my son is now 4 mnths, the father hasnt asked to come see him?

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or asked to come get him to spend time or even asked about him period...since a few weeks after he was born???...have not heard from him... but he lives less than a mile a way... should i call and ask if he wants to visit his son or if he wants me to bring him over so he can see him... or should i not have to offer that??? my friend said i shouldnt have to ask him 2 spend time wit his son????? true??? the last time we spoke i told him i would never turn him away if he wanted to see his son?? but what do u think?? it feels like to me it would be forceing him to see him if i called to ask????? sorry if this is hard to understand??

i feel i shouldnt have to offer him 2 see his own baby he should do it by himself??? right??? if he really wanted to

Answer 1

Hey if you have already told him that you wouldn't turn him away then that should be enough. He sounds like he has a problem, its not yours. Good luck.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Well, this is an old familiar story! Why does it hurt so much? Because I was the kid whose single mom took him to see his biological father when I was 6-months old. As the story goes from my mother, he looked at me and said "son (so she said) don't grow up to be like me!" He was with another woman at the time, I heard who gave him two daughters. My half sisters whom I've never met. My mom always said, especially when she was mad at me when I was growing up, just remember "your father never wanted you!"
My advice to you lady is: Try to reconcile peaceably with the father of your child. Start with a nice note of what a wonderful son he has and what a wonderful future is in store for the three of you if you guys stay together. Get married soon, even a quicky. In any event, get a DNA test of your son and his father to prove his paternity for your son's sake. (I have no proof other than my mother's word, which may not be trustworthy.) If you don't hear from him or if he's with another woman, then file for child support and other assistance, who will help you get that DNA test of the father because your son is going to need that proof in the distant future for inheritance purposes, etc.
Be prepared to cry alot, my mom did. She found out my father had finally married a woman and had four boys, my half brothers who all inherited my share of the dirtbag's estate.
All the best to your bastard son, . . . you young lady should have thought threw the consequences before. . . .

Answer 4

I hope you're getting child support from this guy. Sounds like a prize.

Any man can sire a child, but it takes a real man to be a father. And this guy, obviously isn't wanting to be a father to his son.

You shouldn't have to ask him (or bring the kid to see him? WTF is that) anything about spending time with the child.

If he isn't willing to make an effort to see his Son, than don't bend over backwards to make him, he'll only resent you. And from the sound of it, you'll probably be better off without him messing about in your life.

If you haven't already applied to the courts for support from him, do so - do it now. There are all sorts of agencies that will help you.

Answer 5

I would call and ask him if he would like to see his son. I would also keep a note book with all of the times you have called him writen down in it. if he has seen his son also write these times down. this way, if he ever tries to tell a judge that you never mad an effort you can show him/her the notebook and say "I have tried over and over again, but he doesn't want anything to do with our son" this is also a good thing to have if he tries to get out of paying child support by saying you deny him visitations

Answer 6

He lives less than a mile away?He hasn't came at all to see his son. Sounds like a young person who doesn't have his stuff together. Does he know that the baby is his for sure? you really need to put more detail because it doesn't make any sense at all why he lives that close and doesn't talk to you at all. Where ya'll a couple or just a fling??? Give more info..

Answer 7

I have to boys ? I oldest son father did the same and i told if he wants to see him he knows where i live and knows how to get hold of me? He never called or came and saw him he is now 4 years old? I hope this helps?

Answer 8

Nope dont force him, it does your child no good to have a father that is being forced to visit instead of one that wants to visit.. it ends up being a bad scenerio i know this cause i to wanted my kids father to be more active in their lives, i covered for him ,,made up excuses for him, i bought presents for their bday and x mas for him cause he didnt and i signed his name, cause i hoped that one day he'd grow up and want a real relationship with his son's and i didnt want his immaturity to hinder that relationship later on, he calls the kids maybe once ever 4 to 5 months, in 10 years they have seen him maybe 10 times, and in the last 6 years they've only seen him 2 times.. my youngest son can careless, he can take him or leave him.. but my oldest son, trys so hard to impress his dad, and to make his dad love and care for him like all the other dads he see's just to get let down every time.. I wish i could go back in time because i would of just let him drift off as far as a relationship, because atleast then my kids would of gotten hurt yes, but they would of gotten over it, instead of the constant hurt now that he does to them by coming into their lives one minute, and out the next.. Go get as much out of him for childsupport make sure u cover all your bases.. make him pay through the courts that way they will go after him if he doesnt pay.. instead of worrying about lawyers every time he doesnt pay.. because ur child DESERVES atleast that much from him .. but other then that.. dont force him to be a part of his life if he doesnt want to be.. if he grows up not missing something he never had, it will be so much easier on them in the long run instead of getting attached to someone who will never really be there for them.. U will eventually find someone wonderful that u will marry that will be a great dad to your child.. and thats what your child deserves a great dad instead of a sperm donor..

Good luck ..

Answer 9

Actually, you are right. Don't call or try to force him to see his son, because that should be his call as long as he knows you are not turning him away. He may be one of those guy's who may be in denial of fatherhood because he's not ready. Your child is your responsibility so go on with your life & be happy with your blessing. His biological will come around one day, and it may be too late to be a part of his child's life which won't be your fault.

Answer 10

I just love these complicated ridiculously-long, meandering, single-sentence questions that no one can possibly answer! How the hell can we offer any kind of reasonably good response when we have no idea about the situation?

Thank god there is a character limit, or we have to read even more of this pathetic tale.