I have a very close gay friend and he is very proud of himself. He gets picked on a lot and gets a lot of stares when we go out to the mall or out to eat or something. I hate it and wish there were something I could do to make people understand that he is still a person and a WONDERFUL friend he is always there for me when I need him just like any of my straight friends would. sometimes even more so. Can anyone tell me why people treat him like he is some sort of ciriminal for being himself??
2006-09-01 09:46:34 · 27 answers · asked by justXaXlilXemoXkid 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
justXaXlilXemoXkid,
Aren't you the greatest?
I figure your friend has more than many people ever have. I wouldn't give straight friend too much credit. Let time go on, and remember that love will win.
Those that want to make themselves different get stared at a lot. No surprises. Our outward appearance does that sometimes. But as they say, it's what's inside that counts, that's you and that sounds like him.
Sweeeet!
2006-09-01 10:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
People are either frightened, insecure, or down right narrow minded when they react that way to seeing a person who is obviously gay. My best advice is to make sure your friend knows that you will always support him for being true to himself. You can't change how people treat him, but you can stand up for him if someone goes from just staring to being verbally abusive. Some people think gays just choose to be this way...that's not the case, they don't understand that it is an inborn thing. It develops with us just like our personalities, our likes and dislikes. The sooner people learn to just accept the gay community without judging or being cruel the sooner we can move past it being such a big deal when they see them in public. Good luck to you and your friend.
2006-09-01 19:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mama23Girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the guy in question have been married, probable no person might question his orientation. (regardless of if the marriage became sexless.) If the guy continues to be single (single to a girl) and he keeps to be that way into his mid to late 30s, then human beings actually understand some thing is going on. There are kin who're genuinely clueless and do exactly no longer decide to admit that their renowned nephew or uncle might no longer be precisely promptly, yet they're far and in between.nearly all of kin understand after mutually as, extraordinarily while girlfriends look to vanish from the scene or in the event that they have been by no ability there. maximum kin will by no ability say something, even nonetheless they understand. people who do insinuate one could be gay or perhaps bi frequently wait to apply those labels outrightly till one is in his mid-20s or so, yet as quickly as back, few kin will outrightly question a guy on his orientation except they actually see him perform a little questionable habit or he has well being themes that would desire to be defined by ability of a gay/bisexual existence-variety. yet as quickly as a guy crosses into his Nineteen Thirties and he nevertheless isn't married (and that won't be able to be attributed to undesirable well being, undesirable social skills, etc.) then maximum kin universally anticipate the guy likes different adult males. some might even think of that platonic male acquaintances are his fanatics. The magic age for a guy is 35, i think of. If he's not married or would not have a extreme relationship by ability of that age, and he's not actively searching for a gal, maximum kin and acquaintances start to think of that he's gay or bisexual, and maximum will think of he's gay. And the extraordinary section is they guy would possibly no longer actually be gay in any respect. probably nonetheless, there's a solid risk he's not promptly and likes adult males sexually or affectionately at some point.
2016-11-06 06:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by winstanley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would anyone stare at him for him being gay? Or is he crossdressing or wearing weird clothing? I suspect the latter--and that's his own choice. There is no reason a gay guy cannot be seen in public and ID'd as gay, unless he is wanting people to do that.
Most guys that are gay look just like any other guy, so if he doesn't want to be picked on or ridiculed, tell him to quit doing whatever it is he is doing -whether how he acts or dresses.
2006-09-01 11:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurities! People will be people. Unfortunately, your friend has something that alot of "straight" people don't, and that is, PRIDE! We've been told to be "proud" of who we are and yet, society, and certain crowds in general, still need to catch up with the times, or go back home from public places like malls, to get, or finish, being educated at home! Tell your friend to keep his pride and not to worry about all the other a**holes still around!
2006-09-01 09:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by HotInTX 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People are ususally narrow minded or scared of what they do not understand or what they think is not normal. People stare at midgets, people that are deformed etc, this is iggnorance, and unfortunately human nature. As people become more open minded hopefully this will change. Society is ever changing, and one day , hopefully, gays will be accepted for who and what they are. My best male friend is gay, he has been my friend for 45 years and will be until the day I die. So love and enjoy your friend and to hell with the others.
2006-09-01 10:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by vivib 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People stare at what tehy do not understand. I live in Kansas City. I wear my boots, jeans and hat and trust me they stare. If you don't fit into this nice neat little idea of what most people have they stare. Some more than others.
2006-09-01 09:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mostly, honey, I think it is fear and ignorance. In that order. Some people have been brainwashed into believing that horse **** that sexual orientation is a choice. Pity the ignorant, dear heart, and just love your friend. Helen Keller said, "One of the benefits of education is tolerance." Well said, don't you think? Don't try to educate the ignorant bigots, they are not worth your efforts.
2006-09-01 09:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People should be considerate towards each other and even to gay people, and maybe he is a nice person... more power to him.
On the other hand (to Linda), he can be sweet and a nice guy all he wants but he ain't no child of God.
He becomes a child of God when he is "born" into the family of God, until then, he's just another person created by God in His image who choses to live a lifestyle that God does not approve of.
2006-09-01 09:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's not much you can do except talk to people about how good and normal he is. Some people might need reassurance that gay people are not monsters, but just like everyone else.
2006-09-01 10:00:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋