Recently, I seem to dress more and more like a man. My family tease me and say I am a cross dresser. Is this just style or could I be a gay girl? (I have kissed another girl and I liked it ok)
2006-09-01 08:22:46 · 34 answers · asked by Isis 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
nah you're not gay. you're just experiencing how its like to kiss a girl. kissing a girl & dressing like a boy doesn't make you GAY. it's your feeling that determines whether you're gay or not. =)
2006-09-01 08:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by jv637 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Other than the obvious, being attracted to the same gender. There isn't really much to go on. Unless you subscribe to the narrow minded sterotypes that most people often fall back upon.
It is actually a womans' fashion trend that hasn't really died out yet, to be wearing clothes with a Masculine subtlety, unless you're wearing blatantly garrish Logger or Biker costumes everyday, I don't believe you have a problem. Your family is only playing with you.
It doesn't matter if who you've kissed is a guy or another girl, If you kissed someone you liked genuinely, wouldn't it make sense that you liked the experience no matter what the circumstances?
Give it time, you can always decide what you want to be when you grow-up, later. Most of my lesbian friends still haven't grown-up, and they are still in their 30's and forties.
Live your life well, try to find happiness where you can find it. Study hard, coz the ecconomy is really sh!tty right now, good jobs are hard to come by. When you're a professional doing what you enjoy doing, living in a home you paid for, you can laugh at all the wannabes who made fun of you in the past, coz more than likely they will be the ones living in poverty, from paycheck to paycheck worried about the bills and if they will still have a job or even a place to call home to sleep and live.
2006-09-01 08:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by somber_pieces 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no clear cut definition of Gay, but if you should find that you are sexually attracted to someone of the same sex in preference to and to the exclusion of the opposite sex then yes that could be termed as being Gay. If you find that you are comfortable in sexual relations with with either man or woman then you can be considered as bisexual. I am a bisexual male and i am comfortable with this, as my next relationship could be with a female.
Just because you cross dress this shouldn't be the only indicator to you sexuality.
Heterosexuality is the attraction to the opposite sex in preference to and to the exclusion of relationships with the same sex.
I hope that this will help you decide what you want in your life.
2006-09-01 08:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by tunisianboy46 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the way you dress doesn't make you gay. not all women dress like men. if youve kissed a girl and u liked it then mayb u need to explore those feeling s a little more. Only you will know the answers about your sexuality.just take your time dont rush in to things and things will work out.
2006-09-01 09:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by caz70 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Back in the late 1800s to be "gay" was to be sexually promiscuous, and that context was heterosexual. In the vicinity of and just before the Great Depression, it was essentially 'a party animal', especially during Prohibition (alcohol was banned in the US for a while). Back in the 1960's it caught on to be homosexual in the broad sense for both genders. Today, it seems more like just the men who prefer men as sexual partners, the lesbian crew seems to want a distinction (which I can understand, the thoughts of watching two women being intimate is certainly different from the disgusting revulsion of the thoughts of two men in carnal knowledge with each other).
In this context, if you couldn't really get your jollies except with a woman, then you would be.
For women to dress as men, is as common as dirt, so that's just teasing. For a man to dress like a woman, now that would gather attention, but doesn't prove anything. Why would he do so? For grins and giggles? Milton Berle did that long, long ago and he wasn't gay, it got laughs. If a man felt some sort of fetish and it helped him get his jollies by wearing a bra, then that isn't necessarily gay, just really, really different. But if the man is doing so to advertise for other men that he wanted a man to treat him as a woman, then that's gay. Similarly, are you using male clothing to attract a woman's attention for lebian copulative creativity, then that's gay. The trans people, are distinctly a horse of a different color. Some fem men want to change gender in keeping with their role with their gay mates. Some men, and women, simply feel like they have been living some twilight zone episode and they really aren't what their features say they are. Now, if I were to change gender, for instance, that would make me gay, because I only have interest in women and the plumbing change would make it girl on girl. But the question comes back to you, do you dress like a guy in order to be butch to your girlfriend lover or because you like to dress like a guy? One is gay, the other is not.
2006-09-01 08:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being gay isn't anything to do with how we look, it's about how we feel on the inside. If you like girls then you could be Gay. People choose how they look as an expression of what makes them comfortable. Try not to get bogged down with labels and boxes. Just be you
2006-09-01 22:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by kitpoodle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you sound super young, so........I think it sounds like you dress in whatever clothes make you feel good, and look good. If you've kissed a girl and liked it that's great. I wouldn't get all jacked up about it till you have more experience with either the opposite sex, or the same sex, or both. Believe me, you'll know soon enough, and either way it's fine
2006-09-01 08:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by libraesque 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dressin like a dude is just being a cross-dersser gay is when u sleep with sum-1 of da same sex
2006-09-01 10:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ripsrod 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anytime u cross over to the other side and experiment even as simple as kissing then it's consider gay to me. Or bi what ever it is you crossed over in my book. I'm looking for a long-term girl whos' never crossed over and not even a thought of doing any homo act. Why because I don't have any desire what so ever. So I want the same from my girl.
2006-09-01 08:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you attracted to women 100% of the time? Are you attracted to men at all? I don't think how you dress should define your sexuality. Granted there are gay women who are more comfortable in the tomboy/butch persona....which is fine! The big kicker is if you are 100% attracted to women. If not, you might be bi-sexual.
2006-09-01 08:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A person love the same sexual person is gay, otherwise, no! That's the define of what is gay.Ignore anything else!
2006-09-01 15:32:11 · answer #11 · answered by Zac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋