I have recently been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, my b/f said that he would be here for me. the past few days i have had a really bad side effect from medication, i had to go to the hospital even. I called him and told him my mom was taking me - he didnt even offer to go, or to come over after i got home, then when it happened again the next day, he was sleeping and wouldnt come over - he knows im mad and appologized, but why cant he just be here for me? Weve been together 4 years, work different shifts now, and im always always there for him, am i stupid to help him when he cant be here for me? is he being mean or just dumb?
2006-09-01 07:49:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Your probably aren't any use to him the way you are ... He is treating yo like a thing.
2006-09-01 08:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was diagnosed with FM over ten years ago and the first few years were the worst for me. It is a long and hard road to find a way to live and I feel blessed for the good quality of life I have been able to achieve. It has been my experience that many people (not just men) have a problem with understanding this condition as you do not look as bad as you feel. He probably doesn't understand because he cannot feel what you are feeling, unsure of what he can do to help (men typically like to be able to fix things), or he is uncomfortable being around hospitals. This being said you need to impress on him how much you want his support and that maybe the two of you could go to a support group meeting in your area. Good luck.
2006-09-01 08:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by superrrmodel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys have a very difficult time dealing with bad events and stress, so they just do what is easiest for them, just try to kinda ignore the situation, like the ostrich who puts his head in the sand and thinks noone knows he's there. Guys are the same way. You have to tell him specifically what you want, don't wait for him to offer to go with you, ask him to go with you. Be specific with him, and see how things go.
2006-09-01 08:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by aliisdisturbed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is selfish, ALL guys are selfish, if he was sick or hurting im sure he would want someone taking care of him hand and foot, and if you didnt he would probably call you selfish, but see, you wouldnt say no because GIRLS ARENT SELFISH
2006-09-01 09:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You chose him that way.
You can't ask him to change.
Either you accept him and eventually get knocked-up, and your are stuck with him and his kids.(Would he be a good father? I don't think so).
Or your dump him and eventually find someone with a heart and a head....
2006-09-01 08:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Marvin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is being thoughtless and selfish. Dump the loser. You need someone that is going to be there for you.
2006-09-01 07:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe...Nice Question. Most guys are... . I think he is just being dumb.
2006-09-01 07:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by nadusha s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just being a jerk, like he is thinking she is not really sick cause guys think girls are drama queens
2006-09-01 07:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by Oh Boy!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you been there for him that long he should be there for you every time you get sick.
2006-09-01 07:59:45 · answer #9 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋