ok.. I'm 24 years old and my boyfriend is 27. we have been together for 2 years. in the start of our relationship everything was perfect. my boyfriend wanted to go places and be with me all the time.. Now it's he only spends time with me really when he wants to. and everytime we go somewhere he has to have a friend with him. his online poker seems more important and his friends more then me anymore.. I have told him that I don't want to be with anyone eles and I love him to death.. do you think this is the stage of our relationship where he feels too comfortable and since he knows i'm not going anywhere then he thinks' he can do whatever he wants like spend his time playin poker then spending time with me. should I challange him like go with my friends and make him wonder what I'm doing. have him call.. I need some advice
2006-09-01 07:57:14 · 5 answers · asked by Jenn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you need to live your life the way you want it to be. If he can't be a part of it or only occasionally, then you should make it clear to him that this isn't acceptable to you and you will move on.
You are still very young and there are plenty of good guys out there that aren't jerks. He still seems very immature and it seems he really doesn't want to settle down.
Perhaps you have become too clingy?
But people are either a couple or they are not. It's as simple as that.
2006-09-01 08:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be, as you say, "more comfy with the relationship", and may be trying to take advantage of you and the situation. He may be getting "burned out", not with you, but with the whole idea of being tied down. The prospect of keeping a relationship together today is more of a challenge that ever before, due to the fact of everything being right at our fingertips, ie..computer, satellite TV, etc.. It can take away from you two the feelings that got yall together in the first place. Yes I believe that he is taking advantage of this and taking you for granted. If you feel this strong then its time to take this relationship to another level. Take time to sit him down and decide what he wants with this and if it seems to be the same ole thing, and he wont change his habits, ie..having friends around, internet poker etc..then put it to him, in no uncertain terms, that this has to stop or you are through with this and ready to move on. Good luck darlin'.
2006-09-01 15:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by tennman012000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get into playing games with him cause youll lose. It sounds like hes bored with this relationship and secretly wants out but isnt man enough to say so. So hes going about it the chicken way and get you so sick and tired of him, youll just leave. By telling him what you do and him not saying anything back confirms my suspicions, but is also telling him he has total control over you. This is probably not your fault but him just being a guy and getting bored with what hes got. You should have had your own life too all along but starting one like you want wont do anything to him except tell him youre getting ready to move on. You must decide whether this relationship is worth saving or if its time to move on. Youre young enough to start over again and be happy again. Do something but dont play his game cause it will only cause more problems. Youre better than that and dont really need it. You just have to think whats best for you now. Good luck
2006-09-01 15:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who wants and respects you. Time to put this boy to the curb!
2006-09-01 15:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Static cling...a wonderful thing.....
2006-09-01 17:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by Einstein 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋