The rules for marriage should be changed?

Question

I would like you to think about this,,,,,,,,,

Marriages should be simular to a 3 year car lease. After the 3 years are up, you have an option to renew your vows or go your seperate ways. This will happen every three years.

Any way we can work on this idea?

Male, Married 8 years... (for you ladies, don't bother responding if all your gonna say is "I feel sorry for your poor wife!" boring!!!)

Answer 1

that sounds like a plan to me....contact your legislator and have him introduce a bill....good luck with that!!

Answer 2

LOL I always thought this was a good idea too!! A renewable contract, with everything re negotiated every few years (I think 3 isn't quite long enough) I think people would take better care of their relationships, especially when the deadline was approaching. They wouldn't allow themselves to become so comfortable that they ruin their marriages. They wouldn't be able to take them for granted the way they do. And I think it would keep them talking about their relationship throughout, thereby reducing the emotional trauma caused by surprise divorces. It would force them to THINK about the relationship and whether or not its working for both of them. I don't see it as reducing the level of committment at all. Forever is a bogus, fairy tale idea anyway, its just not realistic and the divorce rate proves that beyond any shadow of a doubt. Marriage in its current form fails to take in to account human nature, and how can it work without considering that factor when its humans who are involved in it? If the negotiations were already done then everyone would know exactly where they stand and there wouldn't be any of that back stabbing hysteria that occurs because you both agreed to it all upfront when nobody was angry or hurt. People would find a way to screw it up and lawyers would make it a nightmare though, of course you could start an entirely new field NOT lawyers just negotiators who do only this. It will never happen but I like the idea a lot!

Answer 3

I dont feel sorry for your wife, she obviously is trying to go for Sainthood.. by being married to someone that finds marriage so trivial that they can compare it to a lease on a vehicle.. Takes a lot for a woman to put up with such a little boy trapped in a mans body.. Which unfortunately is not her fault since ur parents are the ones that raised u without obviously focusing on what makes a boy into a "real" man, someone with morals and values.. And if u had a clue, u'd see that your "idea" is selfish.. because "most" marriages involve children.. so basically ur saying that every three years its ok for a child to get a new mommy or daddy in their lives just to lose them again and again each time the 3 year "lease" is up.. yeah that would make for some really unstable adults there.. So the only people id ever feel sorry for that could be in your life, are your children , because they are the ones learning from the pig headedness of an immature little boy for a father.. that is going to in turn not raise them to be have moarals and values, instead they will be raised to believe people can be thrown away like trash when ur done using them for your purpose.. great going DAD.. heck in their case maybe their mom should trade ya in for a new dad.. they'd have a better chance of being "Responsible, Moralistic" human beings ....

Answer 4

It is also quite possible that there is a majority among media workers, public relations consultants and politicians (all of whom represent us better than we represent ourselves) who are in favour of redefining marriage, since these people are largely there because they are on a mission. It is also quite likely that of these 660,000 people opposing the redefinition of marriage, most are in favour of civil partnerships attracting the same rights in law as marriages, and are quite relaxed about what gay folk get up to in the privacy of their homes, believing it has nothing to do with public life or ability to do a job. There are those who feel that equality does not go far enough, and that siblings that have spent their lives together should not be caned for Inheritance Tax should one of them die first. What straights decide to call their committed lifelong partnerships should not concern gay folk. It is a bit of an insult to the gay community that they have to go back to an outmoded straight word, when they have the opportunity to make their own term a purer form of love than marriage could ever achieve. The overwhelming majority I believe are fed up with this issue taking up parliamentary time when there are so many more important and urgent things that need to be tackled. I believe myself that the State should bow out of the administration of marriage entirely, and leave it to the faith groups. The State can therefore no longer define or redefine marriage. Registration of a marriage creates a civil partnership, and with it the legal rights this attracts, and those entitled to enter into a civil partnership are much broader than those entitled to enter into a marriage. There would no longer be any Registry Office weddings, since all the Registry Office does is to register a civil partnership. There is nothing stopping the couple solemnising their partnership in any way they feel appropriate though.

Answer 5

If you have been married for 8 years... obviously you are happy ?... or maybe you've been cheating every year after your 3 years together ? ..

if you post a question.. you might as well be prepared to get answers...

marriage is a life time commitment.. not a car that you buy and change after 3 years.. because you don't like the size, colour etc... if you can't commit.. don't marry...

a spouse is a human being.. not a 'thing'....

Answer 6

I can't say I totally agree because I am happily married, but I do see your point. It only takes a minute to get into marriage and it takes so long and so much money to get out of it.......but, on the other hand, marriage is an option, it isn't something you are made to do, so it is your choice when you make it and my marriage vows said....TILL DEATH DO YOU PART.........good luck though

Answer 7

This is why most men arent allowed to be in charge of anything lone less the world. I suppose you would want extended warranties, maintenance agreements, coupons for discounted oil changes, etc. too. What about trade in values and extended mileage cars? You are definitely the reason why this would work for wives. You definitely have way too much time on your hands if this is the best you can come up with to solve the worlds relationship problems.

Answer 8

When you took your vows I think it said "till death do us part". That's what mine said anyway. If all you would want is a temp you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. You are not marriage material. I don't feel sorry for your wife, she can exorcise her right to leave your sorry ***. But praise God for the fact that your not my husband. In fact when my husband and I went to be married, hi's statement was "I'm here for my life sentence". That's what marriage is, if ya don't like it then just don't get married in the first place. Your just not marriage material.

Answer 9

When dating my husband I told him that he was "leasing with an option to buy" so I guess this is not that far off. A lease is a bad idea. What you need is a refinancing agreement. After three years you refinance your marraige and decide if it is worth the amount you are currently putting in or do you need a new mortgage.
Okay, I'm now offically bankrupt. But this was fun.

Answer 10

Do you mean changing rules as far as?.... because as far I am concerned, you do whatever you want in your marriage, you can renew your vows every month if you want, nobody has the right to oppose to it.

I think is a great thoght though.

Answer 11

Actually I am a guy and I feel sorry for her. What is your problem? I you are unhappy with your marriage either work with your wife to make it better or do both of yourselfs a favor and move on.