislike black people...or call them names, or treat them badly...but if I don't date outside my race, (and I do have black friends)..suddenly I'm a racist? I don't think so.

Answer 5

Being proud of who you are and where you came from is not racist. Putting other people down is. There is a difference.
Yes, there are some double standards. It will change eventually. It took a long time for people to come together as much as they have. We, as human beings, are still progressing. Don't be defensive, and don't retaliate, just treat people as you would want to be treated.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with not wanting an interacial marriage. Nothing at all. Being a racist is when you totally loathe the various races. If you want to keep the genes within your own race, there is not a thing wrong with that. Sometimes interracial marriage can cause genetic complications in the children.

Answer 7

youre right in a way- there sort of is a double standard.. i guess you also have to consider american history and what has occured between blacks and whites. i was listening to a comedian the other night and he was talking about how white people are so scared of being considered racist by blacks. its kinda true.

i have nothing at all against people from different backgrounds- but i have to admit i am careful what i say around people different from different places, in fear of offending them.

Answer 8

I think its racist and ignorant for any parent to act in the manner that you just described. If you get too many people thinking like this, you will eventually get the jackass who wants to eradicate all blacks/whites/Jews/Asians/whatever. But, yes, there is a double standard against white people, and I, for one, don't agree with it.

Answer 9

I'ts not racist to want to stay with your own race alot of people do it and alot of people date out side their own race there is a lot of races that forbid there children to date out side their race not just black people example muslem, hispanic,white ect. Date who ever you what and love the person for who they are.

Answer 10

being proud of who you are per se is not, but belittling, detesting and degrading other race is. youre entitled to marry your own kind, and i dont think that makes a person a racist. it's actually your way of thinking that puts you in that category. and yes, society has its double standards :)