..truly loved you. And loved your children. And took care of all of the bills. And helped your family out whenever they needed him. But he had outside affairs from time to time.
Would it be worth staying with him? Before you say an automatic YES or NO..give it some thought.
2006-09-01 08:48:45 · 23 answers · asked by FavoredbyU 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I gave it some thought. Absolutely categorically not. How could he 'truly' love you or his children if he was prepared to form physical (and let's not kid ourselves, probably emotional relationships) with other women? He is denigrating his family and very probably lying to all the women concerned Staying with a man who is not faithful to you is perpetuating a sham, for money and status.Isn't that akin to high class prostitution?
2006-09-01 10:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. This man doesn't respect you and if you were truly contented with the situation then you wouldn't be asking this question. All the things you have listed is all good and nice but what are YOU getting? The whole point of marriage is belonging to only each other, body, mind and soul. So, no. Please for your own self esteem leave this man. Have you also asked yourself what damage will be to your children's future morals and relationships? Because they know. I knew that my dad was unfaithful to my mother. I have known since I was 7. Think long and hard about the pros and cons. Because in my list the cons weigh more.
2006-09-01 15:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it would be worth staying with him. You already know that he is not leaving you for anyone else. I bet he makes you feel secure to. All men fool around and have affairs, including the women prior to my answer. Their men have just not gotten caught yet. It is just a matter of time. Men have this genetic beast in them that makes them want to be with different women. Some can control it better than other's and some just don't want to. My thought is that if you have a good man, he loves you , you love him, and everything is great, why would you want to give up your marriage/relationship? You could dump him, get a new man that you don't like as well who will cheat on you to. I have seen many men on here answer that they don't cheat. They just don' t want women to know they cheat. Some will admit that they do. I would rather have the truth in the end.
2006-09-01 16:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No need to think about it, the day you trade material goods for self respect and dignity, once you compromise yourself you have nothing. And what do you mean he truly loves you and your children? I don't know how you define love but that certainly wouldn't come close to fitting mine. I might stay for the comfort of the situation and the opportunities for my children (all the while socking away funds for the day I left) but I certainly wouldn't delude myself about it having ANYTHING to do with love and I would certainly be having some affairs of my own!
2006-09-01 15:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO, NO. All the money in the world is not worth having a relationship with someone who does not respect you. He has no concept of the term "commitment". I'm sure he has a very reasonable and logical argument about how cheating does not mean he does not love you...blah, blah, blah. For myself, I see no reason to BE married if you can not be faithful to your partner. I would have been gone after I found out about the very first one. I will not allow myself to be treated that way.
2006-09-01 15:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off - he is obviously not the "best man in the world."
Now, moving past that. It all depends on what you need. Can you be happy with a part-time man? Is the money what is important? How old are your children? Do they know he is a cheat and what will they do when they find out? How will they feel? Will they then be cheaters?
You have to decide what is important to you. If you feel you can live like this and be happy then live that life and don't dwell on it.
As for me, the answer is no because I prefer honesty in my relationship and luckily I have a husband who gives me everything that he can, loves me, loves my child and ours, and helps out with my family. He does not cheat on me nor I him because we know how lucky we are to have what we have and neither of us is willing to blow it for a cheap lay with no meaning.
Addendum
To those who think all men cheat - if you honestly believe that all men are cheaters simply because they are men then you are not only insulting them, but you are giving them excuses to cheat. You are setting yourself up to be cheated on and you'll have to allow it because you believe it cannot be any other way. You are wrong and I am sorry that whatever has occured in your life makes you believe this to be true. Cheating is neither genetic nor is it sexually biased. It is a common human flaw that can be controlled - or not.
2006-09-01 16:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No because if he truly loved me and my kids he wouldnt have to have affairs with other women and he would know that all id care about would be to have him by my side all the time and with my children and not about anything else.
2006-09-01 15:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by la_reina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's two ways to look at this, you either
a. stay, make as if all's alright and keep on living knowing that what you are doing is showing your children it's okay to let another person walk over you ( they know honey, trust me)
b. walk away with your head high knowing that it's never right to accept betrayal.
i would pick b. but only you know what's of more value in your life, plus your children shouldn't be paying for your husband's mistakes, right? only you can chose the answer to your dilemma, sorry.
2006-09-01 15:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by AMBER D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be worth loosing your dignity and self respect for.
You can get a job and provide yourself with the material things. Not to mention the children, what kind of an example are you setting for them? Wouldn't they be happier seeing you be happy? Children aren't stupid.
Once you let someone walk all over you and take away your dignity, that's going to be hard to get back. Its not worth it.
2006-09-01 15:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loved me, he wouldn't be having affairs. I would probably divorce him. I'd rather have my integrity and dignity and find someone who truly loved me and respected me than staying in a place of relative physical comfort but having a husband who is by no means a husband. Fidelity is a major part of marriage. If the woman values her integrity and values HERSELF, she'd make him change, or she'd leave him.
2006-09-01 15:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋