Ok we got divorced in 2004 he has a new girlfriend who has 6 kids 2 are bilogical his. Well I have 2 kids by the same guy and he doesnt take care of them. No holidays birthdays nothing. He comes around whenever it fits him. Then I have to drop everything to fit him. i just cant understand why he wont help me but hes willing to give this girl and all her kids everything.
2006-09-01 09:32:55 · 16 answers · asked by Stacy O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow that's not right, Have you talked to him about this? I wouldn't drop anything to fit him in. If he wants to see his kids it would be on my terms not his.
2006-09-01 09:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MYOB sweetheart. notwithstanding if he lived around the corner there is not something you're able to do except or until eventually there's a rodent project or an rather threat or perhaps then it may take months or years for the community government to honestly act to make him and his mess pass away. Your thought of what's community satisfaction and his are very distinctive yet not incompatible. Why not get to be responsive to him and understand the place he's coming from, then you certainly would be much less uncomfortable concerning to the placement which you have not any administration over besides.
2016-10-01 04:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Stacy....people are so damn rude sometimes and shouldn't even answer questions if they have no insightful things to say....anyways I actually know a couple that are kinda of in the same situation EXCEPT the new woman has 5 kids of her own and the man has four of his own. He takes care of the 5 kids that arent even his and does nothing for his own. These situations are weird and hard to understand. The best thing to do is not revolve your life around this guy. Take him to court, get your child support and have the court set up visitation that he has to abide by. If he doesn't abide by the visitation times THAT YOU SET....or that ya'll come to terms on.....then oh well he will get contempt of court. MAKE HIM HELP! Your children are his too...
2006-09-01 09:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by kikosgirl83 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because he's an idiot , he's alittle boy trapped in a man's body, and what happens is with these type of men, their children that dont live with them become an Out Sight Out of Mind kind of scenerio.. my x husband was like that as well.. and still is to a degree.. he use to not send the kids anything for bdays and xmas and id go out and buy them alittle something and put his name on it.. well one day i had to call him and ask if he'd call his son for his bday cause he was hoping his dad would.. and his wife said "oh i didnt even know it was his bday" and i said "oh thats ok, i always buy them presents and put their dads name on it" and that must of ticked her off, so since then they've always boughten stuff for the kids for bdays and xmas.. but he hardly see's the kids, and for along time only paid child support when it was convient to him.. the best thing u can do is sock it to him in court for as much as u can.. because he should have to pay the max for not being in the kids life.. and a good way to go about this is through the state because they will go after him for money he owes u, and will suspend his drivers license and ever go after his tax refund if he doesnt pay.. but just love ur kids as much as possible.. and if he wants to drift away let him, because it only does more harm if u try to force him to remain in the picture ( i know this from expirence).. Good luck, and find a good man that will be a good dad to your kids...
2006-09-01 09:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your ex-husband is a jack a**. first off is he paying child support? if not well then you need to enforce that issue and then your kids will receive something whether he likes it or not.. your ex-husband probably wants you to call him and argue with him ( so that he can hear your voice).... to be honest with you i just recently got out of a situation like that. my ex-husband have 3 kids 2 by me and 1 by some one else. he pays child support for her and was still giving her extra money( i dam near believe that he was scared of her)lol,any how he would n't even buy his kids a pair of stockings form the dollar store(2 packs for $1.00 . When i tell you i was so mad, because here i am struggling to support my kids... so iwent to child support on his a** and i the funny part about it is i told him the exact day that i was going and when i tell you he was out side waiting for me trying to talk me out of taking him to court, handing me $300.00 and telling me that he will give me more when he got paid. as bad as i needed that money i said NO! and did what i had to do.so now he's working over time just to keep extra money in his pockets. he's so mad at me he does not call his kids ,or see them at all they ask about him at times, at times it's hard to answer but i give the best answer that i can.all i can say is just think about you and your kids . just think if you was a child would you want your father sending you mix signals coming around when he want to exspecting for your mom to just drop every thing . it's not right at all.. and when the kids get older he will have to answer to them... as they say the child or children that you show intrest in will be the same one to huert you and put your a** in a nursing home when you get old....(and then he will be calling the ones that he neglected) and they will say NO WHERE WERE YOU WHEN WE NEEDED YOU THE MOST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-01 10:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by UNKNOWN 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's easier to take care of the kids that live in your home than the ones that don't he sounds like a jerk!!! Do u get child support?? If not then you need to teach this man a lesson get child support. Its not fair that he is just forgetting about your kids do it for them!! Theres not much more you can do..
2006-09-01 09:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by Groover_84 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a Jerry Springer episode on site at a trailer park
2006-09-01 09:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by gozedown 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just keep taking good care of ur babies, cause when they grow up they will see him 4 what he really iz. A pu$$y!! Every father should take care of his children, whether he cares for their mother or not!!!!
Keep ur head up!!!!
2006-09-01 09:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by Di 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
men are selfish. they don't understand what it's like to have to give yourself up for others. i think you should forget him and find your kids a better male role model.
2006-09-01 09:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by arod 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is none of your business what he does, sweetie, so back off and mind your own business! He does not have to report to you! I am sure that there is more to this story than you are telling
2006-09-01 09:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋