I am going to have my baby any day and I just want my husband and I to go. Is it wrong not to invite my family?
2006-09-01 10:06:38 · 19 answers · asked by GoGoMama 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Not it is not. I am guessing that there would be nothing worse than trying to give birth and having a room full of people that you don't want there. Your family will just have to respect your wishes. If not ask them if they next time they have their colon screened if you can be there, or a mammogram....stuff like that. If they aren't willing to invite you to that than they can't be upset for you not wanting them in the room.
2006-09-01 10:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you to decide who will be there. If you want more privacy, you have a right to it. However, remember that feelings will probably be hurt if you don't tell anyone you're having the baby. Unless your families are really awful, you should consider their feelings, too, and that they will want to celebrate this joyous occasion too. Could you possibly just restrict who is actually in the room during and after labor, and maybe ask that most of the family wait until you all get home to visit? That might help keep things calm but still allow them to feel included. Whatever you decide, good luck and congratulations!
2006-09-01 17:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by taylor619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you not inviting your family. It's your choice. I think it would be sweet for you and your husband and your baby to be together while your there. With everyone there everyone will want to hold the baby, but no matter what your family says, it's up to you two to decide if you want everyone around or not.
*Danielle*
2006-09-01 17:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were the only ones in the delivery room when my son was born. A few of our friends and family were there up until the time for the pushing and then they all hung out in the waiting room. Then like 2 or 3 at a time they can in to see us.
2006-09-01 18:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by swanseaemtgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. It's your baby. Your choice. I'm sure you're gonna be so drained you could use the space.
Take your time and when you're ready, invite them in. Plus I think it is a good time for the baby to get a strong indentification with the two most important people. Thus, establishing a hierarchy. Anywho. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-09-01 17:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by kree8iv73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad about wanting this to be a private time. Your family can come visit you once you are settled in your room, or if that's not comfortable for you, they can visit you in your home once you and the baby are comfortably settled. If your family acts hurt over this, tell them that your decision is final. You don't need any extra stress when you are trying to have a baby.
2006-09-01 17:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was totally like you--until my husband got deployed. I only let my sister and mom in the room with me. Had my husband been there I would have liked it to be just me and him. I think it's something special between two people. Maybe if family wants to come ask them to wait outside and don't be afraid to ask people to leave if you don't want them there. Giving birth is about you, your husband, and your baby. Not about grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins...etc. Good Luck and Congrats!
2006-09-01 17:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong. I did the same thing, my parents wanted to be there, but I just wanted my husband., as I knew that I would not feel comfortable and/or relaxed about them being there. At this point, you need to make yourself feel comfortable as you are the one who needs to be relaxed and comforted in the manner and by who YOU want. What I did was that after I gave birth., I called them right away and told them that I had just given birth and that it was so fast - - but that was a lie - my water broke at 11:30pm and I gave birth at 11:30AM. - - - so, they did not have to know so much details - it was a little secret between my husband and me...
2006-09-01 17:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is wrong. It is fine if you only want you two to be there. It is a very special time for you and him. But, I would invite the family to the hosp after your baby arrives. good luck and congrats
2006-09-01 17:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not wrong...... but you could let them be there just not inside with you ...... it is a very special day for them too..... it is important that you and your husband share this with them too,, but i would say just u and him in the delivery room much more special that way and then everyone else can visit right after and see the baby in the nursery room window while waiting to see you.......i have 7 grandchildren and it has worked great for us.......... good luck and hope all goes well
2006-09-01 17:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by mercy me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋