I don't want to divorce, & I don't want to hurt anyone. When people feel like this do they just stay together for the heck of it and do their own thing or what?
2006-09-01 10:40:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you were really in love in the first place then you're still in love. Maybe you need a little romance. What made you feel like you were in love in the first place. What qualities did you fall in love with? Maybe the love is still there but it's been buried under the daily routine. See if you can't reignite the flame before you go throwing the water onto the coals!!
2006-09-01 11:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by Carolyn T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce
2006-09-01 17:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Unknown_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could do what my ex done the last 4 years of our marriage sit on the sofa watch TV with your arms crossed and lips poked out every night. I got so sick of watching that.
Really at this point would be better off to go ahead and start the divorce proceedings and start by separating.
When I did get my divorce after being married for 23 hard years it was such a relief i felt so much better never realized how miserable i really was.
Good luck to you be happy life it to short to waste any time!!!
2006-09-01 18:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your going to cheat just get divorced, because if you cheat everyone gets hurt, not saying divorced is any better but at least all parties have the option to move on. Do you still care about him?? If you think that the marriage is still worth working on, then try counseling. Don't spend the rest of your life unhappy but don't throw in the towel to quickly , weigh out your options first.
2006-09-01 17:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just get divorced. it will make you so unhappy to be married to someone you don't love. I did that for the past 3 years. I have two kids too. I just couldn't see going thru the pain of not loving the person that I was with. I didn't want to have sex with him anymore and everything about him i ended up hating. I started to realize that yes it was much easier to stay together money was good but being so unhappy was not good for me or for my two kids to see. My husband wanted his car and believe me that is the only thing that he has now.
2006-09-01 17:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They divorce or adapt. Not many other options, I'm afraid. If you mean "do your own thing" as in cheat, then you may as well just get divorced if you don't want to hurt anyone. I think it hurts less.
2006-09-01 17:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hurting yourself and your spouse, by staying in a marriage with someone you do not love. You could both be out in the world, possibly meeting people who WOULD love you and who would love him...you're denying both of you that opportunity by not moving on.
What's the point in staying? Financial comfort? Just don't want to get out there into the 'dating game'?
Don't deny your partner the opportunity to be with someone who will love them like crazy...even if you don't care if you have that or not...
Talk to him and see what's said and what you both decide is best for each of you...give him the opportunity to decide if he wants to continue living with someone who no longer loves him. Wouldn't you want that choice?
2006-09-01 17:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason i can think of a person would stay w/out love, is for the sake of the children. But your life will be a stressful one every day , every moment of your life. Kudos to those that think for the kids, but you must be strong in every sense of the word to make it in that love-less relationship.
2006-09-01 17:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by lopez76g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question should be "What is accomplished?" Because if you stay with someone you don't love, the only thing you're accomplishing is wasting your life and the life of your now unloved partner. There's so much more to the world and to living than "convenience".
2006-09-01 17:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by Enough 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my advice to you would be to actually do something about it. when your not in love trust me their are going to be a lot problems. you should get a divorce to avoid any chaos. so for your sake consider getting a divorce before you cause more pain to yourself.
2006-09-01 17:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by houstonfinestangel_584 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋