Do you consider having female friends having an affair if your married.If your having phone conversations with the female that you wouldn't say in front of your spouse.
2006-09-01 09:32:01 · 32 answers · asked by BB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A considerate person knows when they are crossing the line. We normally account for ourselves out of respect and courtesy. Like saying what we did for lunch, why we're late, or who we were speaking to on the phone! In the beginning of a relationship, little just goes without saying or else you give the other cause to wonder. Trust develops this way or it doesn't. The shallow one comes across as someone who disregards your feelings and you figure they're up to something. It's not a matter of wanting to keep tabs -- it's the sense that you yourself are open and why can't they be? what are they hiding? He may not be having an affair but he's certainly aware of himself and should be more courteous in his actions. You suffer regardless until you bust him or he learns some common decency. Don't turn into a private detective or hire one -- the truth will out, or you'll get sick of wondering at his behavior; and dump him.
2006-09-01 10:00:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're hiding anything from your spouse should be a problem all on it's own. Affairs can both be emotional and physical. If you're having an intimate friendship with a female friend and sharing intimate details you should otherwise be sharing with your spouse then it's considered emotional affair. Obviously if there is sex involved with her then it's both emotional and physical. To answer your question: It is the INTENT for having this female friend in the marriage. What are the motivations for having her around? Is she just a casual friend and therefore just having a casual conversation with her or is it more intimate than that? These are the things you should be asking and if it's hidden from your spouse then it's very inappropriate in my opinion.
2006-09-01 09:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that it's having an affair. However, it could be a breach of trust or a betrayal, depending on what was being said.
The important thing here isn't what vocabulary you are using to describe the situation, it's whether or not the person doing the talking knows that what is being said is harmful to the spouse. If it is, then it probably shouldn't be said.
2006-09-01 09:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by DAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a very fine line. I believe cheating can be either physical or emotional. Sometimes the emotional can be worse. We have to face facts and understand that the people we are with will say and do things when they are not with us that they wouldn't dare do in front of our faces, but most of the time, that kind of thing is just talk. Now, if it goes beyond light flirting or joking, I would think that's a problem.
2006-09-01 09:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's just stupid. I consider a affair when you are married an you're dating some guy. If a spouse got mad or jealous when I had friends over I would dump him.
2006-09-01 09:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by maxie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
female friends....as long as u dont have lesbian relationship with them....NO... phone conversations that u will not say in front of ur spouse....well u can have small girl secrets between u and ur female friends...something personal maybe that will be embarassing if ur husband will now.... it doesnt mean u are having an affair.....
2006-09-01 09:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An affair would be any type of relationship that one person keeps secret from their spouse, because if the spouse knew about it they would be hurt, jealous or filled with murderous rampage.
2006-09-01 10:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, unless you have sexual feelings towards these women and find yourself wanting to spend time with them for sexual reasons. If it's just a friendship, then I think it's fine to have conversations about things your wouldn't discuss with your spouse. We have a different kind of bond with women that men do not understand, so it's perfectly acceptable (IMHO) to have close female friends--not an affair.
2006-09-01 09:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
an affair would be when someone is with another person for the purpose of sex. If he is talking behind his wife's back, saying stuff he wouldn't say in front of her, that is not good.
2006-09-01 10:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not telling the liar, not coming back at night to home,having some secrets, hiding something - getting angry and upset if you ask him to explain his behavior,and smells after
have sex - you know - but not like with you/similar/.
Hiding his real income, looking better going out than with you,
- the first symptom if dosen't care like used to, less interesting to talk and shere informations and more agresiv and less undestending, looking for any reson to fitgh and have problem with you. Dosen't have to be your friend on the phone can be sombody outs. Friend is friend but you don't need camuflash to talk about it - it's stinks and is stupid.
2006-09-01 09:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋