My son's 16, an honor roll student. He also has Asperger's, social anxiety, ADD & depression. He's excelled academically through the help of a very good therapist, meds, sheer will & hard work. But his perfectionistic tendencies also work against him and cause him greater anxiety, as his work and pace is extremely slow.
School's just started, and I can tell he's already in trouble. He's taking HOURS to finish homework because he can't focus, is so disorganized now, and panics. I can also tell his depression's bad because he's been sleeping a LOT and stays in his room most of the time. He gets little pleasure out of anything; yet, he is a wonderful young man. Teachers have always loved him because he's studious, respectful & quiet.
At age 10 my son was suicidal. His behavior now is similar. I was afraid to send him to school today. Do I have a right to get him a home tutor while we work through this? He has an IEP and special helps at school, but right now that's not enough.
2006-09-01 10:05:13 · 3 answers · asked by joe friday's grrl 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
In addition to the previous post I suggest you notify his counselor. I have had students like your son and it is good to know if they are having some problems. I once had a girl that could not go to the bathroom alone, etc. The counselor can organize and IEP and can notify the teachers to be alert to his behaviors.
2006-09-01 11:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The IEP plan should have things written in it to help. If it's not helping, teh IEP plan needs to be changed.
The IEP plan is suppose to be written in a specific legal way. Most times schools wont' do this cause they don't want to help, and they know parents don't know about the laws of this, so they know they can get away with it.
First of all, know that you are a legal part of the IEP team. The school can NOT have a meeting without you, they can NOT make decisions without your knowledge and agreement.
You can also request an IEP meeting at ANY TIME you feel it's necessary.
There are federal laws in special education that protect and give rights to students and their parents. Schools don't want you to know this cause they don't want to help.
The laws are called IDEA 'individuals with disabilities education act'
Go to www.wrightslaw.com and read up on the laws. There is so much to learn, but it makes all the difference in knowing the laws.
When schools know that you know the laws, they won't be as apt to snow you.
Also, go to www.schwablearning.org and sign up for free on their parent to parent message board. There's so many helpful nice people there!!
2006-09-01 17:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by jdeekdee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know much abt the laws what i can give is my personal opinion, i had a very hard time in school, i went through depression for most of my life and that made going to school very hard most of the time, do what you feel is necessary to help him, and include him in the decisions you make, ask him if there is anything you can do to help him he may have some helpful insight as to what would make things easier,
Good luck
2006-09-01 19:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Shorty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋