I have heard "forgiveness" defined as: giving up your right to hurt the ones who have hurt you. Do you guys agree with this definition, and if not what is your definition of the word?
2006-09-01 10:39:31 · 18 answers · asked by Billy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The “right” that I am referring to is internal and implicit. What I mean by that is that it is right that is only given by the mind’s eye and understood only by the one that is hurt. Of course no one has the “right” to hurt anyone, but in the mind’s eye sometimes it is the only way to heal the hurt. That’s what I mean when I use the word “right”.
2006-09-01 10:52:57 · update #1
Actually, I think I've just lost myself. It happens from time to time; sorry guys.
2006-09-01 10:55:26 · update #2
I think you are right on the ball...now if only people could learn to do that. Myself included!
2006-09-01 11:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by gigglesweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. A person never has a "right" to hurt anyone else regardless of what they've done to you. Two wrongs never make a right. Forgiveness is, first of all something that all of us need. Both on the giving and receiving end. Haven't you ever had to apologize to someone for something you did? Would you want that to be held over your head forever? Forgiving allows each person involved the opportunity to move on and GROW from the experience. It also makes you feel better because that will be one less petty issue on your mind.
2006-09-01 17:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by DaProfessor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree - your definition sounds to me like a definition for revenge. I would like to think that I can forgive someone that has hurt me. My problem is that I have trouble with forgetting what they did - especially if they hurt me emotionally or did something that really left a "scar" - if you know what I mean. I think the true definition of forgiveness is to simply let whatever the individual did to you go without ever considering any type or form of revenge and without "thinking" about it anymore (if that's truly possible for a human being to do.)
2006-09-01 18:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by Phyllobates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me the definition is abstract. When you have gone through the trauma of having been hurt and have released it from your mind, that is the time to forgive. That does not necessarily mean you have to go up to the person or persons and say I forgive you. That act is designed to release them. To me to forgive is when you have released yourself. This means that you hold no grudge, no animosity or any more feelings what so ever toward the act. You have moved passed, it is totally behind you and you have stepped forward. Even better than that, you are investing more of your time to making yourself a better person.
2006-09-01 17:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is the way of life. If you hold on to something that has been done to you, then the learning part of the lesson has not been achieved. If you have a situation in which someone does you wrong, and they want forgiveness, give it to them. Its up to you to stay in tune with your own awareness for future events with the individual.
2006-09-01 17:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by easygoingfemale44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think "accepting a mistake, understanding why it was made and not holding a grudge" works better then "giving up your right to hurt" someone. U dont have the "right" to hurt anyone no matter if they hurted u or not. (At least that's hoe i think)
2006-09-01 17:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Nika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reconciliation with pass transgressions either by you or toward you is the key to successful forgiveness. It means never forgetting yet continuing forward in a positive and healthy mind set.
2006-09-01 17:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by ews99999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in God you should not judge.. you forgive and let the judging be taken care of by God.. its hard
I once lost $100 and let go of my frustration and anger by saying God must of felt someone else needed it more.
If you don't believe in God.. then it helps to let go of your anger as it takes off on its own like a tornado.building & building until you want to do something to make that person hurt just as much. so, defuse it.. and figure Karma will catch up with them and they arent worth your wasting your energy on them.
2006-09-01 17:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by DearAbby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No forgiveness to me is letting go of what that person has done to you not necessarily meaning you must forget but not holding any grudges
2006-09-01 17:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i feel that forgiveness mean that you have let it go and not bringing it up all the time but you dont have to forget it and it will help you be a better person.
2006-09-01 17:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by peaches 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋