My friend of sooo many years has been dating this rotten jerk of a d**chbag. He is awfully rude to her, drinks all day long, and even throws things at her when they're fighting. I know that it is ultimatley her decision, but is there anything I can do to let her see what an a**hole this guy is?
I have been trying to keep my nose out of it for the time they've been together - but the other night when he was drunk and looking for her (he called me) he said "You know, if I had met you first I would have totally been dating you".
SUCH A D**CHEBAG! What should I do??
2006-09-01 07:51:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This girl has no self-esteem and no self-respect
She probably had no relationship with a positive father-figure while growing up.
It's very hard to break this cycle becasue she probably thinks that his behavior is her fault and goes through a repetitive cycle of trying to prove her love to a man who does not love her.
It's a very sad thing, but unless she sees these realities she can't escape.
2006-09-01 07:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 00:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 01:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what he said. And even if she doesn't believe you or do something about it then just be there for her. Take every opportunity to praise her as a strong, no **** taking person. This asshole is trying to stomp all over her confidence so you build it as best you can. But keep in mind that YOU come first in any situation and if her relationship is taking precedence over your friendship then tell her that YOU need space and cannot cope with the person she has become. I know how this is going to go because I lost a childhood friend this way. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-09-01 07:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do for her in that way. You CAN help her in other way. When the s**t finally does come down (and it will) be ready to help her get back on her feet. Give her a place to crash for a little while, give her the moral support she'll be needing, etc.
She needs to realize what kind of a mess she's gotten into on her own time. If you try and convince her, she might even resent you for it. You sound like a good friend. Good luck!
2006-09-01 07:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by Dan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with your friend when her boyfriend isn't around and talk to her about it. Tell her that you are worried for her because of how you see him treat her. Then tell her what he said to you the other day about dating you. She probably won't want to listen or will make up reason why he treats her like that. Tell her that she deserves much better than the way her treats her and that you know there is someone else out there for her that will respect her. You definitely need to stick your nose in here. That what friends are for. To look out for each other.
2006-09-01 07:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a good friend and tell her mom.. seriously she might hate you for awhile but sex is an extremely big deal and she's too young to understand let alone be having it. wouldn't you prefer she be angry with you rather then throw her life away by ending up pregnant to a guy who clearly doesn't care about her or he'd wait for as long as she wanted. preferably atleast until she was an adult not a child!
2016-03-17 06:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-25 21:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some like to be abused and some like to abuse other . What type is your pal belongs to ? If your friend enjoy and love to be abused by him. then you should stay out .if she doesn't your help will be well received by her when u openly talk to her.Strict honest talk will do the trick. When he is drunk and said that he would date u instead.u should know how truthfull it is .
2006-09-01 08:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by CONFUSCIOUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing. she'll get mad at you for interfering. i know it sounds harsh, but really, that's the sitch. the only way for you to help her is to be there when she realizes that he's a douchebag. trust me, she'll learn eventually. the same thing happened with me, my ex and one of my best friends (female; no we never dated). after i broke up w/ my ex, my friend was like, finally, she treated you like crap. you can do so much better. trust me, just stick by her, she'll be grateful in the end.
2006-09-01 07:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋