2006-09-01 10:00:54 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I do think that child support should not be mandatory. If the man wanted to abort the baby or give it up for adoption, but the woman still went on and had the baby, it's not his problem. If the woman is the SOLE person to make the choice on whether or not the baby is born (and the man has no part in the decision), then the man shouldn't have any obligation to the child if he doesn't wish to. BOTH parents should have to agree to the baby's birth. It seems pretty ridiculous to me that 1 parent gets to decide something that affects the other parent also, and for 18 years. They should do away with child support since the man has no say in the matter.
On another note, if the man decides that he wants the baby to be born, but the woman doesn't want it, in the current system the baby is aborted. Is that fair to the man? Either way, the man gets screwed if he disagrees with the woman.
2006-09-01 13:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Money isn't everything. If the one without custody does not want to EVER participate in the child's life, then take off and don't pay a thing. It just shows what type of person you are to the child.
But if that parent wants to be a parent, whether with or without custody, then there should be some responsibility for support to go along with the bonus of having that child in their life.
It is much better for the parents to work together to support their child. However, it is worse for the child if the one with custody has to continue to fight for money. If you don't want to pay, then don't be a parent. If you want to be a parent, then take partial responsibility. It's a real simple thing to figure out.
And the one with custody needs to remember that it's not all about the money. The fact that the other parent wants to leave and never return does not mean that you take on a vengeful attitude of saying, 'you played, now pay'. Get over it and take care of the child the best you can. If that person ever wants to come back, then get the money.
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I just read your previous question regarding child support. I agree with the best answer, you are getting screwed. You should help support the child/ren, but not at the expense of your not being able to actually do something with them when you have them or you not being able to have them because you have no place to live because all of your money goes to child support. The mother needs a reality check, I'm sorry.
2006-09-01 17:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I think that both parents make a child, and both parents should support a child. The support the non-custodial parent pays equals just about the amount the custodial parent pays in food, clothing, shelter, etc,
2006-09-02 01:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i think people should pay there part of support whether they have custody or not they should both be active in raising that child but i do believe that some are awarded ridiculous amounts of child support and that should not be aloud i know women who don't work because they make enough on child support to raise the child and themselves and i am sure there are men like that too
but i do like the dead beat parent law because lets face it some people are too sorry to work or support anything but there habits
i say this because i have a good friend who only asked for 25 a week and her ex makes 3000. 00 a month and if he does pay it then it is always late but she is too good hearted to fight about it and that's OK her decision but that is pure sorriness
2006-09-01 17:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by chloe dog 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you purposely looking for an argument or something? why does it have to be that way? basically you are saying if a woman has custody of 2-3 children that the father/fathers should not have to contribute to the support of them cause they don't have custody. that's not fair to either parent. why should the parent with custody have to foot everything while the other parent doesn't have to care or support them at all. if a man gets a woman pregnant, he should have to assist in paying and helping to raise that child in one form or the other. if a woman doesn't want to have custody of her children and the man has the custody, then she should have to pay to help the man pay and help to raise the child in one form or the other.
2006-09-01 17:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by wilderone74 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one with custody didn't create the child by himself/herself. Child support is to support your sons and daughters. You don't get to stop being a parent just because you want to punish the other adult in the relationship. Grow up.
2006-09-01 22:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe in child support, period. If a person does not want to help out their child so be it.
When if ever does 100% of the money go for the support of the kid(s)? maybe someone that has seen around more then me knows but I have never seen it.
When the check comes the mother breaks the sound barrier to get to the bank or more than likely the check cashing place, cashes the check and the next stop is the hair / nail salon.
I raised 2 kids with no state help, no federal help and no missing parent help and we all lived well. I was not to lazy to get up off of the couch and work to support us. I certainly had better things to do with my time than worry about if I was going to score some free money in the mail every week. And if I was going to have to go to court another time because I was greedy and wanted more money.
I have friends that are just like that. They need to get up and go to work and stop sitting on the couch waiting for a free ride,.
2006-09-01 17:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by GoneByDawn 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, the reason is, both people were responsible for conceiving the child, therefore both people need to accept the responsibility.
I believe in rare cases the one who has custody should accept the responsibility. For example I was engaged to a guy where his EX said that it was HER SON AND HER SON ONLY and he was forbidden BY HER to see the child and now she is demanding child support all of a sudden. Since he is not able to see the child then he should not have to pay for it.
2006-09-01 17:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, my dad owes my mom so much child support, it's unreal. The parent who has to pay child support should pay, no matter what. They are still responsible for their child's welfare, even if they are no longer in the child's life. I really wish my father paid my mom for 17 years, because if he did, I'd be looking and applying at colleges right now. I'm going to be the only senior in my school who says "No, my mom can't afford it" when my teachers ask if I've applied at any colleges, all because of my father's ignorance. Every child deserves child support so they can have a good life. No parent should deprive their children of money that will support them through school...college..and life.
2006-09-01 17:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by nobodyd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only if there seems to be a history from the custodial parent of child support income abuse. Some parents don't use the money for the good of the child. (Say drug addicts, money hogs, big spenders, etc.)
The non-custodial parent SHOULD have responsibility of the child they helped create.
2006-09-01 17:08:57 · answer #10 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋