We have been married for 14 years, and it didn't bother me at the beginning (the first few years) but I see how proud some men are to wear their wedding ring and it makes me sad about my situation :(
2006-09-01 10:21:31 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am proud to wear my wedding band - I thought my glasses felt funny too the first time I put them on, but you get used to them. If your hubby has some weird job where the ring gets in the way or has the potential of getting caught (machinist, etc) then that may give him a pass.
I would let him know that it bothers you and that you would like him to wear it. If he resists, perhaps you should ask if its OK if you don't wear yours either. Perhaps he'll feel differently when the "ring is on the other finger".
Good Luck!
2006-09-01 10:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by MuffinMan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him this bothers you. He should be proud to wear his wedding ring. If it is uncomfortable tell him that you two should go look for another one that is going to fit comfortabally. If he still refuses then he does not want to look like he is married. What he doesn't know is that it makes no difference whatsoever if he wears one or not. There are lots of women that would prefer the man having a wedding ring on and try to persue a relationship with him hoping to break up a family. Those type of women make me sick.
2006-09-01 10:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends what he does for a living- if he's a machinist, a mechanic of some kind, or does a lot of work with his hands, then the wedding ring can get his finger ripped off-my little brother almost lost his at Puget Sound Naval Shipyard due to an accident.
On the other hand, if he's an accountant or some other inside working guy- an attorney, or a doctor- then he should wear it unless it gets in the way of working
2006-09-01 10:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about your hubby, but I have found that when a man refuses to wear a wedding ring they site the "it feels uncomfortable" excuse. And that is all it is....an excuse. My last boyfriend and I were together for 5 years. We didn't marry, but he had been married once before for more than 25 years (yeah, that means I am an "older woman") and said that he didn't wear one during his marriage because of this reason.
Turns out he cheats. He cheated on his first wife...and he cheated on me....and he is cheating on his current girlfriend.
2006-09-01 10:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you then don't worry about it. How does he feel about you not wearing your wedding ring? I don't think it's a big deal. If he is the type of guy that does not like to wear jewelry then maybe you should not worry about it. So...Maybe you shoudl ask him this..if a woman flirts with him and gives him the impression that she's interested in him will he tell her immediately that he is happily married and is not interested and the reason why he does not wear a ring is because he is uncomfortable with it? see what he says.
2006-09-01 10:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband when we got married wanted to buy us expensive rings. I said well I do not wear mine at work because I almost lost a finger and as you are a landscaper I do not want you wearing one. He was bothered by this so I agreed to pay for myself an inexpensive one for him to wear when he was not working for important things. He has a ring he wears occassionally himself when I am not watching to tell him to take it off. He gets confused so it ends up on the wrong finger anyways. Most of the time he says I am his fiancee for some reason I think it is because it is more romantic to his friends or starts a conversation. But his close friends know we are married. A ring never stopped a man from cheating and some women like married men. It is dangerous in some job environments to wear metal jewelry. I got a whole hand full of rings during a bad marriage it never helped my marriage but they got caught on things like the nose of a little girl I worked with at a child care center. All and all if he is good to you, brings home the money, is there then he is not cheating in all probability. The day the money disapears in all probability he either lost his job, has a secret gift coming for you or it is going to other activities like stock investments, drugs, gambling, a stripper, a prostitute, another woman etc. I love my husbands finger on his hand after seeing his father lost one in an accident more than him wearing a ring so I put it on him when it is important and take it off to put in a box because he keeps loosing it when it is off his hand. It bothers him because he is not use to it and does not like to wear it but wears it when I remember to give it to him to wear. In fact we had a fight last time I took it back from him because he felt like I did not care about him. He does not understand I care about his finger staying on his hand more.
2006-09-01 10:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by Faerieeeiren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would take serious offense to that. If he's uncomfortable with the ring itself, maybe get a new one or something else he can wear in exchange. If it bothers him because of something else I wouldn't be happy about it. I think the best thing here is to tell him how you feel about it, and hope he decides to wear the ring.
2006-09-01 10:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its a problem. My father never wears his wedding ring because of his job. He pulls wrenches and when you are in and about a vehicle the last thing you want is for it to snag on something and rip your finger off.
I dont wear a ring. I dont need the stigma attached to it, and I can think of alot better things to spend a few hundred dollars on than a peice of jewellery.
But if it is really bothering you ask him to wear one on occasion, like when you go out for dinner or to a social.
2006-09-01 10:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by timberleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it does, he don't want to be open about being married. This is one of those easy ways of seeming to have a problem of waring a ring. Been in that same situation for 31 yrs before getting tired of the open life for him & imprisionment for my life over that time, and finally got a divorce. You do what makes you happy as long as he's not cheating.
2006-09-01 10:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it that important that he wears it if it bothers him? Does he love you? Does he treat you with respect? Is he there for your? Okay,, no after answering those, is the ring that important?
I know both men and women who don't wear their wedding bands. And they are married to this day happy as can be.
2006-09-01 10:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋