ive come around to the idea of my wife not loving me anymore but im not goin to just go out and find someone straight away cos i think it doesnt have much of a meaning if i did that to the marriage we once had so ive asked if she would like to stay friends as shes in the house we own and to make love still without the meaning of love being involved,is it wrong or right
2006-09-01 07:40:57 · 38 answers · asked by GEOFF R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes it would be cheating.
2006-09-01 07:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by nanny2 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like a very bad idea to me. You both need to make a clean break and get on with your respective lives without the baggage of an ex getting in the way. It might take a while to get used to be ing single again, but I'm sure it will be worth it in the end.
2006-09-01 08:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by geminipetelondon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that actually you haven't really come to terms with the ending of your marriage. Here's something to consider: do you really think that you can truly get over her and move on if you're still sleeping with her? Will it help you to get to a position where you are ready to start seeing other people?
Sleeping with an ex keeps the ties with them - it is a comfortable thing to do, but often it just keeps hope alive for one of the people involved. It might be hard to cut the ties, but it is necessary in order to truly move on, and the best thing to do in the long run if the relationship is really over.
2006-09-01 07:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a good idea, you and your ex wife need to move on in life, you cannot do this whilst still sleeping together, by all means be friends but don't use each other for sex.
2006-09-01 07:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by Candy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can't call it making love if you not using the word love you should of said she can live in the house and you all could just have sex every once in awhile. And if you guys are splitting up why would you even want to still have sex with her or why would she want to have sex with you . I think it is wrong.
2006-09-01 07:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any reason for it to be wrong for as long as the feeling is mutual.. She is still your wife anyway, even if you call her ex,, the fact that you still live in the same house. You do not have a girl and she do not have a boyfriend...
Go for it... she may just be needing iBt as much as you do..But lovemaking is much so different than just having sex..
2006-09-01 07:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its wrong to sleep with your ex wife. Its too much baggage and too many feeling still involved. Get over it and move on. It will be a lot more satifying. If you stay with her in any respect you will be unable to move on totally.
2006-09-01 08:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? You that desperate for a piece? Your question is a sorry statement my friend. Doing the ex may come back and haunt you further down the road.
2006-09-01 08:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is this is your way of letting yourself down slowly? The thing with this situation is...if you're trying to get over her, continuing to have contact with her and sleeping with her will only prolong the process. Why not take time alone for yourself to get over her and when you're ready, you can start dating again? Only a suggestion.
2006-09-01 08:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex to me is an act out of love - so to me, it's a NO.
I'm also thinking how you will handle the relationship when you or her meet somebody one day. Remember you will still be in the same house.
Sort out your finances first if you really think you cannot work at it anymore.
2006-09-01 07:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you two are still living together now you want to still continue having sex with her. Sounds like you want to continue being married. What does it hurt though the worst thing is she will say No!
2006-09-01 07:51:15 · answer #11 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋