I met this guy and we are chatting all the time. He is so nice and we are just friends. I just did not let anyone know. Is it wrong to keep secrets, or is this okay, being in the middle of a separation.
2006-09-01 10:42:43 · 29 answers · asked by jpet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just understand that you two are playing with fire, (just friends).
2006-09-01 10:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the middle of a separation I think it is okay meet new friends. You are probably just feeling guilty because maybe the new guy is nice and cute or whatever. If you haven't let anyone know, I would consider it a secret, but it is your secret, your life.
2006-09-01 18:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've already decided on the final result of your separation as divorce. Then yes it's fine. Secrets from your mate are, however, never a good idea. How can you give every fiber of your being to someone who your keeping secrets from? Maybe these secrets are the reason your separated? The fact that your asking at all - what is your gut feeling? There's your answer!
2006-09-01 17:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by Carolyn T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, although you're still legally married, it sounds like you're on the way to being done with that. Was it because your spouse was messing around? I'd think that would make me want something secret of my own personally. And that's just fine. If you're just friends, though, how are you keeping secrets? And besides, it's nice to have a friend and confidant... But I'd be careful if you are on the way out of a marriage. Don't jump into things too quickly! Have fun and keep your head and heart just where you want!
2006-09-01 17:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by littleredridinghood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who are you hiding it from? Feeling the need to keep it a secret implies you feel you are doing something wrong. If you are in the middle of a separation, and this person is "just a friend" then no need to wear a banner proclaiming you had lunch with him...but neither should there be reason to keep it secret.
2006-09-01 17:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are just friends I really dont see why you would be hiding it anyways. What is the big secret? Married women and men have friends all the time that they go out to luch with. As far as you still be married (seperated) it most certainly isnt any of your soon to be ex's business unless you are planning on being with him again.
2006-09-01 17:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by iamahotty36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is do you think its wrong, Is the separation is towards divorce or working things out? Right now you don't need to be seeing any males as "friends" you need to think about your marriage. And yes it is wrong to keep secrets from one another, all it does is make the gap grow bigger.
2006-09-01 18:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are separated then you're not divorced so I suggest sticking with just being friends for now. It's perfectly okay to have lunch with a friend as long as that is all that it is
2006-09-01 17:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you do not advertise this to your husband. Despite the fact that you are in process of separating it will be beneficial for you to conclude separation in a friendly matter. The new friend maybe cause an outburst of jealousy, and husband will became a very hostile.
2006-09-01 18:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you that this is fine as long as you are ok with it, by the way any chance of reconciliation with your husband, or as he moved on? If so I would suggest to take the dating game slow, and find out as much as you can about the person you will be seen before jumping into another relationship. Best of Luck!
2006-09-01 17:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by maury3222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well u are still married and if u think that dis guy could destroy yo marriage permanently and u have to keepit secret it mite not be da best plan, God says u do wutever is necessary to save ur marriage anything that u let come between it can be considered wrong, so i probably would tell him so dat he knows wuts goin on.
2006-09-01 18:18:31 · answer #11 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋