Do people say that only because they have to? If they say that can't stand being parents does it put pressure on them to make them look like bad parents?
2006-09-01 10:33:05 · 17 answers · asked by X 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Actually, NOT having children is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I get to do what I want, spend my money on what I want, and have all the free time I want.
2006-09-01 10:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by kalaka 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
here goes,i have 2 children and 5 grandchildren it will cause you to realize that not everything is black & white there are a lot of gray areas you will face,not to mention the love you'll develop for them// Yes it is good to have children i would not want to be under the rule of goverment who do not have children-- I've been around a lot of people in my profession and it never failed that those who did not have children look at almost everything it is or it isn't and were very intolerant of any deveation from that but when they were faced with a situtation that required any decesion making out of the norm ( and it will ) they were very heavily taxed to work out a good answer and most of the time just gave up-- One other thing i was working for a client and in casual conversation if he had any children he said"no its the worse mistake my wife and i made " i ask "why" he said "because we both worked at good high paying professions and have aculuminated a lot of wealth and will have to give the wealth to somone we dont know to wipe our a@@ when we get old and if we had some kids we could have at least let them have it instead of the nursing home or the goverment" i've never forgotten that, i believe it is a blessing that i have given the message to u & hope you'll pass it on// my neighbor is 75yrs old his wife died hes alone and looking for someone to leave his stuff to-- i ask him not to leave me anything because i have more than i can take care of already// there are charities he can help if its not too late because the will has time limits'' i hope this helps you//
2006-09-01 18:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by ma_2st 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, think back to your childhood. There were some good times (hopefully) you had with your parents. And there were some pretty terrible times. In fact, there were a lot of terrible times, but if humans didn't pass on the lie that its all worth it in the end, we would stop reproducing.
So they tell others about your first steps, instead of your first time running away. And they speak of the deep conversations you will have with your teenagers, instead of the terrible fights you'll have with them. People like to be sentimental. Nothing too sentimental about your seventeen year old son getting suspended, but when he played the lead in the school play when he was seven, now that's something worth remembering.
I think its high time this lie was stopped. The planet is already overcrowded. Get a puppy instead.
2006-09-01 17:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by legallyblond2day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having kids is an overwhelming experience. Some of us are made for it and love the whole concept. While others (some that I know) hate it. It has taken away their freedom, and the children don't fit into their concept, but they are loath to admit it not because it will make them look like bad parents, but because they can't understand why they haven't enjoyed like others have.
Each to their own I suppose
2006-09-01 17:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by Traveler 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think at times we all think that it is the best thing that has ever happened to us but then again when it is tough being a parent we also think that we are not cut out to be a parent because at times it gets really hard.
2006-09-01 17:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your assumptions have alittle to do with it.
My wife and I were ready. We had our 'P's & 'Q's lined up for daycare, budget, time and mental prepartation(HA! what a joke! ...nothing prepares you for the mental part! :P )
But yes, when properly prepared for, children ARE the best thing (next to marriage). The best thing that has happened to my Wife and I (next to our wedding day). We are ever growing deeper in love because we do not have the stress of being ill-prepared.
2006-09-01 17:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people and how well they deal with kids. Some people need to have children in their life to feel needed in this world. Others have their careers and other things that center them.
2006-09-01 17:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by TheMightyOne 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'll never forget what happened when I first held my oldest... I was in the delivery room and they got her all cleaned up and put her in my arms... Immediately, I felt this kind of "shift" within me - I don't know any other way to describe it... And I felt wonder and wonderful at the same time... It's something you can't appreciate until you go through it yourself... Words fall short...
2006-09-01 17:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its their egos, they're saying "Oh look at the little ME!"
This planet has 7 billion people on it, the max this planet can hold is 13 billion. Within 20 years, our planet is going to be suffering from very serious overcrowding.
Make sure you point this out to them and tell them "Thank you for the future pain in the *** problem your contributed too"
2006-09-01 17:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I say that because thats the way I really feel. my kids showed me what unconditional love is. They taught me to love someone besides myself. I love them more than life it self and would do anything for them. I give my last to them.
2006-09-01 17:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋