about the "other woman"?

Question

i just wanted to know all of your opinions on the other women.... affairs this subject in general.. im leaving this vague...

someone mentioned its less her fault than the married man right... but how come i reality thats not the case.. why blame the other women more than the man who is married

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Answer 1

The other woman, assuming she knows she is the other woman, needs to go somewhere else. Or, wait until he is legally available. Men typically tell their other woman that there is nothing between him and his wife, they never have sex, they don't like each other, but he is staying for the kids, or the money, or whatever. Then, the wife turns up pregnant or they go on a romantic vacation. Find someone else. And, if he is cheating on her, he will probably cheat on you.

Answer 2

Right or wrong the "Other Woman / Man" often wants nothing more than a bit of happiness in her life. Men that are players would prefer a woman who is on her own and would be grateful for a visit now and again and delight in being the object of that womans time and affection. He or she may have a fragile ego and the minute the relationship goes past the initial stages they are off looking for the next thrill of the chase, they are addicted to the rush and marriage does not tame them. They mistake the exchange of the rush for something deeper and more long lasting (a natural occurrance) for having fallen out of love...."The spark's gone and I don't think we can get it back"
Other affairs can start because the situation and the circumstances are "right" for that scene to develop. A man might take a lover because he needs conversation or affection, his wife unable or unwilling to give it, but might not want to leave his wife either to hurt her or because he loves her. Situations develop and are hard to get out of. If the world was a perfect place everyone would make perfect choices, selfless selections that hurt no-one else but life is not perfect and people grab a bit of happiness, affection and excitment where thay can. Men / Women that have affairs simply for sex would do it anyway married or not and in fact numerous studies have been done about why people have affairs and surprisingly its rarely about sex.
People have affairs for many reasons perhaps they feel unheard or unvalued but basically don't want to rock the boat or make the children unhappy by breaking up the marriage though the discovery of the affair often undermines the trust so much that it all goes pear shaped anyway.
Some women / men subconciously and conciously permit their spouses to have an affair for many reasons and do so because they have no wish to lose them. This is not necessarily a low self esteem issue it may be that they are ill and unable to have a complete relationship but recognise the need in their partner and understand.
Unless the participants, knowing and unknowing, are very understanding and forgiving when the proverbial pooh hits the fan and can subsequently communicate more effectively than before (more often than not the root cause) the marriage may survive but not without resentment and a lot of suspicion. Some marriages seize the chance to re-evaluate and move on having identified the reasons and vow to communicate more honestly and efficiently in the future, and benefit enormously from the experience. It is not the worst crime a marriage can suffer. Of course it hurts, it throws your whole world upside down and you realise that you don't really know that person...or do you? Do we really know anyone?
In the end one part or the equation always ends up feeling like pooh. Children are part of the equation
Forgiveness (absolutely vital for recovery) simply depends on your outlook and ability to put yourself in the errant spouses shoes...why would they even want to stray? Do I respect my spouse? Ok, we have an active sex life but do we hug enough? Do we have a good laugh together? and so on. Although children can get incredibly confused and hurt by their parent having an affair they can recover as a family when they see the parents taking active steps to resolve the issue. Children learn what we show them. So, if they see Mum & Dad making a commitment to mend the relationship they will in turn learn how to reslove. Sadly, children who see their parents ditch their partner simply because they forgot to pick up a loaf of bread on the way home and then go on to the next, learn how to walk away as soon as something fails to please.
When the little acts of kindness, spontaneous peck on the cheek or the all out, tear shedding belly laughs between you stop...look out. Your partner may not have an affair but a bit of them inside might be slowly dying and who wants to live with a corpse?

Answer 3

As someone who's going through the affair state... Leave well alone - a guy wont leave his wife for you, a woman might leave her husband, but it wont work (95% of the time).. I knew a girl once who had an affair with a married man, she was married. they both left their partners - within 6 months - split up.. Was it really worth it.. If the state of everything is that bad - quit and get a divorce - dont have an affair....

Answer 4

The other woman may have been lied to, that is why it
is up to the woman to find out a man's status, if she
knows he is married and continues the affair, well, what
goes around comes around, if he leaves his wife for her,
chances are, he will leave her or she will cheat and leave
him, happens 90% of the time. When my husband left
me for his girlfriend,5 yrs in the marriage she left him,
now he is alone and miserable, and I am happily married
to a great guy, so I guess he did me a favor in a way.
But once a cheater, always a cheater.

Answer 5

Lately my feeling have change for the other woman. I still want to bash her head in but I feel like the husband is still at fault most of the time. The other woman is naive because she believe what the lying *** husband is throwing her way. I mean some of them must be deperate to know that the man is married then still married and can only get to see him at his leisure. Most of them believe the lies that the wife isn't doing her job when the wife is putting it down but he still just want new cat. At least I know i was but my husband still ran to another woman or should a say whores.

Answer 6

That's a good question: "Why blame the other woman more when the man is married?" He took vows to be faithful to his wife.
The other woman, if she is single, is not committing adultery. I believe it is wrong for a single woman to pursue a married man. Having said that, I believe the husband is more culpable than the other woman, since he is betraying his wife and his marriage vows. In the movie "Sex, Lies& Videotape," the husband has an affair with his wife's sister....Who is committing the greater sin...the husband?
or the sister?

Answer 7

In general the other women is stupid, why would you date, screw a man who lives with another women dose the not seem silly to you/? if he's cheating to see you HE SURE AS HELL will cheat on you if he moves in with you. THE OTHER women in general is only out 4 the MONEY and the affair is less her fault MORE HIS he is the one who is breaking the commitment he made to another person he's the loser. If she dose not know she's the other women it's diffrent then he's screwing over everyone

Answer 8

I don't have a specific opinion about the "other woman", affairs are a personal choice of the people involved. They're adults, and each is responsible for their own actions (and yes, I do include the wife/husband who chooses to stay married to a cheater.)

Answer 9

if a man could cheat on his wife who he made a commitment to then he could cheat on ' the other woman ' aswell if they were 2 get 2gether permantley what sort of woman would sleep with somebody elses husband and let him spend money or time on her that he should b spending with his family or believe that he didnt have sex with his wife which is usually a lie.i would hope that this woman would get her just desserts and that in the future when she had fallen in love with somebody that some selfish ***** would come along and do same 2 her -what goes round comes round

Answer 10

With the "other woman" things are great, but once she begins to ask for more than what you can provide, then the problems begin. Abide by you both mutual agreement of what can be done in the relationship and what cant!!! With those rules in place and constantly enforced you would be fine. Also, unless you actually intend in doing what you say you gonna do, (leave wife ....etc.) dont promise anything.