Just looking for some straightforward answers here. Is it the way he expresses himself, talks, how emotional he can get, or the good deeds he does? Also, could a guy just be putting on he is a do gooder but really not? by that I mean conflicting, or just an act to please you as a boyfriend. Any tests or trial to see if he is genuine?
Any input is wonderful. Beautiful day to you.
2006-09-01 08:55:25 · 17 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Honestly, there's no real way to know for sure without having a relationship over a significant period of time.
I will say that I pay attentio to the way he drives. I hate aggressive drivers. If he exhibits any road rage, I'm totally turned off. I also pay attention to the way he treats servers in restaurants, people selling movie tickets, delivery people, etc. Good hearted guys will be polite and gracious to everyone.
Oh, and his family. If a guy loves his family, he's probably a keeper.
2006-09-01 09:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is nice to animals or if he talks well about the other femailes in his life (mother, sisters, aunts). Also, if he holds the door for strangers and donates to the charity boxes.
Signs he is putting on an act: talking bad or making fun of the nice things he did. Snickering when someone else has serious misfortune, like a death in the family, ect.
2006-09-01 16:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by sawtooth_honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Observe his interactions with others and listen to the way he speaks about other people. When his friends ask for help, is he willing to lend a hand? Does he talk bad about people he's supposed to be friendly with after they leave the room? Unfortunately, there are a lot of posers out there. The only way you can find out if he's real or false is observation, which is why you should get to know somebody before getting emotionally attached to them.
2006-09-01 16:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him an EKG.
Sorry, couldn't resist that.
Seriously though, a person whom I knew and loved deeply, (my Grandmother), taught me a valuable lesson which holds true for me too. She said, "You can judge a persons character by the company they keep". Humans are instinctually pack animals, not in the literal sense, people with like characters always group together. Grandma and I used to sit in the mall for hours over coffee just people watching. It's interesting how people act in a group vs being alone.
2006-09-01 16:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Versatile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are their friends, how do they treat others: Waitstaff, baristas, doormen, etc.
Do they like animals, do animals like them?
Watch how they are around kids. A good person, even if he doesn't want kids, will still treat them well and give them the same amount of attention, if not more, than an adult.
Now you have to worry the guy won't swing the other way -know the signs of codependency and try to avoid them in a guy. "I'm too nice, no one wants me" attitude is bad news.
You want to FIND nice guys? See who's volunteering at the local homeless shelter, road cleanup, animal shelter, etc.
2006-09-01 16:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i don't know how to tell but i can tell u how i knew my guy was, when i first met him his car was loaded up with the dogs of friends that had no one to take care of them, since then he has showed it by simple things like just a few minutes ago i asked him to stop doing what he was doing and get the cocopuffs out of the cupboard for me cause the box was to high for this short person to reach.
2006-09-04 14:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on the lookout for the small gestures. Stuff most people take for granted. Like saying "Bless You" when you sneeze. He'll help you carry something heavy. He'll worry about your feelings before his own. He'll give you the benefit of the doubt. Basically, the traits of a good friend.
2006-09-01 16:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man can have a rough exterior but a good true heart within. a man can have a wonderful physical exterior but be devoid of all morals. learn to look inside the soul and spirit of the person. with practice you will develop the use of a " sixth sense " or instinct. be true to your self and always do what you think is best not what he or anyone else ( your peer group ) thinks.
2006-09-02 10:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know because he'll do things to be nice. He'll do things to show he's thinking of you when you're not around. Also, he won't treat you any differently when you're in front of other people than he does when you're alone. And most likely he's also nice to other people. That you can really tell. If he's not nice to other people then it's probably just an act.
2006-09-01 16:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by meg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words and actions are cheap. If you want to see how good hearted someone is, observe them around their family. That goes for Men or Women. People tend to be more themself around the people they feel most comfortable with.
2006-09-01 16:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by Duke P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋